Katie, a stoic young Native American, faces family pressures, a developing distant romantic relationship, and stress from nursing school clinicals during her junior year at Crestmont University in Dallas. Her dream of becoming a nurse is challenged when her mother suffers an injury that could force her to stay on the farm, assume her mother’s duties, and postpone her education, perhaps permanently. Compounding her stress, Katie’s childhood friend and soulmate’s demand for a greater level of commitment drives her into an emotional spiral as she tries to balance her dream of becoming a nurse and her love for John. The academically sound Katie finds that book learning is not sufficient for success in the clinical setting. Her frustration grows as she encounters difficulty in implementing her carefully crafted patient care plans. Her relationship with the Nurseketeers, her best friends and support system, deteriorates as she tries unsuccessfully to cope. She struggles in silence, turning in secret to alcohol to quell the chaos of clinical practice and putting herself in jeopardy of failing out of nursing school.
Sharing expectations increases the likelihood that things will turn out the way you intended.
Sometimes, when people disagree, there's no middle ground that will satisfy both parties. That's the time to agree to disagree... to accept that neither is going to get their way. If the relationship is important, both parties must respect the other's position. Agreeing to disagree means no more discussion... no more attempts to persuade or dissuade.
Sometimes the best friends are the ones who give you grief when it's warranted. They're also the ones who let you know when you've done well.
Before opinions can differ or interpretations clash, good friends, good neighbors, and good partners agree on how they will resolve conflict when it occurs... and, of course, it will occur eventually. The agreed-upon process for resolution elevates a potentially sticky situation from emotional to manageable.
Accepting a gift for what it IS, without caring about what it ISN'T, is the essence of true appreciation.
Fireworks! No 4th of July celebration would be complete without a dazzling display of light and color to remind us of the exciting new world of opportunity that our forefathers founded.
Somehow a Dad knows exactly what what will make his children happy... all the while keeping them safe and on the road to becoming the adults he knows they can be.
Katie's dream was to help the Choctaw patients see the value in both Native and Western medicine. This takes a blend of skills, resources, and perspectives to achieve the best outcomes.
The answer to that all-important "ask" can depend upon how you ask and when you pose the question. Strike a balance between giving it serious thought and working yourself into a tangled ball of nerves.
Robin, a fiery red-head, arrives home from her freshman year of nursing school, to discover her home is slated for demolition for upscale housing she can’t afford. Her summer vacation devolves into a chaotic circus of exploration of sexuality, violence, and tragedy. Then, thieving by an ex-friend threatens Robin's job and brings her to court; but that's not all. Robin’s summer spins further out of control when the unanticipated reunion with her estranged mother is derailed by family violence that leaves Robin grappling with grief and railing against the world. Back at school, the Nurseketeers band around Robin to embrace women’s issues, gender discrimination, cultural diversities, and plan a March against Violence. A chance meeting motivates Robin to question her sexuality in an era when homosexuality was illegal in every state but one - and that one wasn’t Texas. Her roommate’s homophobia challenges the need for secrecy as Robin explores her emerging lesbian impulses. Exposure could turn her nursing career into an impossible dream or worse, she could land in jail.
Each person deals with adversity in a unique fashion. Some suffer in silence; others need to share their grief. Sensitivity to the uniqueness of others is one hallmark of a wise person and a good friend.
Positive thoughts promote positive behavior. When you expect the best outcome, your actions enhance the possibility that the outcome will be a good one.
Personal experience enhances formal education. Relating personally to what is learned, new knowledge gained has a breadth and depth that might otherwise be lacking.
Nurses practice in every setting imaginable. Outside of the traditional healthcare arena, nurses provide care everywhere... in large companies, factories, schools, summer camps, and cruise ships. No other profession has so many options for practice.
Absolutes are important for small children. They must be able to differentiate right from wrong defnitively... in a child's world, decisions should be easy... yes/no... black/white... Beyond childhood, though, the world is more gray. The right choice for adolescents and adults is rarely that uncomplicated.
No matter how carefully a lie is crafted, the truth will ultimately bring it crashing to earth in the end.
The length of time that something takes is a matter of perception rather than hours, days, or weeks. The more anxious one is for something to happen, the longer it takes... BUT when you just don't want something to end (like summer vacation), it seems to be over in a flash!!
Nurses practice in an unlimited variety of settings. Although healthcare facilities of one kind or another engage most nurses, one finds nurses anywhere