Are You Sabotaging Your Own Prosperity? When your own limiting beliefs about money keep you from using the information and resources you already have, you never feel financially secure. • Dissolve beliefs that interfere with your financial effectiveness • Reclaim energy you waste worrying about money and not doing anything about it • Start using the information about creating wealth that you already have • Confidently make financial decisions that support your highest priorities • Uncover and enjoy what truly gives you pleasure You deserve the joy and satisfaction of knowing you’re creating your own financial security! Discover and use the three magic Logosynthesis sentences that have opened these doors for thousands of individuals around the world. “Embrace Prosperity: Resolve Blocks to Experiencing Abundance reveals the savvy secrets of eliminating blocks to financial success with just a few words. Brilliant!” Dame Doria Cordova, Owner/CEO of Money & You® / Excellerated Business Schools®
Are you someone who feels as if you never have enough money—no matter how much money you have in your life? When you experience that uncomfortable feeling, you tend to constantly focus on how to make more—or to keep from losing what you already have. That focus keeps you from enjoying what you have now. It also keeps you from planning realistically for the future. I deliberately used the word ‘feel’ here, but the truth is, that type of feeling is not really a feeling at all. It is a belief, and often it is a belief that has very little relationship to reality. It may be a conclusion you reached about the world when you were a child. Often when children, who haven’t yet developed much reasoning skill, overhear adult conversations, strange things happen. This is especially true when they hear emotional arguments. When those arguments are about money, they reach conclusions based on very fragmented and often inaccurate information. Those conclusions become the limiting beliefs that keep you stuck in scarcity, unable to even recognize the abundance you could enjoy. We wrote Embrace Prosperity: Resolve Blocks to Experiencing Abundance to help you recognize and resolve those limiting beliefs so you can experience the joy and abundance you crave. It is easier than you think. Start now!
My husband and I started making required minimum withdrawals from our retirement accounts 14 years ago. (Yes, we are that old ????) I was shocked when looked at where we stand now. The records I saw started when we transferred our retirement funds into this system 20 years ago, although we started saving money for retirement when we were in our 30s. We follow the advice of a conservative financial advisor and are mostly invested in a variety of mutual funds. He has constantly reminded us that markets go up and down and to hang in there during the bad times, such as the 2008 recession when the funds lost almost half their value. The numbers I looked at showed that we had already withdrawn about 90% of the money we started with! But what is even more shocking is that our funds are currently worth nearly double the amount that we started with 20 years ago. Logically, I understand what happened. Emotionally it feels like magic. I share this because way too many people keep making excuses about why they can’t save for retirement. Their own blind spots about money keep them from doing what they know is important. Our book, “Embrace Prosperity: Resolve Blocks to Experiencing Abundance” helps you get past those blocks. Get your copy now!
Is trying to meet others’ expectations interfering with your personal experience of abundance? It may be easier for you to do what other people want than to think about what you want and risk the consequences of stating your own wants and asking for anyone else to help you get what would be truly satisfying to you. You won’t experience abundance unless what you receive is aligned with what you want, whether it is an experience or an object. The problem is often what you imagine another person—a friend, a parent or a spouse—will do if you ask for what you want. Your imagination may be based on some memory about what happened when you were assertive in the past or it may be pure conjecture on your part. In any case, you have energy stuck in that image. You need that energy to flow freely in order to use it to achieve your own satisfaction. In Embrace Prosperity, we help you focus on what is most important to you and then help you find where your energy is stuck and how to use the Logosynthesis® methods to free your energy for your own use—to ask—and receive! So, if you are ready to look at your abundance issues in an entirely different way, get started now.
How often are you so scared of making a mistake that you freeze and do nothing? You might do this by gathering so much information about possible choices that you feel confused and exhausted and promise yourself you will decide later, but later never comes. When I get into the second position, it is usually because I am trying to make the perfect decision. Sometimes I can take much too long to decide which item to buy at the grocery store because I am trying to make the best possible choice. I have even been known to give up because I can’t decide. On the surface it makes no sense at all. The decision will make no noticeable difference in the quality of my life. When I look more carefully though, I see a teen-aged me staring at a crack while my father berates me for making a mistake. I have used the Logosynthesis sentences in the past to recover my energy from that scene, but sometimes the old habit of trying for perfection reappears and I need to use the sentences again. Even this near magical process does not work perfectly—and that is okay! Just use it as often as you need it and enjoy the relief and relaxation. We wrote this to help you learn how!
A belief in scarcity is not your fault. When you are small you have very little idea that you could possibly think differently than the people who take care of you. After all, they explain the world to you—usually because they want you to be safe and happy. As co-authors of this book, Willem and I decided to share our very different personal journeys from experiencing scarcity to experiencing abundance in our lives. We both grew up in loving families who, because of outside circumstances, did not have a lot of money. Along the way, we followed the instructions we were given—until we didn’t. What we were doing led to the recognition that different beliefs about money existed in the world than the ones we had been taught. It happened to Willem in a flash of insight and to me more gradually, but it happened because we were each attending to our own personal growth and development. We wrote this book to help you experience similar awakening experiences. The book is filled with activities to help you examine and release the experiences that keep you stuck in your old beliefs about the world. You’ll learn how to use Logosynthesis©, to deliberately release those beliefs much more quickly than we could. Get your copy and start right away!
Have you ever tried to see your back in the mirror? If you twist enough you can see some parts of it but generally, it doesn’t work very well. Sometimes trying to see what is stopping you from getting something you want produces the same result. When you are on a path to achieve something and somehow, something repeatedly gets in your way, it just may be something you don’t understand about yourself. You may be struggling with a limiting belief about yourself or the world you adopted long ago and no longer even remember. Carolyn, approaching retirement age, believed that when she put money in the bank it disappeared—forever. She knew she believed that when she was a child but had no idea how much that idea kept her from enjoying the benefits she had earned. You can read her story and tidbits about many other people in “Embrace Prosperity: Resolve Blocks to Experiencing Abundance.” We wrote the book to share how these ordinary people were able to see their own limiting beliefs and RESOLVE them. Activities we share helped them, and can help you, use the amazing power of just 3 sentences to move past the ways you keep yourself from fully enjoying life. Don’t wait any longer. Get started now.
We had a miserable, smelly sewage backup in our basement last week. The plumber came and cleared the line and suggested we call the mitigation company to repair the damage. When the company representative checked the problem, he showed us the that the walls were damaged and contaminated and parts of them needed to be replaced. Then he told us that home insurance usually covered that kind of damage. After a quick Better Business Bureau check and a call to our insurance company we told him to go ahead. They cleaned the worst part of the mess removed wall segments and set up drying fans. Now we are awaiting a call from the reconstruction crew. For us, what could have been a major disaster has become merely an inconvenience. Still, we have a $1500 deductible to cover before the insurance company will pay for anything. That is where prosperity comes in. We have a reserve so covering that extra expense won’t impact anything else we choose to do. One definition of prosperity is to have a large enough reserve that unexpected expenses like car repairs, and medical bills can be easily managed. Willem and I created Embrace Prosperity to show you how to remove your blocks to creating prosperity in your own life. Get your copy today.
Should I or shouldn’t I take the time to do the physical therapy exercises prescribed to help me strengthen my back? Of course, I should, but… I was overscheduled and only had a few minutes between appointments, and I was tired and hungry. I had not checked my messages in at least 4 hours and expected some information relevant to my next meeting. But I had made a commitment to do the exercises… Once again, the urgent won out over the important—I skipped the exercises right then. And I skipped them once more during the day. I did manage to fit most of them in before I finally got to bed. I found the energy to do the exercises, even though I was tired because they are part of a bigger vision; to enjoy traveling again soon. If I can’t walk comfortably, I can’t enjoy many of the things I love doing. Do you face similar dilemmas? How can you change the pattern of skipping something that has a long-term benefit because of a short-term commitment? If you are having trouble doing what will help you fulfil your vision doing The Timeline Experiment in Embrace Prosperity: Resolve Blocks to Experiencing Abundance is a wonderful tool to help you find the energy you need to create your dream.
Do you have a plan to create financial independence? Do you even know what those words mean? I didn’t until I was in my 40s. Financial independence means getting the money you need to live on without needing to work for pay or be dependent on others. Just imagine waking up every day and choosing how you will spend your time without needing to work! There are lots of different ways to do this, but it rarely happens accidentally. An amazing abundance of resources are available to help you achieve this goal. But, and it’s a big but, if you believe you should be thinking of other things, or that money is dirty, or that you’ll always need to struggle for your money, you will never learn to use those resources. That’s because your energy is frozen into patterns that do not serve you, and you may not even be aware of the problem. That’s why we wrote Embrace Prosperity: Resolve Blocks to Experiencing Abundance (Rapid Relief with Logosynthesis.) We know how common this is, and that you can learn to release that frozen energy using the power of the Logosynthesis sentences. And it isn’t nearly as hard or scary as you imagine. Release the blocks and start planning for your financial independence now. You can do it!
Imagine that you woke up tomorrow feeling financially stable and secure. What would be different in your life? Would your THOUGHTS change? Maybe instead of thinking about whether you could afford to repair your car you would just think about the most convenient time to bring it into the repair shop. Maybe you would think about having dinner delivered instead of wondering how you will find time to cook it. Would you FEEL any different than you do now? Maybe instead of feeling tense and worried when think about how you are going to pay for the medication your doctor suggested, you will feel excited that you can finally get the relief you need. What would you DO differently? Would you buy exactly what you want instead of looking for the best possible deal and hoping it goes on sale soon? Would you work less? Would you hire a housekeeping service so you would have more free time? There is a big difference between worrying about scarcity and enjoying abundance. It is different for you than it is for anyone else. Getting clear about what you value and dissolving the barriers to getting it can be an exciting adventure. Start now and do the activities explained in Embrace Prosperity that will move you closer to your imagined experience.
Are you someone who keeps planning to set up a plan to pay off your credit cards or some other debt, but never seems to get around to it? Of course, there are reasons—an unexpected repair bill, a special occasion—but somehow you just can’t manage to get it done. Do you know that the things you learned (or didn’t learn) about money when you were a child may be the reason you can’t seem to reach your goals? I was reminded of this when I read an article, “12 Money Mistakes You’re Teaching Your Kids” (huffpost.com). The first mistake is that money is a taboo topic. If it’s never talked about, you learn to muddle through on your own. Until recently it was very difficult to overcome a belief that boils down to “I shouldn’t talk about money.” Now, using the basic Logosynthesis sentences, it is quick, easy, and painless to release this belief and others that keep you stuck and block you from doing the things you keep intending to do. Please read "Embrace Prosperity: Resolve Blocks to Experiencing Abundance" and learn to do this yourself so you can begin your own journey to participating in the coming post-pandemic prosperity and creating the abundance you want and deserve.
Don't feel ashamed of being stuck in scarcity. In much of the world, you’re surrounded by a culture that repeatedly tells you that you don't have enough. Small children happily share anything they have. They must be taught to hoard what they have because there is not enough. They don’t understand that the family needs to use money to replace the possessions they would give away to others. That’s the beginning. Everything becomes a competition. In grade school, only the group that gets done first gets the reward. Later, grading is on a curve and you’re always wondering where you fit. You are urged to get more and more stuff, with the promise that it will bring you happiness. Of course, it won't... If I let down my own awareness, I am prone to feeling guilty because I am not buying enough stuff to make my contribution to something...I am not sure what. Becoming aware of the energy fields around you is one step toward reclaiming your own energy and searching for what will bring true joy and satisfaction. Discovering your true life work is another. This becomes your lifetime guideline. Use Embrace Prosperity, to learn how Logosynthesis processes can help you take these steps and engage in learning how to experience and achieve true abundance for yourself.
Imagine yourself managing unexpected expenses calmly and easily. Is that easy for you to do, or do you immediately think of lots of reasons why that couldn’t possibly happen? Almost everyone immediately thinks of obstacles that need to be surmounted before they have enough resources to be that comfortable. The truth is that there are lots of very real obstacles to achieving financial security. Some of those obstacles are truly beyond your control. Covid 19 has created huge financial problems for many people, but the end of the pandemic is in sight. Many of the obstacles you thought of have much more to do with your own beliefs. Those beliefs keep you stuck instead of exploring possibilities in a world in which some people seem to easily achieve their goals and others are repeatedly frustrated. When you examine those beliefs about not having enough time, knowledge, skill, or luck, you’ll probably realize how much they are based on other people’s views of the world. If you change the beliefs that keep you from seeing new possibilities, there is a real option for creating a different future for yourself. Using Logosynthesis® makes it much easier to resolve the beliefs that block you from experiencing abundance. We created Embrace Prosperity: Resolve Blocks to Experiencing Abundance to help you navigate your journey.
Claudia wanted to know if she would be able to retire. She and her husband talked to a financial advisor who asked them to list how much money they had saved. She tried to make a list of their financial assets, but her husband kept finding excuses to avoid giving her the information that only he knew. Do you ever wonder why it's hard to talk about money? I learned that I shouldn’t ask money questions many years ago when my mother kept changing the subject when I wanted to know why we couldn't afford something. I had to freeze that curious part of myself to not get into trouble in my family. I’ll bet something similar happened to you. In one way or another you learned to avoid talking about money. So now, unless you have learned differently, you may find it hard to talk to anyone about money matters, whether they are trivial or very, very important. If you want to create and enjoy prosperity, it is important to have those conversations. You need to release your own blocked and frozen energy to get information and make useful financial decisions. You’ll find the information you need about how to use Logosynthesis to release your blocks to having those conversations in Embrace Prosperity: Resolve Blocks to Experiencing Abundance.
Has this pandemic has changed the way you think about abundance? I was surprised by one of my own reactions today. I stopped at a big box store to pick up a gift that I had ordered on the internet. I noticed how bright the store was and how it was filled with bright, colorful things. I was not in a hurry and the store was not crowded. Everyone I saw was observing appropriate precautions. BC (Before Covid), whenever I had a few minutes in a place like this I would thoroughly enjoy wandering around, looking at the creative displays and finding things to take home with me. Today was different. I actually cringed! I had absolutely no desire to look at anything. I knew I did not need anything. I picked up my packages and left quickly. As I drove away, I passed by several other places where I once might have stopped and brought home some sort of a treat to share with friends. Instead of stopping I went directly home. I am not sure whether this is a permanent shift in what I value—which I know is connection with others—or a temporary reaction to something else. I will pay attention. I urge you to notice your own behaviors. Are you changing too?
Is something you learned about money when you were a child making you sabotage your finances today? One way to check is to think about what you heard about money when your parents were talking to each other or their friends about the subject. Were they worrying about how they were going to pay the bills? Were they arguing about one person spending too much? Were they complaining that they couldn’t get ahead? What conclusions did you reach when you overheard these conversations? Perhaps that money is scarce. Perhaps that you should not ask for anything? Perhaps that you should spend money quickly before someone else did. What happened when you asked for money or for something you wanted? Were you told you had to earn it yourself? Did you get whatever you asked for? Were you told that money does not grow on trees? All of these things have a lasting impact on you. You might simply make decisions about what your financial life is going to be like based on all the things you experienced about money then. Once you make those decisions, they become frozen instructions you faithfully follow and never think about again. The activities in Embrace Prosperity give you a roadmap to examine and change those frozen blocks to experiencing abundance in your life now.
What would you decide if you could save over $200 by having a surgical procedure on a deeply meaningful religious holiday? Of course, it would depend on your financial situation and your personal religious commitment. There is no right answer to this question. But suppose you did not even need to consider the money? I am grateful that when I needed to make this decision, I immediately said to schedule the procedure at the time that allowed me to participate in the religious observance. It was not always this way! My parents survived the depression and taught me to be thrifty and save my money for important things, like college. That could never have enabled me to become financially independent. In fact, I did not even know what financial independence meant. Do you? I was severely limited by the well-meaning instructions I dutifully followed. And I might never have even known it if I had not stumbled across a workshop that told me I needed a financial independence account and how to start one. It can take years to learn what holds you back from experiencing the kind of abundance that is possible for you. Or you can discover and release those blocks quickly and make good use of the information you already have. Start reading Experiencing Abundance now.
I solved the challenge of too much month and not enough money long ago. Successfully mastering lessons about money lets me live comfortably without needing to constantly focus on creating an income, but other areas of my life are still rather messy. Living in the same house for 50 years has created the challenge of too much stuff and not enough space. (I really am letting stuff go a bit at a time.) I struggle with the challenge of too much information and not enough time every day, and now I have another rather unusual challenge. My deep desire now is to share what I have learned that helps people create a world in which children get what they need to survive and thrive. Lately, that translates into publishing the Secrets of Happy Relationships book series and the Rapid Relief with Logosynthesis® series. All of these books are now available in audio, as well as ebook and print formats. When a colleague showed me how to make the audio books available on many platforms, I jumped at the chance. Now I am challenged by the unexpected consequences of my choice. To invite book reviews, each book comes with 100 free audio books. Now I need to figure out how to give away 900 audio books. Share your ideas here: Laurie@LaurieWeiss.com
Every time I go into my living room, I see a beautiful, hand knotted Tibetan rug. It brings life to an otherwise unremarkable room. I didn’t plan to buy it. It seemed like an extravagant purchase, and I still experience abundance each time I encounter it. I stumbled across it when we were on vacation. I couldn’t decide whether it truly resonated with me or if I wanted it just because of the merchant’s sales pitch. We left the shop continue to explore and I asked myself the question "Is this a beckon or a hum?" It’s a question I often explore. It helps me decide whether the choice I am considering is right for me. A beckon is the pull of energy coming from outside myself; the “non-me energy” that is addressed in the second of the three Logosynthesis sentences. It influences me to move away from essence, the core of my being. A hum is something that arises from within and guides me toward something that enhances my life and my connection to essence. Sometimes it takes time to decide which is which—and cost isn’t relevant. Beckons tend to fade when I get out of their range. I couldn’t stop thinking about the rug and an hour later we returned and bought it. I’m glad I did.
My definition of abundance is changing. I once considered having lots of attractive clothes important, and I used to love to shop for more. But now, as a friend observed, my clothes are on vacation. In this time of Covid, I rarely leave my home for anyplace besides a grocery store, exercise or a health maintenance appointment of some kind. I live in a very casual place where wearing jeans or shorts is normal for those activities. I no longer have multiple opportunities to “play dress-up.” And so, I have needed to shift my energy to other things. Once those opportunities were not available, I recognized that what mattered in those “dress-up” occasions was the richness of human connections I enjoyed. Now, I was threatened with a scarcity of people. In this new way of living, nurturing those connections that I am still able to manage, mostly electronically, takes much more time and energy. When I do walk by a clothing store, I am not very interested in going in. How has your life changed? Are there things that you used to value that are no longer important. If you are trying to sort out these changes, read Embrace Prosperity: Resolve Blocks to Experiencing Abundance and discover what prosperity means to you now.
Do you talk to anyone about money? Maybe it's your parents. Mine told me, "Money doesn't grow on trees." Perhaps it's a colleague, "How much more do they expect us to cut back?" or your spouse, "How much did you say you spent on THAT?" Or perhaps you avoid the subject entirely and keep hoping everything will be fine or feeling scared that disaster is just around the corner. How do the beliefs these statements and thoughts represent help you create a happy and satisfying life? For most people the answer is “not very much.” Do you suspect that you could do a much better job addressing your financial life, if only... The "if only" is different for different people. It's often related to needing more time or having information you can trust. In any case, your energy is blocked, and you are not doing what you are pretty sure would improve your life. It isn’t as hard as you think to reclaim that blocked energy and start using it for improving your situation. The excerpt from Embrace Prosperity: Resolve Blocks to Experiencing Abundance that I have included with this article contains one of the many “Practicing Abundance” activities included in the book to help you get started reclaiming your energy. Get the excerpt and start right away.
Why bother? In a world that is so very different than we expected it to be, it is very hard for many people to stay motivated. When Elaine took a 48-hour "vacation" from her phone, she realized how she had been neglecting the jewelry making that had been so important to her before…before the pandemic had turned the world upside down. The store that sold her creations had not re-opened and and probably never would. People weren’t buying clothes and jewelry anyway, because the events where they would show off those things had been cancelled. Her energy was frozen, and she had been using the distractions in her phone to avoid thinking about how discouraged she felt. When we explored the triggers for this situation, we discovered a belief that “nothing I do matters.” When she repeated the three Logosynthesis sentences focused on that belief, she remembered a scene where her father had insisted that she study something ‘useful’ in school instead of pursuing her dream of becoming an artist. Once we recovered her energy that had been locked in that memory, she started to think about new possibilities. If you suspect that your energy is stuck somewhere, I invite you to try the “Practicing Abundance” exercise that is included in this excerpt from “Embrace Prosperity.”
Do you have less energy now than you had when you did not need to think about how to safely navigate your world to avoid being exposed to the virus? If so, you are part of a growing crowd. At a virtual community meeting this morning, several participants shared how tired they were. After many months of living in the world of Covid 19, they did not want to pay attention to details of long- term planning. Their attention was focused much more on details of daily life. They were all surviving comfortably, but no one seemed to be thriving. I was reminded of the research about 'bandwidth' that I visited while preparing this book, Embrace Prosperity, and are described in this excerpt. We were looking at how others viewed the problem of personal financial sabotage. When examined as an issue of each of us having a finite amount of mental resources, it made sense. When you use your resources to ensure your safety, you don’t have them available for other things. Fortunately, you can increase your bandwidth and start making your life easier now (and later.) Old beliefs that no longer serve you contribute to the energy drain. Practicing the simple abundance exercises we offer in this book let you reclaim that energy to use now.
Have you taken a class about money management? Have you carefully studied methods to get more clients or customers? Do you have books on your shelves about how to get rich? Is this information that you have learned but have not gotten around to using yet? You tell yourself you will, but for whatever reason, you just don't! You are certainly not alone. A client recently told me that it took him 4 years to take action on an important money decision. And he didn't do it until he realized that his vision of the risk involved was connected to his grandfather. When he imagined would happen if he did what he knew was important for him to do, he flashed on the family story of his grandfather who had lost money in what he believed was a safe investment. The day after he used the Logosynthesis sentences to retrieve his energy from this story he took the first step toward his goal. The sentences are at the end of the excerpt that accompanies this article, and information about how to use them to resolve whatever blocks you may have to experiencing abundance in your own life are in Embrace Prosperity Book. Get your copy now and start using the information you have already collected to achieve your dreams.
Have you noticed the shift in focus from 'how do we get through this' to what is going to happen next? The media has shifted its attention, people are figuring out how to come out of quarantine, and the trees are now fully leafed out where I live. We are beginning to re-imagine our futures. Some people will be trying to re-create the past but when I asked, "How will you measure prosperity once the pandemic is over?" on Facebook, not one of the 16 people who responded mentioned money. (You can see the post at facebook.com/laurieweiss on May 25th. Abundance may be measured differently from now on. What is available to us has certainly changed over the past few months. Since nobody really knows how things are going to be a few months from now, this is an ideal time to think about what you want most. If you know your life mission it is easier to imagine what abundance will look like for you and to start (or continue) to work toward it. If you keep thinking about what you have lost, the Logosynthesis process we explain in Embrace Prosperity can help you reclaim your energy and move on into your creativity. It will also show you a variety of ways to start experiencing abundance now.
"How can you think about abundance at a time like this?" We are in a situation that is new to all of us, and old messages are rampant! When we don't know what is going to happen next, we are extra vulnerable to these old, unexamined beliefs we have picked up from others. When your safety is threatened, you try to protect yourself. Those voices from the past may seem like a refuge, but you’re vulnerable to getting stuck in unexamined beliefs that really don't help solve anything. What makes it worse for me is that during the time I feel most threatened , and need the tools I have used in the past to regain my equilibrium, it is hard to remember that those tools exist. Fortunately, I do eventually remember. I hope you do too. If you have used the 3 Logosynthesis sentences to help you release those old, limiting beliefs, you know how powerful they are. Use this as a reminder to use them regularly. If you don’t yet have this tool, this book will help you learn to use it. What better time is there to learn to release old beliefs that keep you from making the best possible use of this in between time to learn to take better care of yourself?
Can you measure prosperity with toilet paper? How do you think the idea that you might run out of toilet paper unless you bought a huge supply got started? I remember being warned prepare for the pandemic by having enough supplies on hand to last for two weeks. Paper goods were mentioned as part of those supplies. Did you start to feel a little bit anxious? I know I did. Apparently some people were more anxious than others. In fact, they must have been terrified. Instead of buying what they needed for a few weeks, they bought much, much more. That buying created the scarcity they feared. Suddenly there was not enough for the rest of us, so searching for more became an obsession--even for people who already had a supply. Is it possible that the belief that you need more and more money to have enough is just as unnecessary as the belief that you need more and more toilet paper to be safe? If you usually think your prosperity depends on how much money you have, maybe it's time to think differently. When you reclaim your own energy and start thinking of other possible ways you may be prosperous, you'll discover that you may be far more prosperous than you imagined.
I have recently had conversations with two different, highly skilled, professional women about how their former husbands had cheated them and left them in dire financial straits. Each woman was, quite naturally, frightened about the future and both were feeling frustrated and exhausted. One was jumping from distraction to distraction and getting very little done. She told me details of all the ways she had done the right thing in her life but had been so unfairly treated. Her energy was frozen in "this belief that life should be fair" and I helped her release the frozen energy using the Logosynthesis sentences and she immediately felt more focused. The other was blaming herself for blindly accepting her husband’s deceptions over the years. She was focused and intent on solving her problem, but in the current time of pandemic, nothing was working. Her energy was frozen in "this belief that I should have known what was happening." Using that trigger as she said the sentences let her relax and slow down and rest. In times of uncertainty, it often feels like the safest thing to do is to stick to what you "know" is true. Unfortunately, this may be an old belief that has very little to do with your current situation. Try releasing it and see what happens.
"What am I going to do today that I will be glad that I did 3 months from now?" I heard this on a webinar that was urging me to respond to this changed (and scary) world by using my time to get ready for what is coming next. I was already doing that. I have been avoiding working on updating my website for months and now I am deep into doing it. That speaker clearly does not believe in scarcity. He, like me, is an author and expects lots of people to read his books in the future. So, if you are someone who cowers when the finances of your world are disrupted, you are certainly not alone. But some people cower more than others. It's not their fault--or yours. Uncertainty is rampant AND IF YOU HAVE BEEN TAUGHT TO BELIEVE IN SCARCITY, you are reacting to it. Do you want to learn a new way to respond--to truly embrace what is possible? I know this may seem like a strange time to think about abundance but during this pause, why not? Decide what you will do now that you will be glad you did in 3 months. Reading this book will help. Get yours now.
How do I introduce this new book? I found lots of passages I want to share but decided to just let you in on the beginning—chapter 1. The first time I put a book into the world, I was terrified about how exposed I was. I wondered whether anyone would read it. I wondered if anyone would like it. I wondered what people would think of me! That was a long time ago. The book (about Codependency) is still selling and over time sold 40,000 copies. But that experience of terror seems to be quite common among first time authors. That was the last time I did a book with a co-author. For book #13, my experience is much less scary. Two professionals can offer checks and balances, but I still wonder how this new offering will be received. One reason it’s easier for me now, is that I ask for lots of early reader feedback, and the feedback really helps. The reviews that are beginning to come in are quite wonderful. If you are one of the many people who wishes you were not so stressed about money, learning a completely new way to deal with that stress will make a huge difference. I invite you to get your copy right away.
If you’re tired of being told to just let go of things that bother you—but you don’t know how—you will love this book! Using this brief, step-by-step guide, discover three little-known, magical sentences to effortlessly release anxiety and toxic stress in just minutes and reclaim the joy in your life. The revolutionary new technique revealed in Letting It Go: Relieve Anxiety and Toxic Stress in Just a Few Minutes Using Only Words (Rapid Relief with Logosynthesis®) shows you how to actually let go of whatever is bothering you—easily, effectively and often permanently. In an ever-faster moving world, people often feel like their lives are falling apart. They secretly worry that not being able to keep up means there is something wrong with them. This reassuring, easily understood explanation of complicated psychological information reveals how normal it is to feel this way—how everyone’s energy naturally gets stuck in the process of growing up and learning to manage the world. The challenge of letting go of that old, stuck energy becomes manageable. You are hugely relieved as you discover you can easily learn and apply this process yourself—either privately or with a learning partner. Then you experience the freedom that comes from effortlessly managing previously distressing situations and even forget to worry about things you used to obsess about. This leads to reclaiming the life energy and the joy you long for.
Recently, many things went wrong for me at the same time! Most of them where electronic—I won’t go into the details here—none were life or health threatening—but I was approaching meltdown. I definitely wasn’t thinking clearly. I am generally pretty calm, but I had activated all kinds of old messages, blaming myself, blaming my webmaster, blaming my internet provider and imagining several different kinds of disastrous outcomes. If you get into situations like this, what I did next may be useful to you. I tried to use the Logosynthesis sentences about my sad story, “this internet mess.” Not much happened until I recognized that it wasn’t the mess, the real cause of my upset was my belief that I had (unknowingly) broken a promise to my clients. My energy was stuck in “the belief that breaking a promise is a disaster.” When I used the sentences again, with that as the trigger, I felt calmer and almost immediately thought of several ways I could manage the situation—which turned out not to be such a disaster after all. The lesson for me, once again, (and for you too—if it fits) is that any upset is not necessarily about the external situation, it’s about the belief I may have about that situation.
Isn’t being vaccinated supposed to make me feel less anxious? Why does this feel so weird. We met in person after we were vaccinated but we were all wearing masks and it took courage to take them off. These are some of the comments I have been hearing lately. Digging a little deeper, it seems that most vaccinated people are now more worried about breaking the new social rules than they are about Covid 19. It is entering a new area of uncharted territory. How is the vaccinated class supposed to relate to those who are less fortunate? Nobody really knows and you need to make it up as you go along. And, after so long distancing from others, you are out of practice about how to reconnect. And it’s not just you—it’s like we are all trying to figure out a new set of rules together and we are each a bit nervous about doing it wrong. Logosynthesis and the 3 core sentences you learn to use in Letting It Go will help. Identifying whose disapproval, you worry about will help you identify the trigger you can start with. Then other images and memories may lead you to older scenes you barely remember. Just follow the simple steps and notice how the anxiety dissolves.
While talking about how active engaged people can use Logosynthesis®, the methodology I share in this book, “Letting It Go,” a participant on the Zoom meeting wrote “OMG I need this” in the chat. I was thrilled. I think she recognized that if she shifted her perspective about how she could find relief from stress her life could be so much easier. At least, I hope so. I am making up a story about her and I really don’t have any idea about her motivation. All I really know is that she was attending a program and wrote that statement in the chat. But my mind, like yours, tried to fill in the blanks. Sometimes the stories we make up help us feel safe and happy and sometimes they can make us miserable. Even if you recognize that a story you are telling yourself isn’t necessarily true, it may be hard to let it go. That is where this amazing process comes in. When you start looking at the story as simply frozen energy, you can use the power of the words in the three simple sentences of the basic Logosynthesis process to release the energy that is stuck and relax. Get started today. You too can be amazed--and much happier.
“She has been brainwashed! I just can’t get through to her anymore.” I heard a frustrated woman say this about her sister. Several others chimed in about their frustration in trying to talk to someone who is tuned into different information about the world than they are. Each is completely convinced that the other is WRONG! The conversation went on to explore how it might be possible to “get through to” these brainwashed people. Clearly lots of energy was tied up both in experiencing and trying to solve the problems. I was reminded of my therapy clients who wanted to tell me how WRONG their parents were. Not surprisingly, when they stopped trying to prove themselves RIGHT, they often noticed how much more rational their parents had become. The three core Logosynthesis sentences* provide a wonderful, gentle path to allow anyone to remove personal energy that is stuck in doing the impossible task of changing someone else’s mind. I suggest inserting the trigger phrases, “this belief that she is wrong” or “this belief that it’s my responsibility to change how he is thinking” into the core sentences. That not only retrieves your own energy but allows you to see and interact with the other person differently. Learn different ways to use the sentences* in the “Letting It Go” book.
Are you feeling guilty because your self-discipline is fading? If you are, you can join the crowd of people who are ultimately failing to follow the instructions written in thousands of books and promoted by untold organizations. Sure, you can follow the instructions for a while and look successful, but you are human, and all humans are ultimately motivated to feel as safe and comfortable as possible. So, after a while, you “fall off the wagon.” What you and I believe keeps us safe is different because we’ve each had different experiences that seem threatening during our lives. You freeze a tiny bit of your life energy each time you feel threatened, and you feel uncomfortable whenever you get close to that energy for the rest of your life. The self-discipline advocates bring you closer to that frozen energy. So, when you are tired at the end of a day, you just want to avoid the discomfort of approaching the frozen energy. The only way to make lasting change is to remove that little energy block you created to keep you safe. It used to be quite challenging to do that. Now, using the 3 Logosynthesis sentences, you can release that block quickly and gently. Once the block is gone, there is nothing left to avoid, and change becomes easy.
“Who told you that you were clumsy?” That question, asked when I had stumbled and excused myself with a self-depreciating-statement of “Excuse me, I am just clumsy.” changed my life. It was the first time I realized that I was parroting someone else’s belief about me. The answer was that both my parents had affirmed my clumsiness. That conversation happened many years ago and it was the start of learning to recognize and let go of the beliefs about myself that I had simply accepted from the all-powerful people in my life. Their energy had been frozen into my energy system without any conscious action from me. It happens to all of us when we are children, dependent on others to explain the world to us. It took me years of hard work to discover and release much of the frozen energy in my system. I was amazed when I discovered that Logosynthesis® could help me release and reclaim that energy in minutes by saying just 3 sentences. I wrote “Letting It Go” when I realized that this process did not need to be reserved for professionals, but no books existed that made it available for ordinary people. If your energy is stuck in limiting beliefs you adopted from others, you can use it too. I wrote it for you.
I read advice columnists to learn what people are worried about. Today a woman was distressed because she frequently worried that her husband or baby would die. The columnist reassured her that many people have such thoughts, especially while living through a pandemic. But the advice she offered about what to do next just made me sad. She told the woman that any time she had those thoughts she should divert her attention by smelling her baby's head. That will probably work, but it doesn't do anything about the real problem of the recurring, scary images. The columnist does not know how easily those thoughts can be permanently banished. (I have written to tell her about Logosynthesis but have had no response.) Those thoughts represent frozen energy, possibly triggered when the worried woman thought about how important her husband and baby were to her own happiness and then imagined being without them. (That is just speculation on my part.) In any case, just using the 3 basic Logosynthesis sentences using the scary image of life without one of her loved ones as the trigger would probably provide permanent relief. I just wish that I could let that woman know about this remarkable process. Letting It Go gives you information about the sentences and how to use them.
Are you catastrophizing more than usual? If you are, you’re not alone. A recent Huffington Post article noted that this is one of the top 12 anxiety reactions people are experiencing as they live through this pandemic. Sadly though, worry doesn’t magically keep those bad things from happening. And when you spend time imagining the terrible things that might happen in the future, you lose the chance to respond to what is happening around you now. I know that I am sad about my losses over the past few months. My world is not as I expected it to be or want it to be. I long for close contact with my family and friends and it just isn’t available right now. I suspect that is happening to you also. The more you focus on what you’ve lost and might lose in the future, the worse you are likely to feel. Imagining the worst keeps you isolated from connecting to both your own deepest Self and to others. And it takes a lot of your energy to try to manage your anxious feelings. And you may not know how to change. I invite you to learn to use the Logosynthesis process to reclaim your energy from those scenarios. Then you’ll be able to enjoy what is still available now.
Have you ever watched a baby learn to walk? She will take a tentative step or two, lose her balance, sit down suddenly, get distracted and crawl a bit. Then, perhaps, she'll pull herself up and repeat the process. I have never seen a baby suffer because she plops down almost as often as she takes steps. Yet I have seen too many people who are so afraid of making a mistake or doing something imperfectly, that they miss out on the benefits of using Logosynthesis. (I talk about Logosynthesis here because that is the subject of "Letting It Go." This really applies to learning almost anything new.) This process is very forgiving. If you experiment with it and notice what happens, you will quickly discover that whatever you do, you learn something useful about yourself. The real trick is to learn to simply trust that your true Self will guide you. The more you relax, the easier it will be. There is no correct response. Don’t try to make anything in particular happen. This is about focusing on something you find distressing to allow a process of reclaiming your frozen energy to get started. Experiencing a big shift or nothing at all are both just fine. Relax, get started, and play with the process.
Are you stressed because the holidays will be so different in this year of the pandemic? Are you sad because you are physically isolated from friends and family? Maybe you are longing for the fun of the seasonal parties that are currently forbidden, lest they spread the virus even further and faster. You may be making things worse because of energy frozen into beliefs that things are "supposed to be" a different way than they actually are. Surprisingly, the things you are taught to believe to help you feel safe and comfortable in the world are also triggers for suffering. You usually don’t notice the energy frozen into those positive beliefs about the way things should be. Beliefs like families should be together or we should celebrate together or I should be able to see others’ faces all keep some of your energy frozen. It can’t flow freely and be used to address ordinary daily life. Using the 3 Logosynthesis sentences to release the energy in those positive, healthy beliefs will help you reclaim the energy and drain the stress. State your trigger as ‘this belief that I should spend the holidays with my family’ or something similar. Say the sentences, reclaim your energy and release the stress. You can download the sentences at http://www.BooksByLaurie.com/guide
Sometimes it seems that everything is a threat to you or to something or someone you love. That happens even when you know logically that everything is okay. It does not mean there is something wrong with you, it just means that your brain is doing it’s best to protect you from the dangers your ancestors lived with thousands of years ago. They needed to be constantly alert to survive. Throughout your life, your brain has been creating a library of experiences that once seemed threatening to you—just so it can react quickly if a similar experience shows us again. Each time you encountered something that seemed threatening, you took a bit of your life energy to store it securely in the library. Now the library is filled with a lifetime of these packets of stored energy. Whenever you encounter something that is even a little like your stored experience, your brain perceives a threat and goes on full alert to warn you of danger. The problem is that much of the information stored in the library is out of date and no longer useful. Now you can clear out that old information Using the words in the Logosynthesis sentences helps you to dissolve those frozen energy packets, reclaim the energy, and feel safer and more relaxed.
2020--If you read any newspaper or watch any news during this pandemic, you are stressed. So am I and so are my friends. If you are anything like most people I know, each new report of another disaster leads you to create another image of something awful that might happen to you or the people you care about. You do your best to take care of yourself, but those images of "what if..." keep piling up. It’s even worse if you are living through illness or economic hardship or climate disaster--those images are of what has actually happened. Each of those images steals another little bit of energy. You may feel more and more exhausted because you are using up your energy reserves. It may feel like an insurmountable problem, but with Logosynthesis, each time you say the 3 sentences and use one of those recently acquired images as the trigger for your current reactions, you can reclaim a little bit of that frozen energy. Many people who are new to this process search for the perfect trigger and don’t get full benefit from this wonderful tool. Just start anywhere. Everything you do will help. Find the sentences in my book, Letting It Go, and in the free Reduce Worry program at LaurieWeiss.com and many other places. Just start!
What stories have created in the past that are causing you to feel anxious now? We all create stories to try to explain the world to ourselves. We are especially likely to do this when we are under stress that we don’t have any other way to manage. Each story freezes a bit of energy that keeps you stuck. Even worse, right now much current media is spreading stories designed to scare you and manipulate you into feeling helpless. This may pull you right back to another time in your life when you really were helpless and adds to feeling stuck. If you were not allowed to choose what you wanted to do, and instead told to do what someone else believed was best for you, you may have decided (made up a story) that you aren’t smart enough to figure things out for yourself. But a critical-thinking part of you gets lost (frozen.) It rarely occurs to you to question what others tell you. Now, when the story on social media says you should believe something outrageous, you simply feel scared and pass it on to your friends. When you can use Logosynthesis to reclaim your frozen energy, you learn to think about what is best for you. You no longer need to believe the story you created.
Do you ever wonder why relieving emotional pain seems so complicated? I suspect it has something to do with people trying to protect themselves from things they don't understand. Logosyntheis, the rapid stress and anxiety release process taught in "Letting It Go," is NOT COMPLICATED! It is actually very easy to learn the basic process as a personal, self-care procedure. In the past 15 years, we have lots of evidence that it is quick, safe and effective. Yet many traditional care delivery systems avoid trying new things. The reason given is that they are not researched based or "proven" to be effective. Another is that most traditional systems are based on managing “symptoms,” for example, anxiety or depression. Logosyntheis focuses on the trigger for the symptoms. This trigger is often an image of something painful, real or imagined, that we use energy to try to protect ourselves from experiencing. Encountering that stored energy causes the symptoms, the experience of anxiety, depression or other problems. However, once words are used to gently dissolve that frozen energy, the symptoms disappear. This is the unusual way of relieving suffering that is so relatively new that the research has not yet been done. However, since the process is harmless, many people are discovering its’ effectiveness through books like this. You can too.
I keep reading newspaper articles about how, in this time of Covid, more than half the adults in the US are experiencing anxiety, depression, or other mental health problems. From some perspectives, including mine, these are actually normal reactions to the stress we are all experiencing. That does not make them any less distressing. It is difficult not to react immediately when your safety seems to be threatened. Biologically, that is a healthy, built in survival mechanism. However, you may not have had an opportunity to learn about what to do AFTER your immediate reaction. Your fear reaction then becomes persistent anxiety. Often your reaction includes imagining awful things that might happen, but probably won't. And it is hard to release those images. The 3 sentences of the basic Logosynthesis process help most people remove those troubling images and relax. Contact and physical interaction with other humans is also a biological need. Yet the pandemic keeps many of us isolated from each other. Zoom is better than no contact but does not fully substitute for what we really need. We don’t know when this situation will change. We imagine it continuing forever and feel depressed. Again, Logosynthesis helps you reclaim your energy from those images and feel more comfortable. This book has instructions for using Logosynthesis. Start now.
I keep reading newspaper articles about how, in this time of Covid, more than half the adults in the US are experiencing anxiety, depression, or other mental health problems. From some perspectives, including mine, these are actually normal reactions to the stress we are all experiencing. That does not make them any less distressing. It is difficult not to react immediately when your safety seems to be threatened. Biologically, that is a healthy, built in survival mechanism. However, you may not have had an opportunity to learn about what to do AFTER your immediate reaction. Your fear reaction then becomes persistent anxiety. Often your reaction includes imagining awful things that might happen, but probably won't. And it is hard to release those images. The 3 sentences of the basic Logosynthesis process help most people remove those troubling images and relax. Contact and physical interaction with other humans is also a biological need. Yet the pandemic keeps many of us isolated from each other. Zoom is better than no contact, but does not fully substitute for what we really need. We don’t know when this situation will change. We imagine it continuing forever and feel depressed. Again, Logosynthesis helps you reclaim your energy from those images and feel more comfortable. This book has instructions for using this tool. Start now.
Most people don't believe that you can heal deep pain from trauma without a long and painful struggle. I didn't either, until I helped a young woman do just that. (You can read about the how I did it in the excerpt you either see here or can find at the end of this article.) This happened when I was just beginning to experiment with using Logosynthesis in my clinical practice. My amazement at the power of words to reorganize deep trauma led me to explore it further and eventually to want to share this power with as many people as possible. Now newspaper articles are lamenting the amount of anxiety so many people are feeling because of the repeated traumas of living in world where Covid has made it impossible to rely on things we used to take for granted. The amount of pain many people are trying to deal with is overwhelming. When I wrote “Letting it Go” and “Embrace Prosperity,” my goal was to encourage people who were in pain to experiment with using this powerful but very simple process to relieve their own suffering-- before the current upheaval in the world. If you are currently experimenting with this process, let these books help you. If not, get your copy and get started now.
This is edited from a review. “Our life energy gets stuck when something painful or overwhelming happens to us. We FREEZE to protect ourselves from this pain. There are SO many modalities that claim to help us release this stuck emotional energy… I would say that this is the simplest method by far. I typed a cheat-sheet with the 4 sentences and made a list of triggers and use it daily. I can feel the energy moving in my body. I also take notes and write down images that come up (out of nowhere) for me, so I can say the 4 sentences on those images too. My example: My trigger (X) was: "this fear that has been with me since I can remember" So I sat quietly with each sentence like she instructs. Suddenly an image popped up of me as a young child falling into my grandma's fireplace. WOW! That was Not in my conscious mind. My subconscious mind actually brought up this image as a cause of my fear. I then did the sentences on that image and anything else that came up in the quiet between the sentences. I must say I felt lighter after the process. I do think it will take time going through my triggers, it is not an overnight cure.”
Babies don't arrive with instruction manuals. No matter what even reasonably skilled and well-meaning parents do, by the time you grow up, you are aware of things you wish they had done differently. You may be very angry at your parents for their "failures" or completely sympathetic with them, but still, your job is to clear up whatever gets in the way of letting your true Self guide your life. That means learning to recognize and neutralize reactions that interfere with your life. There are dozens of systems available to help you do the job and if you are reading this you have probably explored many of them. Logosynthesis, the system introduced in Letting It Go, is the easiest and most elegant I had experienced when I encountered it 10 years ago, after a 40-year career as a psychotherapist. I was delighted recently when another author, who takes seriously the job of clearing away her old blocks, told me that she and a friend had been meeting weekly for over a year, using this book as a guide to continuing their self-development work. They had been exploring other tools when she bought a copy of Letting It Go, and then bought another for her friend. The excerpt linked to this article has tips on using Logosynthesis, without professional help.
I don’t indulge in my favorite treats every day. If I did, I would get used to them and they would no longer bring me the extraordinary pleasure they do when I only enjoy them occasionally. It’s all too easy for me to get accustomed to miracles. We all do it when we connect so easily electronically. We only tend to notice when they don’t work properly. In the 10 years since I was first exposed to Logosynthesis, I have gotten so accustomed to daily miracles that I barely notice them. I was reminded of this recently when supervising students practicing Logosynthesis yesterday. The client was a highly skilled professional coach who felt paralyzed in developing the next phase of her business. The guide was a coach who is just learning to use the Logosynthesis process and did so rather awkwardly. The client described feeling stuck as having a tight band around her shoulders. Despite the fumbling, the Logosynthesis process worked spectacularly! In a few sentences the band dissolved and she was dumbfounded, thrilled and ready to take the next step in her business. At the end of the session the client was still saying “I can’t believe what just happened.” Her excitement and wonder reminded me of mine when I experienced my first Logosynthesis miracle.
Is your mind replaying horrific electronic images you have seen in recent news reports? Lately I have been hearing people say, "I just wish I could stop thinking about..." and then they name some recorded video of still another vision of violence. If I know they have read about the process in this book, Logosynthesis, I gently remind them that they can use the image as the trigger they insert into the 3 sentences and reclaim their own energy from the image. Those people usually thank me for the reminder and feel better quickly. (When I first learned to use this process, I too would forget to use it when I needed it most. I am not sure why. Perhaps I forgot because it is so different from anything I had done in the past to reduce stress. In any case I needed a reminder too.) When I overhear acquaintances or strangers talking about trying to manage this kind of stress, I want to tell them that there is an easier way. If I can, sometimes I share information or offer to help on the spot. Most of the time, though, I just wish I could share how easy it can be to release those disturbing images. Have you tried to use the sentences yet? If not, learn how now!
"I still don't understand how I went in five days from being praised and thanked to being accused..." This professional woman went on to explain why she felt she needed to defend herself on social media. Undoubtedly, she was being attacked unfairly and I can completely sympathize with her outrage and confusion. Yet, I fear that she is in a losing situation. She, like others who are attacked in similar situations, has no real power to make anything change. Her attackers will not change their opinions and she already has many supporters. She is likely to keep exerting energy on this until she exhausts herself. I am not implying that some instances of injustice are not worth fighting to change. The problem here is that she feels like she can't let go--that she has no choice except to continue this fight. She is not aware that the 3 Logosynthesis sentences focused on the trigger of being unfairly attacked would help her reclaim her energy that is stuck in this situation. She could then use that energy to clearly think about her options and decide what to do next. Using this powerful process to retrieve her energy from its current frantic focus takes just a few minutes. Anyone can easily learn how! Just follow these instructions.
Are you longing to rewind the clock to a time when you never needed to think about whether it was safe to be with a group of your friends? You are not alone. Right now it's hard to stop believing that life should be the way it was just a few months ago. Yet life is not that way now and it is not likely to be that way again for quite some time. And just thinking about the situation often triggers grief and anger. In this book segment, Ron released his energy from trying to solve an impossible problem like this one by using the Logosynthesis sentences that are taught in Letting It Go. You can get a quick intro to the work at www.BooksByLaurie.com/guide. Most people still believe that you need to keep living with the discomfort of resentment and disappointments replaying themselves over and over again. Fortunately, that isn't true anymore. Learning to use this process is much easier than you think. You will be amazed at what you can learn and start using in just an hour or two. For many people, the belief that triggers so much negative emotion is a variety of, “Life should be the way it used to be.” Try putting that into the sentences and just notice what happens.
Do you now need to wear a mask when you are in a public indoor space? I do. When I wear it, I feel somewhat physically uncomfortable, but I tell myself it is to keep others safe from any virus infection I might spread. I am reassured that their masks keep their possible infections away from me. Early in this pandemic public health officials said mask wearing should be reserved for people who had symptoms or were in contact with people who had symptoms. Then the fact emerged that infections were spread by infected people before they show symptoms caused the advice to change to masks for everyone. Most people I know share my belief, but I do encounter strangers in stores who refuse to wear masks. Some ridicule the officials who changed their stories and insist that they have other motives for their new advice... Some people easily adapt to new information and others are incensed by it. When you don't have enough resources to manage an overwhelming situation, like navigating this strange new world, you freeze your energy around your personal explanation of the situation to protect yourself. If you are someone whose anxiety is triggered when stories change, use the Logosyntheis sentences to retrieve your energy from the old story and make space to accept new information.
Today I have no answers--only questions about responses and reactions to the forced social distancing so many of us have been experiencing. I am among the privileged, and you probably are too. I am "locked down" in a pleasant home with electronic contact with most of the same people with whom I regularly interact. I know I am blessed and yet I am sad. Yesterday, we bent the rules and went for a drive and saw the awakening spring in our beautiful Colorado foothills. I was surprised that my first reaction was tears. I am still not sure why. Perhaps because experiencing that loveliness tapped into a reservoir of frozen painful feelings of loss I have been trying to ignore while making the best of my own situation. Realistically, my life works. I am usually happy and productive. And yet my ability to enjoy safe human contact with others will not return for many more months and I am sad. I use trigger phrases like "this belief that the world should be different" in the Logosynthesis sentences and they help release some locked energy. Yet I still wonder if the sadness that remains is a way of responding to a longing for the past or just a signal that there is no substitute for the energy of physical contact.
As the chiropractor worked on my aching back, I decided to use focus on releasing whatever was the stimulus for those painfully tight muscles. I really was not sure there was any reason besides the lack of my usual physical activity in the swimming pool that had been closed for two weeks. However, I have discovered that often, when I say the Logosynthesis sentences with a general description of the trigger, a more specific description emerges. I focused on "whatever is causing these tight muscles." As I said the first sentence, I felt an overwhelming sense of grief and loss. As I continued through the sentences, I realized how much I missed the regular hugs I normally share with my grandchildren and many of my friends. During this time of the necessary physical isolation to protect everyone from this virus, I have kept myself busy and productive. I have stayed in contact with important people electronically and focused on my blessings. While doing that I have also apparently been freezing my energy about my painful feeling of loss. I did another round of sentences with a new target, "this belief that the world should be different than it is." By the time I finished, I still felt sad, but the overwhelming grief was gone. My back is feeling better too.
You have lots of reasons for feeling stressed and anxious in today's uncertain world. But some of this anxiety may be much worse because of past experiences you barely remember. If you wonder why people around you aren't as upset as you are or if you find yourself feeling very judgmental about others who are not following the rules the way you are, suspect that this is the problem. Often, when you have encounter something difficult or scary, someone helps you solve the problem and you know what do when you run into a similar problem. Unfortunately, sometimes nobody is there to help, you feel overwhelmed, have no idea what to do, so you do your best to forget about it and pay attention to something easier. You use some of your energy to keep that painful memory from messing up your daily life. But then, when something intense happens that is in some way like the early situation you tried to forget, you overreact! You suspect something is strange, but you can’t figure it out. That overreaction happens because the overwhelm from the time nobody could help intensifies your reaction to what is happening now. It’s easier than you think to untangle. How to untangle it is explained clearly in this book. Get it now.
In a world suddenly turned upside down, in ways only science fiction and horror writers could have imagined, I am touched by so many people lovingly offering what help they can give. I too have an offering—actually, two offerings. We have all lost our sense of security and predictability! No one knows what will happen next, but the warnings are dire, and we respond by creating images of the worst possible outcomes for ourselves and those we love. And sometimes those images are intrusive and hard to erase. Depending on your own preferences, one (or both) of these offerings will help you release these images and find more energy to manage this situation. • Dr. Willem Lammers and members of the international Logosynthesis community have released a deeply meditative video, Coping with Corona – Reduce Stress and Fear in 30 minutes! https://tinyurl.com/rsqxb3v • If you prefer something more logical, I am offering a process you can learn and use repeatedly to dissolve those intrusive images. 7 Steps to Reduce Worry Starting NOW, www.laurieweiss.com/reduceworry You can do this process in less than 10 minutes a day, with a daily email reminder. If you prefer a faster pace, you can also complete it all at once, in about an hour. Please share these anywhere you wish. Stay safe and healthy!
If you're feeling stressed and anxious because of the uncertainty about the coronavirus, you are certainly not alone. In the absence of information about what is going to happen, most of us create stories, and images of what might happen. In some cases, that's quite useful. If you listen to professional advice to prepare for a possible quarantine, you can picture what supplies you will need as you imagine moving through several weeks of at home isolation. Then you can shop accordingly and stockpile what you need. Too often though, the stories and images we create are based on worst case scenarios that are unlikely to happen. And those images scare us!!! If you, like me, are someone who tends to do this, you start to feel stressed and anxious. Then, the news stories tend to reinforce the stories (fantasies really) that you are imagining and your anxiety builds. I have respiratory problems that are pretty well managed, but I noticed imagining images of me, in a hospital on a respirator. I used the Logosynthesis sentences to dissolve those images. and they disappeared. Now Dr. Willem Lammers, developer of Logosynthesis is offering even more help. See Coping with Corona at https://tinyurl.com/rkg6s5o
I don't know anyone who doesn't like to listen to stories. Do you? (OK, I don't mean long, drawn out, pointless narratives. I mean a story with a beginning, a middle and an end.) I learn from stories and I teach through stories. I learned about this young woman from the story her mom told me when she made the initial appointment for her daughter. I learned her daughter's story by asking questions and listening carefully for her answers. The story she told herself kept her from asking for protection when she needed it. Using the Logosynthesis sentences allowed her to let go of that story freed her to create a new one. Then, my telling the story of my work with her allowed me to teach you about how valuable this process was in healing a long -standing trauma--even without knowing all the details of the story. What are the stories you tell yourself that no longer serve you? Is it time for you to experiment with using this process to let them go?
In a recent class, one student, Janie, admitted that she had trouble starting difficult tasks. As we explored the issue, she described how she was afraid that she would not be able to do them well enough to meet her own extremely high standards. Knowing that she had a very common problem, did not help. Lots of people procrastinate because they are afraid of not being able to accomplish the result they want. The important question is what story you tell yourself to explain why you need to reach this particular goal and what will happen if you don't. In Janie's case, she remembered a very dismissive college professor. He told her she should transfer to an easier class because she would not be able to pass his demanding one. Janie was furious and determined to prove him wrong. She did exemplary work and earned the highest grades in the class. BUT the story she told herself was that she would fail if she did not always produce perfect work. When she remembered the scene with the professor and used the 3 sentences to retrieve her energy from her story, she stopped procrastinating. What stories are you telling yourself that no longer serve you?
As I put the finishing touches on the next book in what is becoming a Logosynthesis series, I am feeling blessed by the support of friends, colleagues and people I hardly know. This praise for Letting It Go, written several years ago, reminds me of what an incredible difference this simple to learn process has made in so many people's lives. If you are not yet one of them, you owe it to yourself to explore what it can do for you. The investment in money and time is very small and the potential for personal enrichment--in relaxation, peace and joy is huge. This is a gateway to an international community of fellow self-explorers. They include an incredibly wide range of people--from casual explorers to seasoned professional helpers. This book is a gateway. I invite you to join us. Oh, the new book? Embrace Prosperity: Resolve Blocks to Experiencing Abundance. It will be available within the next few weeks.
"I'll never forgive _________ for _____________." How would you fill in the blanks? I often overhear this line in casual conversation as I sit in restaurants or other public places. Who wronged you? Sometimes those actions really did great harm--for people who were abused or neglected as children. Sometimes the harm is pretty minor. It took me a very long time to forgive my mother for giving away my science fiction book collection when I went away to college. The problem with never forgiving is that it does more damage to the person holding on to the resentment than to the person who is being resented. But it's not easy to let go. If you are holding on, a part of your energy is stuck, and you don't have it available to use for other things. Yet, until the Logosynthesis sentences were discovered, it also took a lot of focused attention to let go over and over again, until the change became permanent. Now it's pretty easy. All you need to do is insert the image of what happened into 3 sentences and say them aloud. Usually the resentment simply melts away. Letting It Go will teach you the sentences and how to use them. Get your copy now.
I overslept this morning and a voice from my past arrived so vividly that I decided to share it with you. Remember, I have been involved in self-growth activities for about 50 years, so "I should know better," but I am no different than anyone else. It isn't about knowing, it's about being human. I intended to attend an early Yoga class but forgot to set my alarm. I thought about what to do and heard my mother’s voice in my mind strongly urging me to keep my commitment. The problem was that if I did that, I would not be able to eat breakfast. And I had a busy day planned. Like you, reducing unnecessary stress is high on my list of priorities. Logically it made sense to go to a later class, but the voice persisted. Fortunately, the Logosynthesis sentences are an important part of my world. I used "my mother’s voice telling me to keep my commitment" as a trigger and inserted it into the sentences. I felt immediate relief, ate breakfast and went to the later class. Try it yourself next time you hear a voice from your past you would like to release.
Did you try letting go of material things? I did--and saying the sentences helped a lot. I knew I had lots of energy stuck in an overcrowded closet! I avoided thinking about it, but when I did, I felt overwhelmed and anxious. My daughter agreed to help me weed out things that were not being used. Most of them were perfectly good and fit just fine, but I was choosing different things to wear on a regular basis. She was logical. I was conflicted. Each time we put something into the discard pile, I felt sad and remembered it’s history and I wanted to retrieve it--after all, I still liked it. She left me with a pile of clothes nearly 3 feet tall with instructions to put the discards into large bags and donate them to charity. Finally, I took my own advice and used the sentences with the trigger, "these clothes and all they represent." I felt immediate relief. Later, a friend promised to deliver them to a place where they would be immediately made available to people who could use them. I was relieved and happy as she drove away with the full bags. How about you? Will using this process help you release material things you no longer need? Try it and let me know.
Some thoughts on letting go of stuff. A friend said she was going to experiment with using the Logosynthesis sentences to let go of physical possessions as she downsizes to move to a new city. Since I have lived in the same house for 50 years and also have problems letting go of possessions, trying the process on objects seems like a good idea. My first attempt was on a set of dishes that is still in my cabinet. As I used "these brown dishes" as a trigger and said each sentence, I remembered how I got attached to them in the first place. As a young married couple with very little money, we spotted these handmade dishes in a tiny new store. We loved them! They symbolized living abundantly! We managed to scrape together the money to buy them and used them to entertain friends. We have not actually used them in many years, but releasing them apparently got connected with holding on to a part of my life that has long since passed. As I continued saying the sentences and remembering, I realized that keeping the memories is not the same as keeping the dishes and I will be happy to release them. Try this yourself and let me know how it works!
This is the critical question. It may seem like a mystery, but it does not need to be. My own reaction is wanting chocolate. When I am in that state, I think I know that chocolate will solve whatever is causing my stress now. Fortunately, I also know it won't solve my problem. I can usually tell the difference between having a taste for chocolate--wanting to appreciate its actual taste--and wanting to just eat it--the sooner the better. Recently I noticed my stress signal and stopped to consider why I was feeling so upset. Especially because everything seemed to be going well in my life. I finally realized that I was feeling stressed whenever I read a newspaper or listened to the news. The current political situation is so toxic that I kept visualizing scenes of disaster. The scenes I was visualizing were the actual trigger for my distress. The news articles themselves were mostly words and other people’s opinions. I used the scenes as the trigger in the sentences, repeated the sentences, and felt better almost immediately. I also decided to stop exposing myself to so much of what stimulated my imagination. Then I ate a single square of chocolate and enjoyed it thoroughly.
Yes, I have heard that perfect practice does make perfect--in sports. That is not what we are aiming for here. In meditation and other awareness focused work, practice is not meant to produce perfection. Instead it is meant to instill a way of being in the world that serves your development as a human being. Learning Logosynthesis follows this model. Your task is to learn to use the 3 Logosynthesis sentences. Most students of this process do memorize the sentences but that isn't required. You can always read them. Just reading about using the sentences can't teach you about the impact they are likely to have on your life. You need to practice using them in different situations--and the more frequently, the better. So the next time you experience stress or anxiety, take a few minutes to clarify what real or imagined sight, sound or other memory triggered your experience. Summarize that trigger in a few words and use that summary in the sentences. You won't know how it impacts you until you try it. And you are just learning--not striving to make anything in particular happen. More complete instructions are in this book. If you don’t have a copy yet, get it now.
You are human--therefore you try to explain the world to yourself by telling yourself stories. We all do this. Humans have been doing it since the dawn of history. Just think about the ancient cave paintings which archaeologists show us the story lines. Many of these stories are an attempt to make the world make sense and to keep us safe. But a common problem is that, without information and guidance, these stories often have very little to do with the actual world of cause and effect that we live in. This is especially true when you try to make sense of overwhelming things that happen before you are 5 years old. Your brain is very immature, and you often can't tell the difference between something that is real and something you imagine. Just think about the monsters that you knew lived in the closet. If no loving adult helps you sort things out, you may keep on believing the story into adulthood and keep barricading the closet door. Your energy is tied up in that story and not available to help you manage the real world. It makes sense to examine those stories and release the energy stored in the ones that no longer serve us.
Stress is inevitable and you probably have lots of different ways of managing it during this very, very busy season. But if you are anything like me, sometimes it makes you want to run and hide. While hiding, it's a very good idea to think about what is triggering your reaction right now. Are you imagining being criticized for getting something wrong? If so, by whom? You can use the imagined sound of their voice as the focus of the 3 Logosynthesis sentences. Try it and just feel yourself relax. Or are you picturing a child's disappointed face if you can't afford the perfect toy she has on her wish list? Again, use the image as the focus of the sentences and watch your energy shift. If you want a copy of the sentences you can photograph and keep with you on your phone, here is a link to the download gift, Quick Start Guide: Using Logosynthesis to Release Anxiety, Stress and Worry at BooksByLaurie.com/guide Please download a copy for yourself today.
The process of Logosynthesis is about using words to open a pathway for energy to move. Many of my clients and students understand quite well how to take their own energy into a situation and leave it there. It makes complete sense. You give your energy to something when it grabs your attention and your attention stays focused on that event or person. It is harder to understand how you acquire someone else's energy. One way to understand this is when you remember being a child and your parents said something to you that you hated. You made a vow to never, ever say that horrible thing to your own children. Then, as a parent yourself, when you were stressed about something, those exact (horrible) words came tumbling out of your mouth! Yikes! When you were under stress as a child in that situation, you picked up your parent's energy and had been carrying it around ever since. You can use the second Logosynthesis sentence to return that energy to its source. "Where it truly belongs." It might not even belong to your parents, it might have come to them from somewhere else, so we use a more general term. What we know for certain is that you no longer need it and can let it go.
It can be frightening to give up an old behavior pattern, even if keeping it causes problems. And suffering, seeing yourself as a victim is one of those patterns. The first pattern I was invited to give up was anger. I was living in a new city with a new group of friends and studying Transactional Analysis. I habitually used anger to get what I wanted in the world. I had learned to use it in a family and a culture that heard anger as a message that something was important. It was also a sign of strength. I was fearful that without it, I would be ignored. I agreed to experiment by avoiding using angry words and body language for a week. I was quite surprised when I discovered that asking for what I wanted instead of demanding it still got me what I wanted. And the people I asked seemed to treat me better afterwards. I reported my results and agreed to make the change permanent. I still get angry sometimes, but instead of manipulating others, I use that energy to solve problems You can easily release an old pattern using the Logosynthesis tools and you too can discover an even better way to operate in the world. And with Logosynthesis, the process is faster and easier.
I asked an engineer friend to review my new Experience Abundance (with Logosynthesis) book and he asked, "Where is the right place in myself?" This is a fairly common question from people who operate almost entirely in a logical bubble. I know the immense value of logic. Not only that, but as a young science teacher, I was proud of training my students to think logically. It took a while to recognize that there is more besides logic for understanding the world. When I read Lawrence LeShan's book, Alternate Realities I began to understand much more clearly that what we believe about how things work makes it much easier for things to work that way. When we acknowledge that we are spiritual beings/energy systems, with our core True Self connected to all that is, by whatever name we call it, it is easier (but not impossible) to allow energy practices to work--as Logosynthesis does. And trying to figure out, logically, where that is, does not help at all. What does help is simply to relax and notice how your emotions and body respond to the words in each sentence and to allow your True Self to manage the rest.
Early in my Logosynthesis practice, I wanted to stop thinking about an unpleasant encounter earlier in the day. I said the sentences using "that nasty man" as the target. Suddenly I found myself thinking about someone who had bullied me when I was in 5th grade. That is where I had frozen the energy that triggered my discomfort that morning. When I said the sentences again, targeting her, the obsessive thoughts vanished. But, before I said the sentences the first time, I had no idea that anyone from my distant past was involved. I did not identify the best trigger the first time around--and the process still worked for me. The lesson here is to not be concerned about finding the perfect target for your sentences. If you’re using Logosynthesis for your own growth, it is perfectly fine to just start with whatever you think happened just before you felt distressed. It probably won't be the clearest or best possible description of the trigger that needs to be dissolved, but it will be good enough to get you started. As you use this trigger in the sentences, you are likely to remember something else that is more precisely triggering your distress. Logosynthesis professionals can find very precise triggers to use as targets. You can locate Certified Practitioners at http://www.Logosynthesis.International/professionals/
I recently read that 52% of Americans felt stressed in the 24 hours before they answered a survey! Are you one of them? If you are, it is now a lot easier to let go of the stress than you (or me) ever imagined it could be. Since the evening described here I have completely changed my response to situations that used to exhaust me. I learned the 3 sentences to say when I noticed that I was feeling tense or ruminating about a situation. Incidentally, I also learned to get rid of songs that kept replaying themselves in my head, but that's another story. When I say the sentences I have written about in this book, I often completely forget whatever was troubling me a few minutes before. I can retrieve the memory if I want to, but not the feeling that goes with it. Lots of others have had a similar experience and you can too. There are complete instructions available in this book and I am told that it is quite easy to learn to use them. You can get started right now.
I don't know exactly what I am talking about when I talk about energy. Yet this word is part of my daily conversation. I came back from an afternoon appointment and I said to my husband, "My energy is dragging and I'm hungry." After I had a snack, I felt re-energized. A friend of mine read auras--energy that surrounds our bodies that is sometimes visible. I have only seen an aura once. Yet, in an experiment, when we both shared casual conversations with the same people and compared our impressions of their energy, we had noticed pretty much the same things. Perceiving yourself or another person as an energy system seems as strange as imagining each of us as food processing systems. We are, we just don't usually focus on that aspect of our being. Still, I can perceive when energy shifts, and I imagine that you can also. Sometimes I can say specifically that tight muscles have loosened. Other times I generally feel lighter. I have studied different ways, physical (Yoga) and emotional (Psychotherapy) and now I have a new, faster and more targeted way to help those changes happen. If you are trying to shift your energy, try using the Logosynthesis process yourself. It has made a big difference for a growing number of people.
I automatically try to control as much as I possibly can. It's a habit. It makes me feel like I am in charge of things--whether I am or not. Do you do this too? Right now, I am noticing more problems than usual about this. I brought my computer out to my beautiful, quiet patio to enjoy being outside. However, the vine that shades my space is dropping flower petals on my computer keyboard and my head. The bees love the flower petals and are plentiful. Sometimes they get too close for comfort. One just landed on my keyboard. I keep hearing sirens. (There is a fire station and a hospital emergency room close by.) And now the neighbor's dog just started to bark. All this reminds me that I am definitely not in charge. It's a good lesson. I can either fight what is happening or relax and keep focused on my intention, to complete this note for you. When you use the tools I offer in this book, staying focused on your intention instead of trying to make things work the way you think they should will serve you best. Sometimes I use the sentences with the trigger, 'this belief that I am in control." You might try it and notice what happens.
Most people are awed when they first experience the power of the 3 Logosynthesis sentences. My husband and I recently presented an introduction to this method to a group of about 30 professional psychotherapists and coaches. When they asked to see a demonstration one experienced therapist volunteered to see if she could relieve her anxiety about a presentation she was making later in the day. After a few questions it became clear that her feeling of anxiety was triggered by a picture she had imagined of people ridiculing her. We used that image as the focus of the sentences. After repeating the first sentence, retrieving her energy from this image, energy started moving through her body and she began to shake. Participants were startled by how quickly the energy started to move. When she returned the energy she had acquired from others, her breathing calmed, By the time she had repeated the third sentence, retrieving her reactions to this imagined image of being ridiculed when she spoke, she was relaxed and smiling. Later in the day she delivered a wonderful presentation without any hint of anxiety. She was thrilled and so were we. Do try it for yourself. The book is readily available in ebook, print and audio formats. Get your copy now and start right away.
Do you keep reliving bad experiences and wish you could just stop? Or maybe other people are sick of hearing your stories of how mean your (ex) best friend was to you or how your boss yells at you. Sometimes those memories come up at the most inopportune times and even stop you from going places you used to enjoy. There are lots of reasons you hold on to things like that. The most important one is that a part of your brain is built to protect you from repeating disasters. Lots of things in your everyday life trigger reminders of past disasters to keep you alert to the faintest possibility of having them happen again. Another reason is that you are always trying to complete things and many of these incidents are incomplete. You never got to say how angry you were. You were never comforted. Your boss never apologized. A part of you holds on to the belief or fantasy that you need to remember those incidents in order to complete them. Now you can actually let go of these memories with 3 simple sentences. Get your copy of this book and learn how now.
Have you ever been hurt and spent a long time afterwards reminding all your friends and acquaintances how miserable you felt? You all suffered about it and maybe you still do. The first time I heard about the concept that Suffering is Optional, I did not believe that it could possibly be true. Then I learned the difference between pain, which is all too real, and the option to not make it worse than it is and to choose to do something else instead. I learned that if I kept replaying the memory of a former good friend treating me badly, I suffered. However, if I read a good book instead of replaying the memory, I felt much better. Sometimes I would remember, and the pain came back, but generally, I could control the situation. Then I learned Logosynthesis and with 3 simple sentences, I drained all my energy out of the memory, and could remember what happened without any pain at all. Then, suffering truly became optional. Now, if I keep thinking about any hurt, I use the process and get on with other things. All the instructions you need to do the same are in this book. So, if you would like to make suffering optional for yourself, get your copy and get started right now.
Sometimes you experience a moment that changes the direction of your life. It happened to me in 2010. 9 years have passed since I first experienced the power of words to dissolve a long-standing problem in just a few minutes. At that time, I was planning to retire, but I was so intrigued I wanted to learn more. The more I learned, the more I discovered how using this new tool could build on a 40-year career of practicing psychotherapy to allow me to help relieve pain faster than ever before. Several years into this process, I realized that many more ordinary, non-professional people could use this tool to help themselves. And for many problems, they did not even need to work with a therapist. All they needed was access to the tool. When Dr. Willem Lammers, developer of Logosynthesis, suggested I write this book to make it easy for anyone to learn this simple, powerful process, I eagerly accepted the challenge. The experience of my readers attests to my success. If you have not yet tried Logosynthesis for yourself, I urge you to get your copy of this book today. It's a tool that really works.
John Bradshaw defined shame as the conviction that you--your very existence is a mistake. He once told me that his book, "Healing the Shame that Binds You" was the one that sold the most copies. Shame may be a natural reaction to being interrupted when you are doing something that is pleasurable. For example, a preschooler used his mother's lipstick to draw pictures on walls. She yelled and scared him, he couldn't manage it and reacted by feeling shame and freezing energy when nobody consoled him. The Logosynthesis sentences and processes in this book will help you release that frozen energy. Toxic shame is something else. When you are told over and over again that you are bad, useless, a slut or worse by someone who has power over you--like an alcoholic parent in a rage--you certainly don't have the resources to protect yourself. You might try to manage by pretending to be somewhere else--or that you are a rock--or trying to be good so the barrage will stop. That may stop the immediate pain, but it never goes away. It stays hidden but it takes life energy to keep a lid on the hurt. In this case, a Logosynthesis Practitioner can help you carefully release this recurrent trauma.
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I have found it very easy to make up stories about how people don't like me. I recognize and dismiss those stories quickly these days but before Logosynthesis, it was difficult to do. I think it started the summer after 6th grade. I was invited to be in a club which I loved. After summer vacation, I was told that the club had disbanded. Later I learned that the same girls had formed a new club just like the last one, only this time I wasn't invited. At the time, I was devastated. The story I told myself was that they didn't like me because I was defective in some way. Nobody told me that this is just what girls this age typically do to each other or that I there might be a different explanation. When something similar happened to our daughter, my husband and I helped her create a different kind of story. We talked about how she was trying to be someone she wasn't in order to please those girls and suggested she find girls more like herself. She did and as far as I know, had no residual problems. If you have stories that still trouble you, learning to use the special Logosynthesis sentences will help you reclaim your energy to create better stories for yourself.
Have you ever been caught in a phone tree for way too long? Once the problem gets solved, do you feel happy and relieved, or are you still angry because of the time you were forced to spend waiting? Judging from the stories I hear in casual conversation; most people find the left-over anger doesn't just go away. They are angry because they still feel like helpless victims of another person's incompetence. There is no satisfactory ending and it is hard to let go and move on. Is that how you feel? If we examine the behind this persistent anger, it's usually something like, "It shouldn't be this way!" As long as you hold on to that belief, you keep on feeling angry. When you find a way to release the belief, the anger evaporates. If you say the three Logosynthesis sentences to reclaim your energy from this belief, chances are very good that it will evaporate. The target you should use is "This belief that the world should be different." Before you say the sentences, remember details of what the worst part of your wait was like. After you say the sentences, go back to your memory and notice what has changed. You'll find complete details in this book. Get your copy now.
Who is your Self anyway? I like to think of my Self as core part of me that is a part of and somewhat separated from Essence or All That Is or Universal Energy or Oneness. Pretty confusing to talk about. One way I think of the part of and separate from is likening it to my fingers and my hand. My fingers are distinct and yet they are an integral part of my hand. A spiritual practice I learned over 30 years ago is writing a daily journal to my Self to learn to connect with and use my inner wisdom. I address my Self as Friend and start each entry ‘Dear Friend...’ I write of things that I am trying to understand or make decisions about. I sign each letter, "Love, Laurie." Then I pause, wait and write a brief response using the following form. ‘Dear friend...’ and sign the letter ‘your Friend.’ I have no idea if this practice would be as valuable to you as it has been to me, but I invite you to try it. I know that over the years, listening and doing things that are congruent with my Self, rather than letting ego steer my decisions, has definitely helped me stay aware of my own connection to Essence.
Your target in Logosynthesis is the thing you experience just before you feel anxious or upset in some other way. It is the place where you froze some of your energy because you didn't have the resources to manage that experience sometime in the past. Your target is also the identification of that memory, often of an event, but sometimes of a smell or sound or picture that is the most uncomfortable thing about some event, put into words. Those are the words you insert into the 3 "magic" sentences that make all the difference. It is saying these sentences, complete with target, that allows you to reclaim your energy so you can use it in your life now. When you do this process, something changes in amazing ways. You can usually remember the experience that used to cause you distress and feel completely calm about the whole thing. I did not believe this was possible until I tried it myself. (Actually, someone helped me the first time.) If you are skeptical like me, I suggest you experiment and enjoy this amazing experience of freedom.
Trauma, that you may think was resolved long ago, can still have a surprising impact on your life today. There was a clear demonstration of that problem with a couple I saw recently. They were having "communication problems." That phrase is in quotes because most couples I have seen throughout my career consider that the reason they come to counseling. For more information about relationships, check my other books. Back to this couple. After 30 years together she was startled to discover that the reason she withdrew from a conversation came from mistreatment in 2 earlier marriages. He wanted desperately to discuss solving various day to day problems and she enjoyed those conversations when they managed to have them. But often, she felt disrespected by his responses to her ideas. Actually, he liked her ideas and challenged them to examine them more closely. She thought he was sending a message that she was stupid, so she withdrew. Why this thought??? Two previous husbands had abused her in different ways, but both had frequently told her that she was stupid. Now, any hint of disagreement led to her own interpretation that she was stupid. We created a target focusing on previous abuse. She felt better and he agreed to monitor himself and first say, “let’s discuss this.”
I love the quote from Brene Brown. I love it because I know that it can be very scary to go back and remember some past experiences. I also know how helpful it can be to do so. It's especially helpful at the times you are startled by your own strong reaction to something. Once, years ago when I was much younger and much more flexible than I am now, I had a strange experience in a yoga class. The teacher instructed us to come out of one pose by doing a somersault. I hesitated, and after some encouragement, I did the move and immediately started crying hysterically. Certainly, a strange, strong reaction! When I explored the reaction later, during a therapy training session, I discovered that I had frozen feelings from a pretty mild childhood trauma. My father had lost his grip on me in the surf and I had momentarily been submerged and tumbled. It probably lasted no more than a few seconds. Apparently I had been brave and stifled the reaction that poured out so many years later. Knowing solved the mystery but not the problem. I still hated to be upside down. Now it would be simple to use the Logosynthesis words to free that energy and heal the trauma.
I recently had the opportunity to explore many wonders of science and technology. I was awed when I was privileged to see a machine that is used for preparing a cancer patients blood for a stem cell transplant. I certainly have no understanding of the technology that went into creating such a wonder. Yet I know people's lives have been extended because they trusted this process. I know that the creation of this machine did not occur spontaneously. It was built in small increments upon previously available technology. An example of this is the centrifuges that have been available for a very long time. I used them in my first lab assistant career right after I graduated from college over 50 years ago. The principle remains the same but the refinements and technology are amazing. Logosynthesis was not developed in a vacuum. Although the intuitive awareness of Dr. Willem Lammers brought the process to us, his intuition arose after many years of studying many different ways of supporting individual growth and change. I am grateful that I have the opportunity to share this development with all of you.
A reader recently asked me to help her find a target for the 3 'magic' Logosynthesis sentences. As we talked about different buttons that triggered her distress. She had lots of stories to share. Nothing particularly stressful had happened to her and yet she was feeling some intense responses to incidents that she considered pretty minor. As I listened closely to understand what all those incidents might have in common, I heard her refer to a fundamental belief about how the world worked. I don't have permission to share her fundamental belief but a sample of other beliefs might be: Everyone is my friend. If I do what is right, everything will be okay. The man should be in charge of his family. People are not to be trusted. I am not enough. There are many others--most of them not particularly logical. With this reader/client, she inserted "this belief that..." into the sentences. When I asked her about her experience, she looked a bit stunned, said "I guess it's not always true," and began to sob. Giving up a cherished belief caused grief, and, it opened the possibility of change that has the potential for much greater happiness.
You have an opportunity to freeze energy almost every day of your life. It takes attention to manage your life and research has shown that the amount of attention we have available over a period of time is actually limited. It can be renewed by rest, meditation, time in nature, etc, but it's like only having a certain amount of money to spend each day. When it's used up, you need to figure out ways to manage without it. Giving something your attention is a way of using your available energy. Once your supply is getting low, you have less energy to respond to demands on your time and you react emotionally instead. You know those reactions are likely to get you into trouble at work or with another person, so you just quickly bury the whole messy business and go on to something else. That’s how you freeze energy. If you do this often enough, it will probably lead to problems later. Things like exhaustion and burn out are some common results. Taking time to reclaim that frozen energy using the Logosynthesis sentences can keep the problems from building up. You'll know when you need to do this when those negative experiences resurface and get stuck in your mind. Take time to let them go!
Do you feel anxious about something that hasn't happened and probably never will? You're not alone. When you were around 4 or 5 years old you learned to make up stories to explain the complicated world to yourself. Sometimes those stories were scary, like monsters under the bed. You could use stories like that to keep you from following your impulses to do things you 'knew' or imagined would get you in trouble--like getting out of bed and playing with your toys. Sometimes you froze your energy around those stories into beliefs about who you are and what you deserve in the world. That frozen energy can be released using the 3 Logosynthesis sentences. When you feel anxious about something that might happen you have created a scary story that may or may not have something to do with reality. You react to your stories just as if they were real because that is the way people work. It does not mean there is anything wrong with you--it just means you are trying to explain your reaction to something. You can use the sentences here too. Use them to take your energy out of the story you are telling yourself and free it to have available to use to do whatever you want or need to do.
This week I have had sessions with two very different clients who had been practicing Logosynthesis after reading this book. Each of them contacted me for a similar reason, they are each facing anxiety about an important current challenge that is rooted in the past and that neither of them could seem to change by themselves. They each explained how they believed that a (very different) traumatic incident in the past was related to the current challenge. In each case, they were not sure what to target because the past incident was complicated. My work with each of them involved uncovering the parts of the incidents that had caused them each the most pain and working with that frozen energy. Each time we used the sentences about a certain part of the original trauma, the amount of distress they experienced diminished just slightly. And each time a new memory or image would emerge as a new target. Eventually, in each case, the distress disappeared and they each felt ready to address the new challenges in their lives. Sometimes this work is simple, but sometimes it can be quite complex. Don't hesitate to ask for help when you need it. Like these clients, your relief can be much closer than you imagine.
I was recently talking about teenagers who are currently rebelling against schoolwork with several of my friends. Truly a frustrating situation for parents and grandparents and anyone who cares about the kids and how what they are doing now will impact their lives in the future. Looking back on successful and productive lives, we started reminiscing about our own, very varied, experiences as teens. We ranged from one with an unrecognized learning disability whom everyone, including himself, thought was stupid, to me who was a college bound honor student. Through various routes, we had all arrived safely at that day. And we all had baggage, frozen energy, related to those early experiences. We had all told ourselves stories about what we believed it was necessary for us to do because of our situations. My friend had a story about needing to be sneaky and hide his learning problems from others. I had a story about always needing to do my best which led to exhaustion and guilt, depending on the situation. Our conclusion was that whatever happens, no matter how well intended, we were all entirely capable of putting a spin on it that was, perhaps, temporarily useful in the short term, but froze energy that needed to be reclaimed later.
"I don't want to...!" "Nobody can make me...!" "I'll do it when I am damn good and ready!" A very useful set of phrases for finding out why I (or anyone else) is procrastinating. I don't want to make that phone call! I really don't! I hate telephone trees and waiting and listening to loud, obnoxious music while someone lies to me about how important I am to them. I know I need the information I might get if I wait long enough and I have it on my list and I do have time--I just keep forgetting! Nobody can make me make the phone call. I acknowledge my own power. I am in charge. My energy might be stuck or frozen in a past experience of waiting. I can use the Logosynthesis sentences to free my frozen energy. I acknowledge that I will do it--eventually--when certain conditions are met. Once those conditions of being damn good and ready have been met, I will make the call. Or maybe I will find another way to get the information I need. Sometimes all I need to do to release my energy is acknowledge my ambivalence. Sometimes I need more. Try this and see how the process works for you.
Years ago, my yoga instructor insisted that I was strong enough to do a somersault. I was, but the instant I was upside down, I started to cry hysterically. I had absolutely no idea why! Clearly a mysterious overreaction. What I did know is that I had avoided being upside down for as long as I could remember. Exploring this in a psychotherapy group I found myself remembering an experience from very early in my life when I was accidentally tumbled in the surf. That incident probably lasted a few seconds until I was rescued, but it clearly overwhelmed my resources to cope with or explain my terror. I froze the energy and to avoid activating it, avoided similar physical experiences. When you find yourself overreacting to an otherwise ordinary situation, it's probably because of frozen energy from somewhere in your past. Using the incident that preceded the overreaction as a target for the Logosynthesis sentences will help you reclaim your frozen energy. I often find that when the sentences are used, some of the resulting images and memories are of a past incident where you did not have the resources to cope with a difficult situation. Using the sentences with that target usually resolves the problem so you are no longer triggered by similar situations in the present.
What are you waiting for? We all make excuses for not trying something new, different and perhaps, a little uncomfortable. I am not leaving myself out of this. It is a favorite strategy of mine. I get all ready to do something but keep finding reasons to wait. Circumstances are not quite perfect. I don't have the exact right problem to use this on. For me, now, it's about making short videos. I will get past this and you can too. Once a friend and I spent months passing a "Just do it!" button back and forth. We were each doing a major project--mine was my PhD dissertation. Both projects were hard. We supported each other until the projects were complete--and she gave the button to someone else who needed it. So, what kind of support do you need to make the small investment in yourself of learning to let go of stress by using the Logosynthesis sentences? In the final chapter of this book, excerpted here, I offer tips to help you get started. No, you can't predict what will happen. Neither can I. But whatever you are facing is probably a memory of something you have already survived. If you run into trouble, contact me directly. I will help.
You made up stories just like Emily's. It is almost impossible to release the effects of stories like this until you discover what they are. Almost anything can trigger the memory. Distress can lead you to it, like it did Emily or you can stumble on it in different ways. I did when I tried to release another issue. Like many of my readers, I strongly believe that because I am so blessed it is my responsibility to share my blessings by helping fix problems in the world. As my energy diminishes with age, I simply can no longer help by doing some things I used to do. I used the sentences to let go of a nagging guilt and was surprised by this memory: I was sobbing very quietly, under the covers because I had been told that one of my best friends was in the hospital with polio. I was about 8 and I knew my parents were worried and I didn't know what to do. The story I told myself was about being responsible for helping. I needed help to learn to manage being sand and helpless. I didn't ask, didn't get it and froze my energy instead. I wasn't responsible then and I am not responsible now for fixing things that are beyond my control.
Stress can overwhelm you at any time in your life. But when you recognize it when it is happening, you can avoid freezing your energy to contain your pain. I was reminded of this recently when a family member became gravely ill. Of course, I felt my own personal stress, but the overwhelming stress came from my need and ability to support other family members who were more directly impacted by the situation. I thoroughly depleted my energy when I gave them the help they needed. At other times in my life I might have been stoic and buried my own pain so that I could be there for others. I could have kept functioning but frozen my energy. However, understanding the process of the damage frozen energy can inflict I did something different. Since my resources were depleted, I called on my good friends who knew nothing about the situation and asked for their emotional (energetic) support. I am blessed with friends who are loving and caring and were more than happy to listen and offer me what I needed--and offer prayers for the ill family member as well. Fortunately, our worst fears were not realized. He has recovered sufficiently to be with us a while longer. And I am left with gratitude instead of frozen energy.
The very first book I wrote was eventually published under the name, "I Don't Need Therapy but Where Do I Turn For Answers?" My company is Empowerment Systems. The theme of my professional life has been to help people to help themselves whenever possible. That is why I wrote this book. The Logosynthesis tool can be an amazingly powerful way to start to take charge of your own emotional life. In my experience, learning to use any new tool can be a challenge. That is why I worked to make this book as easy to use as possible. However, you need to practice using any almost tool before you can use it comfortably. In the last chapter I offer a list of tips that will make it easier to learn to make this tool a part of your life. Use the tool! Use the tips! Create a more peaceful and joyful life for yourself. (And, of course, you don't always need to do it yourself. If you need help, a link to a list of Certified Logosynthesis Practitioners is included in the book.)
A very long time ago, I was given an assignment to do while I participated in a yearlong training program. Every morning I was to write a letter to my true Self. Then wait to listen for the answer and write that answer as a letter from my true Self back to me. Over 30 years later, I am still doing this. The I and me are the self I usually live with. It is the self that lives inside my own skin. Over the years I have said lots about my frustrations and feelings. My true Self is the part that goes beyond my skin and connects with the love and wisdom of the universe. In my letters that begin DEAR FRIEND, I do my best to tell my story which often includes where my energy is obviously stuck. The answers I get are often just a few words long and remind me of how to stay focused on the most important aspects of my world. They are signed, YOUR FRIEND. Since I learned to use Logosynthesis, the energy release and reclamation system I teach in this book, as I write, I notice the stuck places and include a note that I will use the process to release the energy. My FRIEND writes back to affirm my decision.
When I was 9 years old I remember being reduced to tears by an argument with my grandmother about how to dry a glass. She wanted to show me a new and easier way but it was different and hard for me to manage. I still like to feel competent. When I start something new, or something I have not done for a long time, I feel awkward. When I feel awkward I am readily distracted. Sometimes I even manage to forget that I was trying something new and go right back to doing whatever I was doing before. When I was learning to use Logosynthesis to recover my energy from the various places it was stuck, I was definitely awkward. My targets weren't right. I got the sentences mixed up. I started doing other things after I had said one sentence and never got back to the next sentence, and most of all, I completely forgot about my new tool when it would have been very helpful to use it. I needed to be reminded. Like other tools, this one only works if you remember to practice enough to feel competent when you use it, and then use it to resolve your own stuck energy often known as anxiety and stress.
I am in the process of completing a really big project. I am working on republishing much of my earlier work as a series called Secrets of Happy Relationships. One morning the "end of project self-talk" came on full blast, before I was even completely awake. The chatter included, "The competition in this field is huge. Who do you think needs this anyway? This won't work. It's not your usual kind of series...." and much more that I don't want to share because you might believe it and none of it is true. Fortunately, I quickly noticed the pattern. It is common and sometimes associated with "Fear of Success." I have been through it before as have many of my author friends. Its just a story we tell ourselves in response to the stress of consciously and carefully completing our work. This time I managed it with Logosynthesis. I said the sentences and the energy in the story dissipated immediately. If I had believed the story, I could have used it as justification to delay the release of the project until I had reviewed it one more time--or maybe worse. It's easy to believe stories like this but I urge you to consider using these tools and just letting them go. Just remember, don't believe everything you think."
Are there times when you feel yourself just dragging? Have you noticed how differently you feel when you are excited and energetic? Would you like to have that energy available whenever you want it? I don't know about you, but I often feel draggy about doing things I should do. I may even want to do them, but something holds me back. When I examine what that something is, I often discover that, sometime in my past, I had a difficult time managing a similar situation. I used to lose my energy when I needed to ask someone for a favor. Exploring, I discovered that in the past I was told it was not polite to ask—that I was supposed to wait until something was offered. I have seen children in the grocery store learning a similar lesson. A busy mom, frustrated by a child asking for everything she sees, snaps "Stop begging or you won't get anything." If mom carries out her threat, the child freezes the asking energy. Years later, the energy is still frozen. Letting It Go contains a blueprint for discovering where you froze your energy and how to release it using only three simple sentences. If this is one of your challenges, read the book to find a way to reclaim the energy your frozen energy.
Would you accept the advice of a 4-year-old about how you ought to life your life now? I doubt that you would consciously choose to do that, but you may be doing it anyhow. Melissa learned that she was allowing the 4-year-old she had once been to influence her life. When she was 4 her mother became seriously ill and Melissa was told she needed to be quiet and not bother her mother. She did the best she could, but the day she lost control of herself and screamed about wanting a special toy. That day her mother was hospitalized and disappeared from Melissa’s life for many weeks. Melissa concluded that by wanting something for herself she had made her mother sicker. To try to protect herself she decided that wanting things was dangerous. She did her best to never want anything again. She essentially froze her 'wanting energy.' As an adult woman she lived a life of serving others and never asked for anything for herself, unknowingly following the advice of her 4-year-old self. It wasn't until she learned to use Logosynthesis to reclaim her frozen 'wanting energy', that she was able to again realize that she was worthy of wanting things for herself instead of just caring for others.
Most processes of guided self-change like coaching, cognitive behavior therapy and many self-help books are about learning to control your behavior. You are encouraged to choose goals and behave in ways to help you achieve your goals. If you’re not doing the right thing, you’re supposed to change that behavior and do something that is more effective in helping you move in your chosen direction. This is very useful when it works, but unfortunately, most of the time it only works for a short time. That's because it addresses only one small part of who you really are. Your logical self. The larger part of who you are consists of your emotional self. Some systems call that part the elephant while your logical side is the rider. It is a great analogy showing the different power of each part. It is hard to move an elephant in a direction the elephant does not want to go!!! So how can we help the elephant change its mind and want something different? That’s where Logosynthesis, the process taught in this book comes in. There is a core Self to each one of us that knows what we need. Most of the time we ignore that still, small voice. Learn this process to let your Self direct your lasting growth.
Writing may be an addiction. It's about being addicted to the incredible feeling that comes from helping you, my reader, improve your life. The more readers I reach, the better I feel. Writing a book only happens when there is something important that I understand and that I know you and many others don't. I want all of you to know what it is and use it to transform some part of your lives. My first challenge is to convince you, that I have something really useful for you and that it will be worth your time to learn about it. So, in the very first few words, I need to intrigue you. In this book I do that by reminding you of a problem in your life that you would love to solve--in this case, how to stop feeling so anxious. Then I need to convince you that I have a useful way to help you solve that problem. What better way to do this than to tell you a story about myself and how I solved a similar problem. That also gives me a way to introduce myself and help you feel hopeful that I can actually help you. That’s what the first chapter is for. Then I need to build each succeeding chapter to fulfill my promise.
It takes a village, or at least a team, to produce a book and to do lots of other things. There are some things that I can do myself, but they are easier and work better when I have support. So if you are trying to be strong instead of asking for help in any area, keep reading. Many months ago, my primary care physician discovered that my EKG was problematic. I have always taken very good care of myself and I was shocked. I shared the information with my husband and a very few good friends. Months later when the Cardiologist decided I needed to have a scary (to me) procedure, my inclination was to keep it to myself and a few close friends. I struggled and finally found myself writing and sharing about it in a writing group. The outpouring of loving support was overwhelming. That gave me courage to share with others and ask for their support. The experience was amazing. Knowing how love surrounded me helped me move peacefully through the process. It worked! I am better and with far more energy than I have had in a long time. And I am so grateful! So, when you need help, let your village know.
Some things are simple but not easy. Sometimes it is a challenge to figure out just what it is that you react to by feeling anxious or stressed. Those feelings are triggered by something but sometimes they seem to come out of thin air. That is one of the reasons I developed a free 7-day Challenge to help anyone learn to reduce worry, stress and anxiety in a very short time. It takes about 10 minutes a day and you get reminders each day. Of course, you can do it at your own speed. Just save the reminders and open them when you have time. Some people would rather do the challenge all at once and that is fine too. You can get more information and a link to receive your own subscription to Secrets of Reducing Unnecessary Worry at www.LaurieWeiss.com/Challenge Get it now! FREE
I love the book title, If How-Tos Were Enough... because it refers to a prevalent FALSE belief that willpower and information is all it takes to accomplish anything. That goes along with demeaning people who just can't make some things work that way. We all set our automatic pilots when we were children. We may have reset them if we encountered trauma sometime later in life, but we each have a part of our brain wired to protect us from anything that part of the brain considers dangerous. Our willpower does as much good as trying to change the locked in direction of the automatic pilot of a boat or plane. You can pull it in the direction you want it to go and hold tight. It will go that way for a while until you get tired and let go. Then it reverts back to automatic. It takes a different process to reset your brain's automatic pilot. There are many ways to do this--its just that willpower isn't one of them. Logosynthesis, the process I teach you in this book, is one of them. One of the most simple and effective ways discovered so far. It is easy to learn and practice. You just need to do is learn it and remember to use it.
Who influenced the stories you told yourself as a child? Much of my career as a Psychotherapist has been about helping clients answer that question and then decide whether they would still listen to those influencers today. Those stories matter, and it is important to decide whether or not they are still useful guides for your thoughts, feelings and behaviors. Sometimes those stories about yourself were created under distressing circumstances when you had very little power to change what was happening. Instead, you used the little power you had to try to explain to yourself what has happened to you. As I write this now, we are being bombarded by words and images that are reawakening long forgotten or suppressed memories of distressing past events. If that is happening for you, I hope you take the time to re-examine the stories you told yourself when those events took place. Use t his time to re-examine how those stories have impacted your life and decide whether you would like to create new stories that are more useful to you now. Use the process described in this book to help you release the old stories to make space for the new ones.
Many of my clients describe themselves as control freaks and judge themselves very harshly. They want to be certain that they can control the results of whatever they do. The problem is, it is impossible to know in advance exactly what will happen when you use this procedure. That’s why much of Letting It Go is focused on explaining why and how this procedure will be useful despite its unpredictability. It is all about releasing immediate control of your experience to your deepest Essence so that your experience can be guided from a part of yourself that is devoted to what is best for you. When I wrote the specific instructions about how to use the Logosynthesis sentences to relieve your own anxiety or stress I wanted to do three things. • First, I wanted to make the entire process very easy to use. • Second, I wanted to help readers understand that the results of saying the sentences are very variable and unpredictable. • Third, I wanted to help my readers avoid any kind of judgement about either the process or themselves. Happily, judging by the reviews, I succeeded. Readers have reported following the instructions, despite their initial skepticism, allowed them to release difficult experiences and memories easily and quickly.
When I work with a client to help release anxiety, I watch and listen carefully for signals that the conversation has touched a deep level of truth. It is only then that I know that my client's Self or deep awareness is accessible. The signals I hear may be a change in intensity, in pitch or in tempo. My own attention shifts and I may say to myself, "what just happened?" I may focus on a particular phase while the conversation continues. If our conversation is only through sound though, I miss a lot of information. When I see my client, I see a hint of tears or a slight smile. I see crossed arms or a foot suddenly start to sway. Again I wonder, "what was that?" I don't know any details about what those signals mean. We all can and do respond to those signals in each other regularly. Sometimes our response is to pretend we don't notice. When you send signals like that to others, you can become aware of them too. DON'T IGNORE THOSE SIGNALS! They mean that your Self is sending you a message. When you pay attention to those messages you learn where you have frozen the energy that is creating the anxiety you need to release.
I did not write these eloquent words. This description is written by Dr. Willem Lammers of Switzerland who discovered and developed Logosynthesis, an elegant new energy therapy. Dr. Lammers asked me to write this self-help book about his discovery to make this process for relieving anxiety quickly and easily because he wanted to make it available to as many people as possile. He honored me by writing this Preface. Logosynthesis is spreading quickly through Europe and has been used in Canada as well. It is just beginning to become known in the United States. Unlike many professional tools, you really can learn to use this process yourself--from this book--in just an hour or two. It is a deceptively simple tool. You just need to identify the image of what concerns you, say three sentences and allow the time to notice how you respond to each one. Readers have been astonished at the power of the tool to help them let go of problems that have caused them distress. In the hands of a trained professional it is even more powerful and has been used to relieve many deep and long-lasting challenges. Everything you need to get started is in this book. Try it yourself and experience its magic.
Sometimes what you are afraid of is obvious and makes sense. At other times it is a complete mystery. You react to something because it is similar to something distressing that happened in the past. The problem is, it is much more comfortable to not think about those events and so you use some of your life energy to freeze or wall off your memory of those events. Sometimes you remember the event but hide the emotions associated with it deep within yourself. Sometimes you remember everything but never think of it being related to your current fear. Often just using the Logosynthesis sentences about your current distress is enough to bring those connections to your attention. When that happens, using the sentences on the unraveled mysteries will quickly recover your lost energy and help you solve your current problem.
The first time I watched someone lead a volunteer through the Logosynthesis process during a workshop, it did not make much sense. When you try to figure out how to remove your energy from a memory or a disaster that you only imagine, you can't--and I was busily trying to figure it out. The part of us that figures things out in order to manage our world is sometimes called the ego. Many spiritual traditions urge us to strive to move beyond the ego and experience the world in a different way. However, the ego is an important tool for managing ourselves and our worlds and most people cling to using it to handle the problems of living in the world. The first time I actually experienced this process working (Chapter1), I realized that this was something different. I experienced something deeper, my essence, doing something my ego did not know how to so. I still don't know how to make Logosynthesis work. Instead I had to let it work. Somehow these words activate essence, that part of us that experiences the unity beyond the separation of all things. It is that essence that manages to shift energy and allow the words to help us find peace.
Looking at your life as a problem of energy flow makes blaming yourself for what might not be working rather obsolete. Nobody is to blame for your response to stress. It comes from your innate physiology and the circumstances you encounter and the resources you have available to manage that stress. When the energy of a difficult experience overwhelms your ability to process it, you freeze that energy to protect yourself. It is bumping into the frozen energy that causes you to feel anxious. A part of your brain says to stay away from those frozen places. The problem is those brain places are awakened when something happens that is something like the stress you couldn't manage in the first place. It could be a sound, a smell, a sight or a memory or fantasy that comes too close to the frozen energy. In using the Logosynthesis sentences, we dissolve the frozen energy so your system no longer feels like it needs protection. There is no blame and no shame. It's just freeing frozen energy you can use to enjoy your life now.
It took me many months to create the habit of using Logosynthesis routinely when I felt upset. I would either do nothing or use the tools I already had been using for years. I would simply forget that this tool was available to me. Often my husband, also studying this process, would remind me, "Use the sentences." Then I put copies of the sentences in various places where I would stumble across them. Eventually I would be replaying a scene in my mind and remember that I could easily turn it off if I wanted too. Then I realized that I sometimes wanted to keep suffering instead of solving the problem. Somehow, my distress allowed me some kind of reward. (Chocolate!) Eventually I decided I either could just get my goodie, whatever it was, just because I wanted it, and simply said the sentences about what was bothering me. If you want to avoid failure in using this powerful tool to release your own anxiety and toxic stress you too will need to practice using it on a fairly regular basis. You will also need to set up some reminder systems so that Logosynthesis eventually becomes a part of your life.
Selecting an appropriate target is the heart of using this amazing process. It answers the question of what is causing this discomfort. However, is is NOT important to get it right the first time. My first practice session completely ended my persistent discomfort with air travel. When I returned home from my first Logosynthesis training , I noticed that I did not feel nearly as overstimulated by the day long trip as I had felt in the past. I didn't really understand why because I didn't remember this experience for several years. I forgot that my first target was something about my discomfort with plane travel. Not much happened when I said the 3 sentences. When I was asked about my experience of sitting quietly and simply noticing my internal responses, I reported remembering a childhood experience of riding a subway train at rush hour. The experience was “these bodies pushing in on me and squishing me.” That became my second target. Often people start with one target and while they say the sentences a very strong image or memory appears. Sometimes its the remembered sound of someone's voice saying particular words or even a remembered smell. The new memory then becomes a powerful focus for saying all the sentences again. My second target made the difference.
Tucked away in the bottom of a closet I have a very beautiful and very dilapidated, stained white cashmere sweater. It has elaborate beading showing the initials of my maiden name. One of my cats once discovered it tucked into a half-zipped garment bag and decided it was a wonderful place to deliver her kittens. Yes, today I'm talking about letting go of physical stuff. Logosynthesis works for that too--but only if I take time to do it. Even with physical things, maybe especially with physical things, my attachments persist. That is often because stuff represents much more than what it is. So what does this object represent to me? It was an engagement gift from my mother-in-law who did the beading 58 years ago. She died a few years later. I never got to know her very well. It is time for me to let go of lots of stuff. I will say the 3 Logosynthesis sentences to recover my energy from this sweater, and perhaps from my fantasies about my mother-in-law, and then let it go. If you are having a hard time getting rid of stuff, you may want to try the same process. The target, in this case, “this beaded sweater,” can be followed by the words “and all that it represents.”
An email I received this morning blew me away. A gentleman in his late 60's shared the impact of experimenting with Logosynthesis. He writes, "For some time I have been trying to cope with Meige Syndrome" (involuntary, irregular muscle contractions – of the lower face, jaw and neck, as well as of the eye.) ... after reading about Logosynthesis "started to realize that I was trying to cope with a pattern of symptoms rather than looking toward underlying sources of the problem." In his letter he describes how the problem got worse over the years and the many different methods that have brought him only partial and temporary relief of symptoms. "Following your suggestions in _Letting It Go_, I have begun using Logosynthesis one "slice" at a time on various specific 'targets' as I recognize them. I can report very significant improvements in the ability to relax tension in the body ..." [This] "has been the most promising light for me so far in finding my way out of this affliction!" I am thrilled with this information and the hope this process provides. Please experiment with it and share what you learn.
Everyone I teach to use this process experiences finding the frozen energy as a challenge. I did too when I was learning to think this way. That's because we tend to think about our own discomfort instead of what causes that discomfort. Once, before I had even considered becoming a psychotherapist, I witnessed a demonstration by the late Dr. Eric Berne, author of the famous book, Games People Play. He was showing what most people think is the problem by pounding on the thumb of one hand with his other fist and loudly proclaiming, "Dr., my thumb hurts!" Dr. Berne clearly demonstrated that the patient (or in this case, all of us students) is focused on the pain in the thumb, not on the pounding fist that is causing the pain or on whatever belief the patient holds that compels him to use his fist in that way. In order to learn to use Logosynthesis successfully, it is important to learn to notice either the fist or the belief driving it. Throughout this book I have offered lots of examples of how to focus this way. In addition, I have created a tool, a 7-day challenge, Secrets of Reducing Unnecessary Worry, you can download free to practice this kind of thinking. Get it at www.LaurieWeiss.com/7daychallenge.
I often have someone offer me water or a cough drop when I have not even noticed I am coughing. I have a chronic cough that is being treated medically and this note is not about that. I'm just using it as an example of what a coach calls a toleration--something that is somewhat annoying that remains a part of my life. Often, like the woman in this example, we all tolerate things because we simply don't have the tools to remove them from our lives. Or we may believe that it would be difficult or expensive in time or money or other resources to take effective action. I've noticed that in book reviews of Letting It Go, readers are reporting that they are using what they learn to let go of many things they have been tolerating for years. I am doing so also. I remember an old resentment or, sometimes, a compulsion, and realize that I no longer need to tolerate it being a part of my life. I do the Logosynthesis process and usually it simply evaporates. It doesn't work on everything though. I can release a desire for sweets pretty quickly, but the cough is still persisting.
How do you spread the word about something new that can make a big difference in people's lives without being dismissed as a crank, weirdo or fanatic? I am thrilled to share this week's news that Dr. Willem Lammers, the discoverer and developer of Logosynthesis has successfully accomplished this feat. At the recent Energy Psychology Conference in Florida, Logosynthesis won the jury's award and Dr. Lammers received the Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology (ACEP) prize "for a major contribution to the field" on 5th May. Logosynthesis has now reached a new level of visibility and recognition in the field of Energy Psychology, which will open up more opportunities for further research activities. The professionals working with this process has steadily increased over the past 12 years. Most of these professionals are in Europe and there are still very few in the United States and a growing number in Canada. We are all very excited about this boost which will help enable Logosynthesis to enhance the lives of more and more people. When you start to practice the simple but profound technique taught in this book, you too can experience the joy of knowing your own essence.
I used to respond to--get triggered by--the noise and crowds in airports. I would feel tense and stressed, and would spend energy trying to block out my awareness of what was happening around me. I would arrive home exhausted. After a Logosynthesis session when I thought nothing had happened, I spent the next day flying home and did not even notice the hubbub. I can remember my previous upset and exhaustion, but I have now gone 8 years without reacting that way. When a partner in a workshop helped me identify a target for releasing my upset about air travel, I had a vague memory of a scene when I was 8-years-old and in a New York subway train at rush-hour. I experienced "being squished." I didn't even remember that part of my work until several years later when I found some notes from the session. All I knew was that I responded very differently to air travel. The explanation for this (what seemed to me) miraculous transformation is that I had frozen my energy during that overwhelming experience when I was 8-years-old and had already learned to act like a “good girl” and not show my feelings. By saying the 3 Logosynthesis sentences, I had reclaimed my frozen energy.
Sometimes it is hidden in plain view but you can't see it until someone points it out to you. Fortunately, that happened to me when I was about 30. I was attending a meeting of professionals for the first time and stumbled over someone's protruding feet as I approached my seat. "I'm sorry. I'm just so clumsy." was my automatic response. One of the senior people at the meeting, that was partially about the stories we create, asked a question that illuminated a story that I was completely unaware of. He asked, "Who told you you were clumsy?" Once I thought about the answer I realized that my father and other members of my family had been teasing me and laughing at me for being clumsy ever since I was a small child. I adopted their story about me and accepted it as truth. Much later, after I had finally learned some physical skills, I learned that many people need to be taught those physical skills and that my abilities were well within the normal range. I was not especially clumsy after all. Are you accepting as truth limiting stories that you created from a uninformed experience in your past? Listening to your own language and assumptions may help you to recognize it.
Stress and anxiety relief can often be a do-it-yourself project. For many simple things you encounter, all you need is to learn, and practice using, tools like the ones offered in this book. And yesterday I was reminded of what incredible work people have been doing in this field to help people who are so traumatized by stress that they can barely function. I spent the day attending a virtual workshop with Peter A. Levine, Ph.D., developer of Somatic Experiencing, a body focused treatment for toxic stress. His work, the work of Bessel Van der Kolk, M.D. and others on the cutting edge of this field have so much to offer and so much to teach about healing that I am awed. This field is certainly worth many lifetimes of study and I am thrilled to learn more about how many different areas are being carefully examined. If you are someone who struggles to maintain your equilibrium on a moment by moment basis, please seek the help of an experienced therapist who is integrating and applying the information in Logosynthesis or one of the other developing fields. Healing is definitely possible and does not need to involve indefinite drug use.
After nearly a year of attending The Mystery School with Jean Houston I was very confused. I was different in ways that pleased me but I did not understand how the change had happened. I did not know exactly why I flew 2000 miles across the country once a month to do the strange things that were a part of the process of this training. I only knew that I felt extremely drawn, almost compelled to be there. I also trusted that nothing Jean did would be harmful to me. This trust was based on a personal experience 10 years earlier, on reading her books and on the experience of a thoughtful friend. I was very fortunate that when I enrolled in this process, I had been invited by another trusted teacher, Dr. Lawrence LeShan, to consult with him about my experiences. As I sat in Larry's office he questioned me carefully about how I had changed. Then he congratulated me for moving into the next stage of my maturation. I had accomplished a major growth step simply by following appropriate instructions. Maybe that is one of the reasons I was open to learning about Logosynthesis. I hope you are willing to experiment with this very safe process to allow it to change your life.
Holding on to something familiar makes you feel safe. There is nothing at all wrong with that. You are a human being and that is what humans do, both physically and emotionally. When you're little you literally cling to your parents. As you get a little bigger you may cling to a familiar blanket or toy to manage anxiety in an unfamiliar situation. Then you hold on to familiar ideas. In kindergarten, my son and one of his friends almost came to blows when one claimed that the tooth fairy was really Mom. You may even have been told how wrong it would be to give up this belief. You are afraid of not belonging--of being excluded from your friends or family if you give up some old belief. Furthermore, you suspect that you will feel strange and uncomfortable without your belief (or memory or object or hope.) Then you watch your favorite media which also reminds you of how important it is to keep holding on. You feel even more anxious about letting go. The truth is that learning to let go opens you to new growth and possibilities and actually relieves that anxiety. Use the tools in this book to help you experience the joy and freedom that comes with this new skill.
Creating the right word or phrase to use as a target for the Logosynthesis sentences is a challenge for most people. Don't let that stop you from playing with the process. The worst thing that can happen to you if you do this "wrong" is nothing. You will be left with exactly the same frozen energy you started with. Even when nothing much happens when you practice the process you may have what seems like a random thought. Instead of dismissing it, consider the possibility that that thought is a clue to a more useful target. One of the beauties of this process is that you can't predict the outcome. You simply choose the best target description that you can and trust that your essence or higher self will use it in the best way it possibly can. Some people have immediate and strong responses when they experience the process. Others experience little or nothing to let them know if something shifted. The way I usually find out is that I completely forget about the challenge I was trying to manage. I sometimes don't even notice that I have forgotten until I am reminded several days later. So go ahead and practice the process described in the book. At the very least, you will learn something about yourself.
As a psychotherapist, I have worked with Life Scripts for at least 45 years. A Life Script is a story we each create at a time in life when our understanding of cause and effect is very limited. We take many small experiences like Emily's and by the time we have finished grade school we have usually decided what kind of person we are and what happens to people like us in the world. We make plans for our lives that sound a lot like "because of these experiences I need to act in this way." We more or less unconsciously create a plan or "script" that leads us to do certain things and avoid doing certain other things throughout our lives. Occasionally these plans are dangerous or even lethal when people have experienced abuse or neglect as children. More often these plans are simply limiting. They show up as limiting beliefs in your life. They make sense in the situation you are in when you make the decisions that lead to these beliefs. It is only later in life that you may feel the uncomfortable effects of living by them. You can use the Logosynthesis process described in this book to effectively dissolve these beliefs and regain your life options.
I have had several emails lately from readers who are afraid Logosynthesis won't work for them because they are trying to release too many things at the same time. This tool simply does not work that way in a do-it-yourself situation. It is more like eating the elephant one bite at a time. I know that for many people, the distress you are experiencing feels like being weighed down by an elephant. Still, you need to start practicing with small things. You can't predict what images or thoughts will arise any time you say the sentences. Often those thoughts will dissolve as you proceed through the process. If they don't, they become excellent targets for future practice. I often think of healing as taking an unknown path through an unknown terrain to an unknown destination. Start small, with something that is a current irritation as a target. Be as specific as possible and just notice what happens. Chances are good that you will start a growing and healing process.
I recently received a note from someone who was reading this book. It was headed "A Long Time Ago." He wrote of an old memory of his wife of 42 years. The memory was of watching his wife with a different young man at a time she had rejected him in favor of the other man. Although things had obviously changed and she eventually chose him, he wrote that he was still disturbed by the picture of that old event that is still coming into his awareness over 42 years later. This is a vivid example of freezing energy when you are overwhelmed by an event that you don't have the resources to manage. As a young man he may have felt overwhelmed by feelings of jealousy and helplessness at the sight of a girl he felt so attracted to with someone else. Since he did not have a way to process those feelings, he froze them. Now the image he kept seeing was the message about the frozen energy. The image represents far more than the actual scene it shows. But it’s not necessary to know the full story of what else the image represents to recover the frozen energy. Logosynthesis uses just 3 sentences that include words describing his image, to reclaim his frozen energy.
I keep getting emails from readers telling me they have followed the steps in this book and experienced remarkable relief from anxiety and stress. Then, occasionally someone asks me why the process works. And my answer is, "I don't really know." Part of me thinks it is important to know. After all, as an undergraduate, I studied to be a scientist. As a healer, I know many things that truly help people change the way they feel and act have no rational explanations. Logosynthesis may eventually be scientifically validated. I certainly hope so. I also know that while our toolkit for understanding our brains and minds is constantly expanding, it is also very limited. I once heard a prominent scientist answer a question by saying, "We don't have the tools to measure that yet." I loved her answer! It is important to keep asking the question and looking for answers. But not knowing something yet doesn't mean anything is wrong with what we are doing. It just means we are still exploring. It may be even more important to keep practicing the process. Whether or not we understand why it works, we can become more skilled in working with it to relieve pain and find the joy we seek.
When I first learned about the powerful Logosynthesis process, I printed out the sentences onto an index card. I put the card in a drawer near my computer--and left it there! At the times I really needed to release stress, I often simply forgot about this powerful resource. Even now, when it has become an important part of my life, I find myself making notes in my journal about things I need to "Logo." I still forget sometimes. As I was writing this book, I knew I needed to do something to encourage my readers to PRACTICE! This entire chapter is filled with suggestions and readers still forget once an immediate crisis has passed. I have even used "anything that keeps me from remembering this tool," as a target. I think the best way to have this tool available when you need it is to make practice a regular part of your day. The way I use it is at bedtime when I am reviewing my day. I can easily notice one item that still holds stuck energy. I usually do it quickly and sleep better because of it. When is a time in your routine where you can put in some practice time?
You know intuitively when something is draining your energy. All you need to do is pay attention to your self-talk. I hear myself saying things like, "It's tiring just to be in the room with her." I also hear, "I just can't stop thinking about this situation." I bet you do too. When I was learning to use this process, I was repeatedly surprised by how quickly the Logosynthesis process let me release my energy from the stuck places and how easy it was to not even notice anything had happened. People have different responses to the process. Some experience intense waves of shifting energy. Not me--usually I don't notice a thing right away. It is sort of a non-experience and I wonder if anything has changed. Then, a short time later, I may notice that the pictures and conversation in my mind have shifted. My self-talk has changed and I am no longer putting any energy into the problem that I had been focused on. This low key experience is like a delayed action response and if you experience it, don't let it worry you. It does help to keep notes to remind yourself about what you have done. Otherwise you may totally forget that you ever had that particular problem.
Writing this book was taking an unknown path to an imagined destination and I was incredibly grateful when my early readers gave me feedback that let me hope I had accomplished my goal. I was trying to take a deceptively simple technique that nobody fully understands and explain it so that naive readers might use it to change their relationships to stress and suffering. This process, the integration of many very complex thought lines, had already helped me make important changes in my work and my personal life. I felt like I was walking a thin line between old and new views of the change process itself and doing my best to honor both perspectives. I am grateful to the colleagues and friends around the world who acted as sounding boards for me as I wrote the pieces that made up this book. Yet, I practically held my breath when I asked new people to read the complete manuscript. I am especially grateful to Dr. Willem Lammers of Switzerland, who originally discovered this process, helped me learn it, and asked me to create this book in the first place. And I am grateful that he has now taken the resulting work and had it translated and distributed in German.
Finding a new way to look at life challenges is the core to rapid anxiety relief. Most conventional self-growth training says to look at the story of what happened that is creating or has created distress in your life. Then examine the story in detail and learn to relate to it in a new way. This can be painful and take a lot of time. Logosynthesis is different. It is not about the story!!! It is about where you have stored the frozen life energy when you could not manage the problem when you originally encountered it. One way of looking at this is that you once did something to create a protective shield to take care of yourself. Now that shield is getting in your way. Instead of looking at why you created the shield, you use the sentences to dismantle the shield. The reason you created the shield in the first place may have been forgotten long ago. In any case, spending energy on why you built a shield or wall that you no longer need is not an especially good use of your current energy. You use the sentences to let it go.
A very logical-minded individual asked me to explain this word that I use so frequently. I started by saying I don't really know. Wikipedia has pages on the topic. It starts with a ability to get something done. It is a "conserved quality" of something. It goes on to list 14 different forms of physical energy. Yikes! Then there are ideas like human energy and chi--and we sort of understand that those words are an attempt to explain an experience we all share. We know when we feel able to be present and engage with the world and each other. We know when we can barely drag ourselves to our next activity. We know that quality is revived with food, drink and human contact. It's something we share yet it is almost impossible to define. Yet, I talk about your energy being stuck and you understand, or at least sort of understand what I am saying and can use my words to help change your life. Every now and then I realize that there is much more happening than I understand and that that is still OK. We are traveling this path together.
I have always loved this quote. There are so many things I have accepted because people I trusted told me they were possible. Often those things worked and sometimes they didn't. Sometimes I understood why, but more often, I shrugged and moved on. We as human beings are way too complex for us to fully understand on biological, biochemical, physical and social levels. Once, I was privileged to hear the late Candice Pert answer a question most other distinguished scientists would have dismissed. She said, "We don't have the technical tools to examine that, yet!" I offer Logosynthesis in this book from this perspective. It is a method that has been extremely helpful for many people. I have personally observed its usefulness for myself and others. I offer it for you to experiment with and to learn whether it is useful for you.
Jack and Jill, a popular children's magazine ran a feature called, "I Used to Think..." where an 8-year-old could contribute a story about an old misconception about the world. Beliefs like "the tree-tops touch the sky' and 'my mom always knows where I am' were common. I watched 2 6-year old boys almost come to blows about whether the tooth fairy was real, and I simply could not convince a 4-year-old that it was a cartoon character and not he who had smashed the monster. It is completely normal for children to believe this way. And it's the job of parents and other care takers to gently help kids to understand how the world really works. The problem comes when children don't talk about their beliefs about the world--especially when they are under stress. Parents often accidentally cause cause the stress by making threats or promises or simply repeating ordinary statements like 'boys don't cry' or 'stop asking for stuff.' If you were on the receiving end of experiences like this, and most of us were, they may still be shaping your view of the world. It may be time to start really listening to the stories you tell yourself and see if they are causing unnecessary anxiety or stress in your life.
I need to reorganize my kitchen. My consultant looked and commented that I have lots of stuff I probably don't need. She is absolutely right. Yet, I don't want to let it go! I know why. My parents lived through the depression and taught me to conserve everything because I might need it someday. That is still true I suppose. More important, I carry the memory of their disapproval, left over from anytime I wasted a resource, frozen deep within myself. They actually did manage to downsize and release a lot of their stuff, but I was not close by to witness their doing so. The frozen energy from many years ago is still impacting my life today. I know I can and eventually will take on this challenge and use the Logosynthesis process to help me release the stuck energy. Meanwhile, I still have overstuffed cabinets and drawers. Did you read this because you too have too much stuff? Do you know why you are holding on and where your energy is stuck? Are you willing to find out? And are you willing to join me in the challenge of letting it go?
While reading science fiction as a teenager, I believed that I could learn to do the special things the heroines of the stories could do--if I could only find the right teacher. In the course of my life and career I have been blessed to find many such teachers. One of the most important things I learned is that there is much more depth and complexity in the world than I can possibly understand. Another important lesson is that if you engage in certain practices while holding certain beliefs about the world, unusual things can happen almost routinely. A third, critically important lesson is to "not kill the question." That means to keep thinking and experimenting instead of labeling things and deciding I know an answer. It is this background that enabled me to embrace Logosynthesis and share its benefits with my readers, my clients and my students. I invite you to accept the magic and experience the process. Most people who do benefit from it.
You may think that the misunderstandings that are so common in childhood are just cute, but the truth is, they can shape your life. Because I know this, I have always considered it very important to help children understand the world as well as they possibly can. The problem is that many decisions you make as a child are unknown to the adults who cared for you so those untrue or partially true beliefs continue to exist. It is nobody's fault. It is just a part of how people work. So if something in your life is not working the way you want it to, it makes sense to check out what the fundamental belief about the world that drives that situation might be. Not too long ago it was very difficult to change that fundamental belief, even if you know, logically, that it does not make sense. Now, using the Logosynthesis process described in this book, changing the belief is as simple as repeating 3 sentences and letting your higher wisdom rearrange things and dissolve what no longer serves you.
You continue to make up stories to make sense of the world throughout your life. Often the stories are linked together by a common theme. If you were a child with an older sibling you often experienced not doing a task as well as someone else. The task might be climbing a tree or reading a story or making a peanut butter sandwich. The task doesn't matter, the experience of not doing things as well as someone else might lead to creating the story or belief, "I am not good enough." That story is retold in a new format every time you have a challenge learning something new. The basic story and belief is automatically reinforced. Fortunately, since you created the story in the first place, once you learn to notice telling it to yourself, you have the power to change it. Until recently, changing your story involved a complicated process of learning to focus and refocus on a different story and/or re-experiencing the painful emotions that led you to create the story in the first place. The Logosynthesis process you learn in this book is a very powerful way to help you change your story, permanently!
The actual process of saying the three sentences aloud is very simple. The reason I don't simply put those sentences into one on these short pieces is that the critical issue is learning to direct those sentences to a useful target. Choosing such a target takes much more understanding of how you freeze your energy than just saying the sentences. One of my biggest challenges has been to find ways to help my readers find the targets they need to easily reclaim their frozen energy. I recently created a 7-Day Challenge, "Secrets of Reducing Unnecessary Worry" to help you learn to create useful targets. It takes less than 10 minutes/day and it does include the sentences and instructions about using them. You are welcome to use this process yourself. It will cost you your email address so I can send you the material and reminders about using it. It will also cost you a bit over an hour of your time, spread over the 7 days of your choice. That's the only cost. You do it your way. It is entirely self-paced. You can get more information and register at www.LaurieWeiss.com/7daychallenge . Register right now while you are thinking about it.
In his amazingly comprehensive book, "Thank You for Being Late," Thomas Friedman has a chapter called "Just Too Dammed Fast." I feel that way a lot of the time. Do you? In revisiting this book, I realize that I did not include needing to release the small trauma's we encounter every day. I just read someone's Facebook post about frustration with 'unnecessary' changes to Skype. Just as you get familiar and comfortable with operating your favorite device, you are forced to upgrade to the next operating system. Everything changes instantly! And the world is getting faster every day. It's hard to adapt instantly to all of those minor traumas you face daily. And these stresses add up to a general wariness and anxiety for many people. Unless you are in the small percentage of people who love change, your sense of safety and security is challenged repeatedly. You need to let go of these daily mini-traumas just to live comfortably!
Do you feel guilty or ashamed because you just can't let go? Or do you get angry when someone assumes that letting go of what is troubling you should be easy? Lots of people react in these ways because most of us don't realize that no matter how much will power we apply to trying to really let go, it just doesn't work. That is because your brain is hard-wired to be hyper-sensitive to threats. It carefully stores any and all information about potential threats in a system that is something like a library. When a new situation comes up, your brain automatically compares it to all stored situations in order to warn you to protect yourself from danger. Once something goes into the library, you need very special tools to get it out. Will power is not one of those tools. It is sort of like trying to use a hammer to saw a piece of wood. It just doesn't do the job. You need a different tool. The Logosynthesis process I teach in this book is one of the few special tools that actually works.
When have you been in a stressful situation? Did you have the resources you needed to resolve the problem or did you close down a part of yourself for self-protection? I still remember a scene from my pediatrician's office when I was 4 or 5 years old. I was terrified at the prospect of the nurse pricking my finger to get a drop of blood! I screamed and balled my hands into tight fists. I buried my face in my mother's midsection. Finally the situation was resolved when the nurse uncurled a finger and got the sample without my even noticing. I was too busy screaming. When I was told it was over, I remember being surprised. I don't remember any further scenes ever, even when I had a series of allergy shots. I had the help and protection I needed to eventually manage that situation. But WHAT IF??? What if my mother had not been both sympathetic and loving? What if she or the nurse had yelled at me to shut up? What if I had been alone with the nurse? In any of those situations I could easily have been overwhelmed by something an adult would consider a minor inconvenience. If you were not protected, your energy may still be stuck in an incident you barely remember.
Emily's story is really about who she is and what she needs to do to have a right to be in the world. We all create stories that explain the world to us when we are children. Some are more or less benign like "I will grow up, get married and live happily ever after." But even that simple story line can be pretty limiting when it does not match the reality of having to work at any relationship to make it successful. Other stories are less happy. This might be "I will need to work hard for every single thing I get and never have time for fun." Some are even tragic like "I will die young just like my father did." In every case the story helps guide decisions you make about how to live your everyday life and limits your options. What story do you tell yourself about your life? Is it "I need to keep my feelings to myself?" or perhaps, "I would lose my friends if I did not do what they expect?" or perhaps, "I can't afford to take a vacation?" Whatever it is, consider giving it up and making fresh choices with more possibilities. The information about how to reclaim your energy from your stories will help.
How can I explain this astonishingly simple, profound experience in a way that makes it possible for a naive reader to take this strange new concept and actually use it? I pondered this question for a full year after I was asked to write a Logosynthesis book for a general audience. I wanted to create a user-friendly experience that bridged several cultures because this process is much better known in Europe than it is in the US. And I wanted my audience to know the good news that transformation no longer needs to be painful. Since I actually had been teaching this process for several years, I had developed a process that my students seemed to like. But that process involved being able to tell about my own experiences while encouraging those students to try the process themselves and adapting it to each one's prior experience. How could those students experiences be translated into a useful form? Finally I asked for help--on Facebook--and volunteers from 7 different countries joined my “Little Logosynthesis Book” team and agreed to read and comment on each chapter I created. With their help, this book emerged. I was thrilled when early readers affirmed that together we created a practical and usable book that actually guides the reader to experience this potentially life-changing process.
So many self-help programs pretend that all it takes is willpower and planning to make a big difference in your life. What they neglect is that you need to reset the automatic pilot you created by telling yourself stories about why things happened when you were small. Otherwise every change you make will be temporary and easily undone. You created these stories with an immature brain that was doing your very best to make sense of your world and your relationship to your world. These stories helped you manage situations where you felt threatened in some way, whether the threat was real or imagined. I have spent my career as a psychotherapist helping my clients uncover and rewrite these stories in order to reset their automatic pilots. Now that reset can be accomplished faster and with much less drama and trauma using Logosynthesis, the process I teach you to use in this book. Once you reset your automatic pilot, permanent change can occur, sometimes almost effortlessly.
What story do you tell yourself over and over again? I'll bet you can't even identify it as a story. The first time I realized that something I thought was a fact was just a story, I was stunned. I was 30 years old and taking part in a professional seminar as a Junior High School teacher. I accidentally bumped a real Psychologist as I was getting up to get coffee and said, "Excuse me, I am so clumsy." Instead of responding politely he looked at me and asked, "Who told you that you were clumsy?" I was stunned! I stammered something about my parents calling me clumsy. By the time the meeting ended, I had become aware that, "I'm clumsy" was simply something I had been told and had very little to do with reality. It was a story I told myself that kept me from learning physical skills. My energy was frozen in the story. After I learned it was just someone else's story about me that I was telling myself, I was able to take back my energy and use it to learn skills I could have learned many years earlier. What limiting stories are you telling yourself that you simply heard from someone else? Would you like to reclaim your energy from those stories?
Are you still blaming your parents for what they did or did not do when you were growing up? Are you older now than they were when you froze your energy in response to their behavior? I remember the day that it occurred to me that my parents were just ordinary people living in a fairly restrictive world when I was a child. I could see how they were doing the best they could to show their obvious love for me, even though some of what I learned from them was causing me problems in achieving my own goals. I felt a profound sense of relief at that moment and my (then) current struggle with them simply evaporated. If you have not been privileged to experience such a moment, it would probably be useful to focus the sentences you learn in this book on some of the scenes you remember where your parents did not give you what you needed at the time. Keeping that energy frozen only holds you back from having the joy you could be experiencing in your life right now.
I just skimmed another magazine article about worry. The author's conclusion is we all do it, it's not good for us, and we should stop by thinking happy thoughts and doing good deeds. OK, I am being a bit glib, but basically that is what seems to be the common view of how to manage this kind of suffering. The truth of course is much more complex. Worry is a sign that your energy is stuck in some situation in the past or in anticipating some situation in the future. How it got stuck in the first place and how to release it is an ongoing challenge. Talk psychotherapy, which I have practiced for 45 years, addresses this issue by trying to understand what happened to freeze the energy in the past. The hope is that by understanding what happened, you will be able to let go of the worry and use the energy for other things. This approach works often enough to keep doing it. The problem is both clients and therapists focus on the story rather than the stuck energy. Since learning the approach I describe here, we can now release the frozen energy much more quickly and easily.
As a psychotherapist for 45 years I “know” from experience that people are affected by things that happened to them when they were children. Now scientific validation shows the correlation between “adverse childhood experiences” and problems later in life. The Center for Disease Control-Kaiser Permanente Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study is one of the largest investigations of childhood abuse and neglect and later-life health and well-being. www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/acestudy/ From 1995 to 1997 over 17,000 people received physical exams and completed confidential surveys about their childhood experiences and current health status and behaviors. And ACE’s are common!!! Almost two-thirds of participants reported at least one ACE, and more than one in five reported three or more ACEs. I believe each ACE is a childhood experience that most children do not have sufficient resources to manage. Therefor they freeze their energy to protect themselves. I believe that learning to release the frozen energy helps protect us from the otherwise negative effects shown in the study. The research shows that as the number of ACEs increases so does the risk for a long list of difficulties in adult life. The list includes addictions of all kinds, depression, financial stress, many physical illnesses and many types of violence. If this fascinates you the way it does me, start with the link above and explore.
When you learn to use this process, you don't get to decide what outcome you want and do something to produce it. The conscious part of you can't (and eventually learns not to even bother trying) to rearrange your energy. As a Logosynthesis practitioner I had to learn that I could neither predict nor control the outcome when I worked with my clients. As a psychotherapist and as a business owner and manager, I found that disconcerting at first. Many people do. We are accustomed to trying to plan, predict and control our lives and are often encouraged to do so. And that process works just often enough to make us believe that we are somehow failing if we we aren’t in control. Trying to control what happens when using these three sentences slows down the process of self-healing that Logosynthesis activates. What works best is to trust your deepest and truest Self to know and do what is best for you.
Miracles are now so routine in my life that I barely realize how impactful they are. I wrote this a few months after learning about this tool, when I was still awed by it. "I am being willingly seduced by the power of a new tool that appears to help people make remarkably rapid positive changes in their lives." In our first "Logosynthesis Self-Coaching Study Group" we learned how easily we could teach interested people to use a few focused sentences to dissolve their reactions to past, present or anticipated stressful situations. One of the participants shared with us. "My first experience of it was a demonstration working with my wife, Barbara, on her tendency to overreact to what she sees when she's a passenger in a car. This is something I had experienced for many years and which seemed to be getting worse. It happened frequently and involved a stomping foot or that gasp somebody might make as they suddenly see the train that's about to take them out. It stopped completely after the one five or ten minute process. Barbara expressed her own amazement for days afterward. She continues to ride with remarkable equanimity, especiallywhen you consider that my driving habits haven't changed." Woody M. It used to take us many client sessions to accomplish similar results.
Denise told me that she had let go of the experience of being sexually abused as a child and had forgiven her abuser. So she was shocked when a recent event had re-awakened all of her feelings about that horrible time in her life. As we explored what had happened she described feeling intensely unworthy and dirty. We used the process described in this book to release the belief we uncovered--the belief that she was responsible for being hurt. Ten minutes later the belief and feelings that went with it were gone. Three weeks later she was still doing fine and, reviewing the situation, she discovered that she had followed instructions about how to manage forgiveness as an adult. The problem was that the part of her that had frozen her energy to protect herself from an impossible to manage situation, had not been Wasaddressed with those useful "how to" instructions. It took releasing the frozen energy to truly find peace.
Are you still angry about the times your Dad promised to show up at your game and didn't? How about the times that your Mom insisted that you stay home and babysit when you wanted to be with your friends? Often you hold onto resentments like this because you felt helpless and decided that someday, some way, that mean parent would realize how badly you had been treated and apologize. Holding onto those resentments is a way of freezing energy. Noticing when you resent something in the past that nothing can possibly change can be a signal to you of a place where you can reclaim that frozen energy. It helps if you get clear about the fantasy or belief that goes along with the original resentment. Is it that the culprit will be sorry and change? Is it that you will get back at them in some way? Once you understand that secret hope, then you can use the Logosynthesis process to reclaim your frozen energy.
Not processing difficult situations to release frozen energy can cause later problems. Almost every addiction, whether it is to alcohol, drugs, food or even work started as a way to help you feel better when you had an uncomfortable experience. The experience could have been the stress of living in a home where you witnessed emotional or physical violence and drinking alcohol or using drugs helped you relax. Or you could have learned to distract yourself from the stress with work. Or perhaps when you were small, each time you experienced difficulty you were consoled with cookies and you learned that food was the way to feel better. The problem in each case is that it takes more and more of the pain relieving substance to produce the same amount of relief and you then need the substance just to feel normal. Healing from an addiction is a complicated process. Often releasing your energy from the original problem reduces the pressure to use the substance to try to feel better.
If letting go is such a challenge, why bother to do it at all? Many people don't. If you are among the 54% of people in the US who have not experienced "adverse childhood experiences" and don't mind putting up with occasional upsets, that is certainly a valid choice. If you are reading this though, you probably find that current reactions to past difficulties are causing problems in your life. Research shows that the more of those adverse experiences you have experienced, such as: *parents or guardians who divorced, separated, died, or were jailed, *witnessing any violent behavior *living with anyone with mental health or addictions, the more likely you are to have mental and physical problems. Fortunately it is now much easier to recover your energy from your reactions to those events and prevent the serious after-effects of those problems. This book will show you how using just the power of words will allow you to reclaim your life energy from those reactions.
Is it about road rage or something someone close to you says? It doesn't matter. It's hard to stay in control! When it happens to me, I am usually shocked at what I want to say and do--often about something I had long since forgotten about. My brain is hijacked (a Daniel Goleman term) and on one level, I am certain I must fight, or run, or freeze! When I wait a few seconds my thinking mind catches up and sometimes I can figure out how to respond in a rational way. I thought there was nothing I could do about this except learn to breathe deeply until I stopped shaking. I was wrong! The right words can unhook this reaction. Just 3 sentences with the correct target can change everything.
If you are fairly comfortable in your life, occasional experiences of anxiety and depression may not bother you. You believe this is just the way things are. It's especially true if you believe that it will be difficult and time consuming to change. Yet holding on to old resentments, fears, and hopes can sap your energy. If you are very uncomfortable in your life you may want to change but fear delving into the trauma of your past that leads to your comfort discomfort. Until I discovered Logosynthesis, the process I teach in this book, I had to work very hard to help my clients take on the challenge and to help them cope with the discomfort they experienced. Thankfully, that pain and difficulty no longer is required. Saying the special sentences that focus on the cause of your discomfort is easy to do, and the discomfort is often minimal or non-existent.
You often feel anxious when something reminds you of the things that overwhelmed you at some time in your past. That's especially true if you tried to manage a difficult situation by freezing your energy and deciding to never think about something again. Then you conveniently forgot that you ever made the decision. It is like having a double lock on a door to try to stay safe. You probably have a lot more resources now than you had at the time you made those decisions. Even if you don't, those locks have side effects that cause other problems. Psychotherapists and other healers have been working toward helping you examine and/or reset your reactions to those experiences for a very long time. The process of Logosynthesis is the most effective way I have ever encountered to allow this reset to happen. After it happens, the anxiety and other side effects vanish.
Sometimes, when you think you want to let something go but keep holding on anyway, a part of you has another agenda. That part of you secretly thinks that you can magically change the outcome of something that happened in the past--if only.... If only you had said something different, if only you were stronger, if only you had left the party a few minutes earlier, then things would be different. If you want to let go of remembering how angry you are because of the way someone treated you, you may have to let go of the fantasy that, somehow, something you say or do now will change what happened back then. It won't! What happened, can't be changed. What can be changed is your fantasy or secret belief or secret hope that you have the power to fix the past. Once you let go of the fantasy, letting go of the original event will be much easier.
The nursery was ready and it was time, but it didn't go as planned. Over 50 years ago my first baby was stillborn. I was in total shock and disbelief. I had done everything "right" throughout the pregnancy and could not even imagine the idea of not coming home from the hospital with a baby. I was numb at first, then incredibly sad and disillusioned. Most people I met tried to console me with some variation of, "You’re young and healthy, you can have another one." I was just supposed to let it go but I couldn't. Not only was I grieving but my whole view of how the world worked was destroyed. Most loses are not as life-shattering as that one, but still, it can be really hard to let go and move on. Even a tiny loss can cause us to get stuck. Fortunately, a good therapist helped me move back into the world then. About 10 years and 2 healthy children later I encountered a process that finally allowed me to truly let go. Now, thankfully, we have the tools to let go much more quickly and with much less pain. I want you to have them. Please read this book and make those tools a part of your life.
When you use the Logosynthesis sentences, you need to insert a target which represents whatever is causing the disruption in your energy flow. Today one of my clients was doing her best to cope with changes she is experiencing in many areas of her life. She reported doing well most of the time but overreacting to some simple things like roads being blocked for repairs that inconvenienced her. The flow of her life energy was definitely disrupted. She recognized that she was "on edge" because of other changes in her life. Yet many of those changes were natural and expected. When we explored where her energy was stuck we discovered that while one part of her was moving forward, another part was being critical--not of herself or other people but of the basic idea that things are changing. The target that we chose was "this belief that the world should not be changing." I guided her through the sentences and she experienced relief, acceptance and relaxation. This book is designed to help you develop the skill of finding a useful target for the sentences so you can use them to re-balance your own energy.
I love the title of this book, "If How-Tos Were Enough We Would All Be Skinny, Rich and Happy." Every time I open my email someone is telling me how to do something I want to do in some fantastic new way. I want those things done and sometimes I even sign up for them, yet I rarely complete them. When I look at why, I remember unfinished sewing projects hanging on the back of my door when I was a teenager. I finished the things that were coming together the way I had pictured them. I managed to never get around to finishing those that were not really working out. My mother nagged me to finish them. I knew how to finish them, but I really did not want to finish them. Yet no one told me what to do when I knew something was not working. I had to wait till much later in my life to learn to let go! And obviously, I am still learning!
Today I did the physical motion of paddling a boat while taking a Pilates class. I was immediately vividly aware of paddling a boat under very challenging conditions on a lake in Alaska during a tourist expedition. That experience exhausted me so thoroughly that I became vulnerable to a virus. That virus took me out of my normal life for 3 uncomfortable months. The Alaska experience happened 10 years ago and I had not re-experienced that paddling memory in at least 9 years. It was triggered simply by a taking a similar physical position! That kind of flashback can happen to anyone, anytime. When the flashback is to a traumatic experience, the Logosynthesis process described in this book can relieve the discomfort of the feelings associated with the memory.
A remarkable book I just finished, Sickened: The True Story of a Lost Childhood, by Julie Gregory tells in painful detail about how much of one child's life energy was frozen in an attempt to survive an impossible situation. This book vividly highlights just how dependent children are. As an adult it takes many difficult years for this damaged child to reclaim her own life and disentangle herself from her own life-preserving responses to this pervasive trauma. As children we trust, love and want to obey. We have little concept of any way to experience the world outside the one our parents believe in and explain to us. In Julie's case, her mother defined her as sick when she was not. Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy. Even in much less toxic situations parents who carry scars from their own pasts often can't provide the resources their children need. And so the cycle continues. We each need to reclaim the energy we used to protect ourselves. The process shared in Letting It Go helps each user reclaim the energy frozen in the struggle to get what we need in the wold.
I want so much for this book to help readers ease unnecessary suffering. That is the reason I wrote it. I know from my professional and personal work with Logosynthesis and reader reviews that the process works and readers have been using it successfully. I keep thinking about all the people it could help If they knew about it. One way to spread the word is to to get it into libraries. The process of preparing and explaining why this book, among all the hundreds of thousands available deserves a space on a library shelf is detailed and time consuming—and I am doing it. You can help by asking your librarian to add it to your library collection. Then tell your friends it is available. Of course, the more reviews there are, the easier it is to convince new readers to give it a try. If you have left a review, thank you very much. If not, please go to wherever you READ reviews and add a bit about your experience with the book or the process.
A professional coach who is using Logosynthesis to release her own stress told me that what she really needed was "target practice." Others nodded in agreement. Yet a few days later many many of my personal growth students, came up with useful, significant targets for themselves in just a few minutes of discussion after hearing some of the sample targets in Chapter 6. They were very clear about where their energy was stuck. Maybe the professionals are so used to looking for deeper meaning that they over-complicate things. It isn't difficult to listen to the running conversation you are having with yourself. Anything that you keep thinking about probably has frozen energy that would make an excellent target for the Logosynthesis sentences.
We have so much energy frozen into our experiences and beliefs about money that sometimes I wonder how anyone can successfully manage his/her financial life. Maybe that is because negative experiences about money are so painful. Energy gets stuck when things don't work, not when they do. So when you are a child and want something but can't have it because it cost too much all kinds of glitches can happen. Of course every commercial screen you see encourages that want! You can be shamed by a parent who says, "Do you think I'm made of money?" You can make up a story that you don't deserve what you want because there is something wrong with you. You can make up a story about how a mean parent is depriving you of something. If you are lucky you get a useful educational experience about saving and spending. Logosynthesis can help release the stuck energy. It is so useful that we have even taught a day long workshop to help people sort out this issue.
Ongoing research about trauma is helping me to understand that our brains store traumatic images differently than they store ordinary memories. Traumatic memories are stored in disconnected fragments instead of coherent stories. That may be because all of those details in one place would be too overwhelming to manage. That is also part of the reason those traumatic memories are so hard to "just let go." It's as if you want to assemble a jigsaw puzzle, but some of the pieces are in a kitchen drawer while others are under your pillow and most of the others are in a box in the closet. Before I had Logosynthesis as a tool, I thought it was necessary to assemble all the pieces of the trauma to let it go. Then I learned how to help a client release a single important piece of the stored traumatic memory. Amazingly, once this was done, the rest of the assembly job became unnecessary.
Do you ever wonder what makes it so easy for some people to send back food that isn't properly prepared at a restaurant while to others, the very thought of sending it back causes intense anxiety so they suffer in silence? It probably has something to do with a past event or events you have completely forgotten about. When we feel overwhelmed by something we can't manage, we often solve the problem by quickly putting it out of our awareness--forgetting that it even existed. This effectively freezes energy around that problem. So if you were ignored or punished or shamed when you complained about something long ago, your brain registered that as something to avoid forever. When you might like something to change now, you feel anxious without knowing it's about a forgotten incident or pattern from your history.
Ouch! I heard myself thinking "I still resent that..." and realized how much energy I had frozen into something I had tried to change and simply couldn't. Many of my clients hold resentments about things they have not even tried to change. In any case, resentment is a way of saying I want to stay angry about this--whatever this may be. Resenting something often involves the hidden fantasy that if I stay angry it will hurt the person or thing that did not do what I expected or wanted. The Logosynthesis sentences can be very effective in retrieving the energy that is frozen into any kind of resentment. Just listen for the word "resent" and use it as a signal that your energy is waiting there for you to retrieve it.
My iphone froze on day 2 of a 10-day vacation. I spent hours following every on-line protocol I could find to get it going again--to no avail. Finally my husband took over talking to tech support on his phone and as I sat waiting for the verdict and upset about the wasted vacation time, I heard a voice in my mind saying "You're a bad girl." At the same time I experienced a wash of shame! Wow! Where did that come from??? I first thought defensively--"I didn't do anything wrong!" Then realized I had just stumbled on a piece of stuck energy. It did not really matter where it came from. I used the target "this experience of believing I am a bad girl" with the Logosynthesis sentences and felt better immediately. The phone has a hardware problem and I will get it repaired or replaced when I get home.
One of the first things I learned about using Logosynthesis as a tool to help others reduce anxiety is to not assume anything. Here I am trying to help my reader understand that nobody knows what anybody else is really thinking or feeling! By showing how wrong my assumption was about what was troubling my friend, I hope my reader will be reminded of how easy it is to make mistakes. Of course, the solution is easy! Just ask! Ask yourself, ask your learning partner--"what part of this distresses you the MOST?" That is most likely to be the best clue to finding a useful target. I used my friend's answer to get the target so perfectly that she completely forgot what she was scared about.
During a recent discussion of using this process, one of the participants said, "If you hear a target in what I am saying, tell me." As a very experienced professional it is now fairly easy for me to find the target to use in this simple process. But I have struggled to find an easy way to help my students and my readers find their own targets. One of the simplest ways I have discovered is to start paying attention to emotional intensity. That intensity usually shows up when you come close to a disturbing memory or anticipate a possible problem in the future. Once the target is identified it becomes easy to do the work.
A feeling or emotion is a natural response to something you experience. The experience can be real or imagined. It can be happening now, remembered from your past, or anticipated in the future. Most systems for change focus on changing your feelings. Logosynthesis (this process) has a different focus--the real or imagined experience that triggered your feeling. Your stuck energy is located in the experience that comes just before your emotional response.
Are you tired? Losing energy is such a common experience that most people barely notice it. Of course, the activities of your daily life regularly use up your energy. The problem is that you often put a lot of energy into worrying about things you can't control, trying to make perfect decisions when good enough is good enough and other useless pursuits. This process is a quick and easy way to find and reclaim this lost energy. It will also help you just stop doing those energy draining activities.
Energy either flows naturally or it gets stuck. This image makes sense to almost everyone. You can understand the image because you have seen the flow of water changed or stopped in many different situations. And you know how to release the flow again by removing whatever is interfering with the flow. It is a problem with a solution. When your energy is stuck it does not mean there is something wrong with you. It is simply a problem of releasing what interferes with your energy flow.
When I was just starting to use Logosynthesis in my practice I was used to being very cautious about asking for information about traumatic situations. That's because clients were reluctant to even think about the past because of the pain it evoked. When I learned to ask a different kind of question about the situation I was surprised at how easy it was for my 17-year-old client to remember and talk about his part of her experience.
Experiencing stress, whether it comes from our own urge to grow and explore or from some outside source, can be either helpful or toxic. When you have the resources to manage a stressful challenge, you may feel a sense of excitement and success as you master a new skill. But you live in a complicated, challenging world and if you don't have the resources you need, the stress becomes toxic. I wrote this book to help you learn a new way to release that stress.
Listening to your true Self is a lot like what many people call listening to your heart or listening to your inner wisdom. Some people even call it listening to your gut. The important part here is learning to pay attention to your inner guidance. That means learning to know the difference between impulses and reactions and a quieter, more subtle messaging system. I hope these few paragraphs help you tune in. Just remember, your true Self is not your ego.
The Logosynthesis sentences still seem magical to me. It isn't at all unusual for someone to trip on some present event that reminds them of a past trauma. During most of the years I practiced psychotherapy it could have taken several sessions of skilled work as a therapist to help my client detach from that trauma. And it probably would have involved him re-experiencing the original trauma. Now, using the sentences, the process is so simple and painless that it can be done in just a few minutes.
Encapsulated pain consumes your available energy. The more energy you used to protect yourself from difficult situations in the past, the less you have available to live your life now. When you feel exhausted, depressed and stuck, it may be because so much energy is stuck protecting yourself from situations you could now manage easily. This book is about helping you reclaim that energy to use in your life now--and to do it simply and easily.
Letting go for a baby means the slow process of becoming an independent human being. But this process shows up in lots of other ways. I have been fascinated at all the times everyone needs to go through this process in everyday life. I am not sure why it's easier for some people than for others. Some people love cleaning out their closets and keeping only things they love. Others, like me, keep thinking, "I might want this someday." It's a strange truth that sometimes we even need to let go of happy things to make room for whatever comes next.
I once read a book that said something like, "you surivied--your parents did their job" and since I was still blaming my parents for what their imperfections had done to me, I was a bit resentful. I hope this helps clear up the expectation that anyone can give another human being everything he or she needs. You react to an imperfect environment by doing the best you can using the limited resources you have at the time. That means shutting down your awareness of it by locking up some of your energy. You have more resources now and it's time to reclaim that energy to use now!
Once upon a time--a long time ago--I over-reacted regularly. I had no idea that my energy was stuck in experiences of being criticized by my father. Now, It's embarrassingly easy to identify because I would yell at my husband for relatively small infractions. Not returning my scissors to the right drawer was enough to set me off. So was putting away the pots in the wrong place. Serving my leftovers when it was his turn to cook would make me furious. I finally learned to be less territorial when he pointed out that I could choose between having his help in household chores or doing everything myself so it would be done correctly! I had to bite my tongue for years before I learned that I was safe even if everything was not the way my father would have wanted it to be. I was criticizing my husband the way my father had criticized me! Now, Logosynthesis makes it easy to remove my father's energy from where it had become frozen within me.
I have a long history of trying to disregard the signals my true Self sends me. Maybe you do to. My own favorite way of tuning out those signals is to eat. I have known clients to use every kind of addictive and compulsive to block these important messages. I think our fantasies of what would happen if we tuned in can seem truly overwhelming. In reality, I have experienced doing so as fascinating detective work. I hope reading about this makes it easier for you to notice the messages of your true Self and find the joy of reconnecting with your essence.
When you learn to do something in order, step by step, you learn to think like everyone else. I have always had trouble with this kind of learning so I had an advantage in learning this new process--Logosynthesis. I like thinking differently. When you learn healing skills you learn to focus on relieving suffering.Psychotherapists are trained to relieve the symptom by helping the client understand why it occurs. Much of western medicine uses medication to relieve symptoms each time they occur. Logosynthesis focuses on what the client experiences just before the symptom occurs--the trigger for the symptom. Once the trigger is identified we use words to dissolve it. Once the trigger is gone, it no longer can stimulate the symptom.
Holding on is easier...at first. Letting go and realizing that I will still be OK without the support is still tough for me so when I wrote this part I wanted to emphasize that this is a normal cycle for everyone. Nearly 50 years after the fact I can still remember my interrupted sleep when my son was a baby learning to pull himself up on the side of his crib. At 5 am I would stagger into the other room, unhook his tiny fists, lay him down, pat his back and try to soothe him back to sleep. I would go back to bed, doze off, hear more wails and repeat the cycle! I was holding on too--to the idea that he should learn faster and let me sleep. I learned, he learned and we repeated the struggle in hundreds of not thousands of ways over the years...
I love doing psychotherapy because it requires me to be "in the zone" with my clients. And I get to hear their fascinating and sometimes heartbreaking life stories. Now, using Logosynthesis as a tool, I still need to be "in the zone" but we no longer need to go through the painful and traumatic stories in order to relieve distress. All we need to know is what is triggering the client's current distress. Once we know that, saying the sentences and reclaiming the energy stuck in the trigger usually provides relief.
I discovered a bit of my own stuck energy many years ago in a yoga class. I was about 30. My teacher encouraged me to do a somersault, saying I was strong enough to do it. I resisted but finally tried it. When I was upside down I started to sob and kept sobbing for a long time. I had no idea why. Later, while studying psychotherapy I connected to the source of the problem. When I was about 4 I was in the surf with my father, he lost his grip on me and I was tossed upside down in salt water for what was probably a few seconds. I don't know what happened immediately afterwards, but 26 years later the trauma associated with the energy that got stuck was triggered by a similar (unusual) physical position.
Past stress does not need to be particularly traumatic to cause current problems. But the truth is that most people have no idea that much current anxiety and stress have very little to do with current events. When you did not have enough resources (love, attention and support from others) when something difficult happened, you tried to manage your distress by focusing on something else. When something current reminds you of your past distress you feel it again. Knowing that is the first step to healing the past so it does not interfere with the present.
Before I learned this process I could and would re-tell my stories of being wronged to whomever would listen. I liked telling my stories! And my friends would listen and share their stories too! A wonderful experience of mutual sharing and support. I knew I should let those stories go, but I just couldn't stop thinking about them. After I learned how easy it was to take my energy out of the story--not exactly forget the story--it just stopped mattering very much--I was no longer very interested in sharing it. I had to find new things to talk to my friends about...
It's not too much of a challenge for me to learn to think of problems as disturbances in the flow of energy. After all, I grew up reading Science Fiction and watching Star Trek. The biggest challenge was to help my readers disengage from thinking about external forces as the source of stress and anxiety that need to be managed. Instead I needed to help them see those events as markers that just direct us to the area we can actually impact--the places energy is blocked. This is the first section in which the idea of blockage in personal energy flow is introduced as important for relief. I develop it throughout the book.
I love the first sentence of this section. It is a part of the preface written by Dr. Willem Lammers, the discoverer of Logosynthesis, the rapid anxiety relief method described in this book. I was a bit reluctant to ask Dr. Lammers for this preface because my approach to teaching his material is so different from his. After all he is a European academic with incredibly deep knowledge of many different areas of healing. I am a non-traditionally trained psychotherapist and adult educator. In any case, I was thrilled with his response and I am delighted to share it with you here.
These are the words of Dr. Willem Lammers, the discoverer of Logosynthesis, the anxiety relieving process described in this book. His discovery was accidental--an intuitive jump he could only make from such a rich professional heritage. I am a professional colleague of Dr. Lammers in the International Transactional Analysis Association. When I was first introduced to this revolutionary method though, I dismissed it. It was not until I experienced it for myself that I understand how powerful it is. My goal is to share that understanding with you so that you can experience that power in your own life.
I used a team of volunteers to help me create and refine this book. Some were professional Logosynthesis practitioners from around the world who readily agreed to join my closed Facebook group. They were all very encouraging but I was concerned about whether someone who knew nothing about this revolutionary new process would find the material useful. Several people in my own community graciously agreed to read the work in progress and give me feedback about it. Karen was one of them. The next response is from a wonderful Swiss corporate consultant who gave me feedback about how to make this more useful to her clients. I am so grateful to all who helped me complete this project.
Truly, when most people look at their distress as a problem in energy flow, the problem becomes easier to solve. Instead of blaming yourself or someone else because of some interpretation--or misinterpretation--or what is happening around you or has happened in the past, you just look for stuck energy. The process for actually releasing the stuck energy involves ONLY using words to guide your true Self to to do the job. Once your energy is flowing again, you simply move on.
As I reread this section I remember how uncertain I was about even telling my good friends about this unusual approach to healing. I did not quite believe in it myself. I only knew that I had experienced some startling personal impacts when a professional friend used it with me. The training we had traveled over 2100 miles each way to attend had been somewhat confusing and results there seemed minor. All I was certain about was that the worst thing that could happen was nothing at all.
This passage tells the story of how I got hooked on this incredibly simple and profound new process. I had heard about it before but didn't sound very plausible to me so I dismissed it. I want to show my readers the results others have experienced to understand the benefits of learning more. I have been a therapist for 45 years. These results continue to startle me even after studying and using the process for over 5 years.
Many of my readers are ashamed of being stressed, feeling anxious and feeling exhausted. I want them to know that these kinds of problems are almost universal challenge for people trying to manage busy lives. This book is about a surprising, recent discovery that allows readers to manage these problems far more easily than every before. Although this is a powerful tool for psychotherapists, coaches and other people helpers to use in their work, almost anyone who wants to can use this book to learn to apply this new rapid stress-relief process to their own lives.
Is Your Marriage in Trouble? Would you like to know how to stay together when everything seems to be falling apart? Reconnect to Rescue Your Marriage: Avoid Divorce and Feel Loved Again has critical information for you. Dr. Weiss reveals thoughtful answers to questions asked by frustrated and scared men and women in desperate situations. Get expert advice on how to figure out: • What does it mean when you hear, “I want more romance?” • How can just one person save a marriage? • Should I ignore my partner's affair? Would you like to know what to do next? Reconnect to Rescue Your Marriage will guide you. Discover how to feel loved and connected to your spouse, avoid divorce and have a happy and successful marriage, starting right now. ‘Here are practical and insightful solutions to problems committed couples encounter in relationships. You’ll recognize yourself and benefit from the new perspectives you find in this gem of a book.” ----Dr. Jim and Ruth Sharon, Authors, Secrets of a Soulful Marriage: Creating and Sustaining a Loving, Sacred Relationship
If you are asking this question, you are definitely not alone. You're probably wondering if you should stay or leave your marriage. Being able to tell the difference between false hope and the real possibility of forgiveness makes a huge difference. Read this book now and learn what to look for. Get your copy now.
So you just had a fight. You were both letting off steam and now you're done. You just want both of you to feel better but you can't figure out to reconnect! And it just keeps happening. Ouch! This book helps you figure out what to do next. Click the order link and start reading your copy now.
I tried to post the Contents of this book that is newly posted to Bublish. I couldn't. To see that you will need to go to the "look inside the book" feature elsewhere. Meanwhile, here is a sample. If you feel disconnected from your partner, the answers to questions others have asked will probably help you reconnect. Check it out.
Are You Squabbling Instead of Communicating? Do you spiral into an argument whenever you try to talk about problems? Are you afraid the only answer is divorce? Would you like to get your relationship back on track? If you are ready to learn to have the conversations that build happy relationships, this resource-rich book will show you how!
Actually, we were both blindsided by our own assumptions about what marriage was supposed to be like. If that happened to you too, this book will help you sort out what you believe from what is actually happening--and help you talk about it too. Start reading it today! Get your copy now.
Are you afraid that if you try to talk about a problem with your husband (or wife) that you'll end up in an argument instead of a conversation? Does that mean that problems never get solved? That's why I wrote this book. Get your copy now!
Learning how to recognize and get out of this situation is one of the most powerful marriage counseling tools I use with couples. If your arguments go around in circles and you never solve anything, this is the book in this series that you need now. Don't wait. Read it and learn to avoid this relationship killing trap.
Are You Ready to Renew Your Relationship? Would you like to dissolve resentments and create the closeness you long for with your life partner? Being Happy Together: What to Do to Keep Love Alive shows you how to focus on what's right in your relationship and what you and your partner want to create together. In less than 10 minutes each day you'll learn: • How to tell the difference between a serious relationship problem and ordinary growing pains • Secrets to rescue relationships that are in trouble • What to do instead of fighting, so you'll feel loved and supported by your life partner • How to recognize the five natural stages of your relationship development so you both can safely navigate it to the next stage • 18 surprising ways to give each other what you really want most Order your copy and get started right now!
Do you agree to do things you really don't want to do? Then do you spend your time trying to figure out how to escape from your commitment? It may be time to find a different way. Try this and if you like it, there are another 124 activities in this book. Grab your copy now.
Sometimes letting someone else win an argument just to keep the peace is the worst possible thing you can do for your marriage. Sometimes it's the best. How the heck are you supposed to know which is witch? This book is deceptive. Doing these simple activities will make a big difference! Start with this and get the book to learn about 124 more ways to be happy together. Get your copy now.
Once the honeymoon is over and you realize that happily ever after is not what you thought it would be, it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with either of you. It just means it's time to learn new skills in order to build a healthy and vibrant relationship. Get a copy of this book and learn how you can do it together in less than an hour a week.
Do You Dream of Having an Incredibly Fulfilling Life Partnership? Get ready to deeply connect with the love of your life. Relationship Tips for Life Partners delivers the essential keys to grow beyond any limits you have and make your dreams come true. Discover these tested tips that couples use to create partnerships as you manage and negotiate challenges in: • Communication • Assigning and Doing Tasks • Setting Necessary Boundaries • Money Matters • And much, much more! These are the gateways you need to have the deep, loving conversations that build a relationship where you share both love and respect in your life together. “This is an amazingly helpful book. I have used the tips as an author/columnist on marriage issues, and after many years in my own marriage, my husband and I found them powerful in creating a deeper, stronger and even more loving relationship.” Dottie Lamm, MSW, Author, Daddy on Board
One couple complained about finger painting with chocolate pudding. "You should have told us to have clean sheets ready!!!" You never know where playing together will lead. Give it a try! Use these tips to create the relationship you really want! Get your copy today.
Life happens. It's way too easy to get involved in just doing what needs to be done. Here are just 3 of the tips that focus on doing what it takes to keep your relationship growing and glowing. Get your copy now!
I remember figuring out that my husband was managing to spend all our extra money on camera equipment--just because it took me longer to decide what I wanted. We needed to talk about it! It took a while to figure out how. Most people hate to discuss money issues and those issues often are huge challenges in relationships. Here are some of the tips we figured out and have used for many years. Get this book now and learn what works!
Here are 4 tips that are the crux of having a successful outcome to a difficult conversation. You may already practice them in a working situation. Allow the time it takes to practice with the one you love. Honor your partner by making sure you listen before you respond.
This book was born from frustration and edited with love by many people. If you follow the tips in this brief book, you will probably transform your relationship. And none of them are difficult.
Is Your Marriage At Risk?If either your or your spouse believes that:•A relationship will only work with the right person.•If a relationship is right, you shouldn’t have to work at it.•If you really loved me, I wouldn’t have to tell you what I want.•Falling out of love means that the relationship is in trouble.•You should avoid hurting your partner’s feelings in order to preserve your relationship.Your marriage is heading for trouble! Real relationships get messy because, even though you think your life partner is just like you, he or she isn't. You are two different people trying to meet the challenge of creating and maintaining a happy and loving relationship without much useful information. Stop Poisoning Your Marriage, this brief, no nonsense, information packed little book, will help you sort out the misconceptions, misunderstandings and challenges of creating the happy, loving and long-lasting relationship you desire and deserve! “This takes "demystifying" relationships to a whole new level. Bravo!” Terri Wilber, CHt, CNLP, Director, Pacesetter Leadership Dynamics, Program Director, PSI Seminars Get your copy now!
If you think you absolutely know what you are supposed to do to create a happy relationship, you may be in for an unpleasant surprise. There is an incredible amount of sensationalism and "fake news" available in the media to keep you confused. Read this book to help you sort out myths from reality. Get your copy now.
Feelings (emotions) are a very important part of being human. But when you let them rule your relationship you are probably in for trouble.
So many people panic when they realize they are no longer in love or even worse when they discover that their new spouse is no longer in love with them. Nobody has told them that this is completely normal. This is the time to start building the loving relationship that will truly support both of you.
Working at a relationship sounds a little grim. It isn't--and it shouldn't be. It is more like paying attention and not taking each other for granted. It's about figuring out what makes you both happy and being sure to keep doing that.
Don't you wish someone understood you so completely that they simply provided what you want without you needing to do anything at all? Me too--at least sometimes. Sadly, it just doesn't work that way. It's one of the biggest marriage myths around.
When Jim Edwards offered to interview us about why so many marriages fail, we were thrilled. But the interview stayed hidden until some of my clients demanded that I make it available. This book is an almost verbatim transcript of that interview.
Are You Ready to Discover Secrets About Marriage Women Need to Know but Seldom Share? Marriage doesn’t come with a manual! Once you get married there are always surprises. When dozens of women shared answers to the question, “What do you wish you had known before you were married?” they discovered they had lots in common. What they shared in Being Married: Secrets Women Wish They Knew will help you have a happier and more satisfying marriage! • Would you like to avoid the heartbreak of making poor choices? • Do you know what triggers you should NEVER ignore – before or after you’re married? • Can you tell the difference between his culture and values and yours? Learning that the fairy tales about marriage are usually not the truth is especially important for women contemplating getting or staying married.
Marriage is full of surprises. If you are wondering if other women feel the way you do, this is the book you need to read. I know this is longer than the other books in this series, but reviewers assure you it's really worth your time. Get your copy today!
If you are secretly wondering what marriage is really like or if your marriage really is different... If you believe it is possible for two to become one... If you are afraid this is your only chance... You need to learn the secrets about marriage that other women share here. Don't wait! Get your copy today.
When you meet someone new you are each probably trying to impress each other. You naturally show off the qualities you hope will impress your new acquaintance. So does he. It make take a long time to move past this step. Read Being Married to learn what may be beneath the nice surface.
Do you think you need to lose yourself in order to keep your relationship or lose your relationship in order to keep yourself? This myth simply isn't true anymore. But you no longer need to do figure out how by yourself. Read this book and let other women share what they have learned.
What do you wish you knew about being married. I have had women married up to 49 years tell me how helpful they found this book. Learning what other women experience can go a long way to relieving the isolation we all experience.
Yikes, the golden rule doesn't work very well. When you give others what you like best, they rarely give it back. When you give them what they like best, they are happier and may give you what you like. This is especially true when you are married to each other.
When I got married, I knew the right way to do things. Did you? Sometimes looking at why you believe something is right gives you interesting insights.
When two try to become one each needs to give up important parts of themselves. That is a setup for future heartbreak. There is a better way!
When I asked "What do you wish you had known before you were married?" women from 8 different countries shared similar answers. This was one of the most common...
I almost didn't write this book, that was originally published as "99 Things Women Wish They Knew Before Saying 'I Do.'" The publisher wanted me to fit her series and I was not sure I wanted to and I did not want to do the work of distilling what I knew women needed to know. Then a friend said, "We'll help you." and I realized that I could ask other women, lots of them, to answer my basic question. Actually, there were two questions: "Have you ever been married?" and, if the answer was yes, "What do you wish you had known before you got married?" I had a wonderful time doing the research. I asked the question wherever I was--in the locker room at the Y, in a sewing circle, waiting in line at the post office--you get the idea. The discussions were incredible. On line answers came from 8 different countries, and the resulting distillation of information provided women with information they really needed. The reviews were great. Read it, enjoy--and learn!
Are You Ready to Get Married? Struggling to decide if this is the right man? Wondering if this is the right time and if you will ever really find your soul mate? Find the answers to these critical questions in Are You My Perfect Partner: To Marry or Not to Marry …. Avoid making a huge mistake. Do you wish you knew: • If you should want to get married • What it’s like to be married • Is he the right one for you to marry If you're serious about wanting to make the best possible decision, if you want a satisfying and fulfilling marriage, and if you want to avoid becoming a divorce statistic, you’ll need the answers in this book.
It is so much easier to go along with what people expect you to do about marriage than to follow your dream. But women (and men) who give in usually report that they wish they hadn't. Learn to think clearly about your options in this book. Get your copy now.
Elizabeth is desperately hoping that the answer is no, but she knows intuitively that the answer is yes. Here's why!
What you believe about marriage may not be true any longer. According to the US Census, in 1978, 59% of 18-34-year-olds were married. in 2018 that number had dropped to only 29%. There are lots of reasons for that change but the bottom line is that you don't need to rush into marriage. Use the Secrets of Happy Relationships Series to learn more about what you need to know about getting married.
One of the most common problems couples bring to a marriage counselor is "We just don't communicate!" It's critical to learn to talk about important things before you get married.
The scariest thing to think about here is what is likely to happen if Elizabeth doesn't cancel the wedding...
Getting married used to be for everyone. It is now much more of an individual choice. Now, whether you want or expect to get married depends a lot on your life experiences up until today. If you have had the experience of coming from a family where your parents expected you to go to college--and you did, you are much more likely to expect to marry at some time in your future. On the other hand, if you started your independent life right after high school, or even before that, then you probably have friends who are not particularly interested in marriage. These are social trends and I am not judging, just reporting about them. I don't know why, I just have seen lots of statistics about what seems to be happening. Of course, trends do not speak for individuals and no matter what your background, you may fall into the marrying or not-marrying group. Personally, I believe that deciding to have children is an excellent reason to decide to marry. Children do best when they have loving relationships with adults who care for them. Being married is one way of committing to stay in a relationship and grow together and be there for each other and for your children.
I have posted an entire chapter here. The solution I suggest can be applied to lots of challenges. Try it yourself--even if your challenge is to make a decision about something entirely different.
It is normal to wonder if you are normal. Whether it makes sense or not, we tend to see if we are like other people. We want to fit in and be accepted. It's important to balance this wish with the understanding that there are so many extra forces pushing you to pay attention to what others are doing and to try to fit in, that it's way too easy to lose your connection with who you are and what is right for you. You need to know this, whether or not it will help you get accepted by others. Successfully finding your way in the world is really a balancing act. It's a little bit of trying to answer questions over and over again. Who am I? Who are they? What do I want/need right now (this changes constantly)? How do I fit in? It gets easier with practice, but there is no right answer. You can even learn to enjoy it as much as you enjoyed the swing and teeter-totter when you were a kid.
Wow! Returning to my roots as a marriage counselor and relationship coach is exciting! I have actually never stopped working in this area. I love helping clients sort out important relationship challenges. Relationships, like all living things, grow or die. Very few people understand the normal life cycle of healthy and ultimately happy relationship development. This new series, Secrets of Happy Relationship provides advice to individuals and couples throughout this natural, and sometimes rocky, development. The first book in the series is now available for pre-order. "Are You My Perfect Partner" contain updated versions of writings and ideas put into an easily digestible form to help you navigate your relationship challenges. In this book I answer real questions that both women and men have asked as they decide if this is really the right person to take this important step of actually committing to marry now.
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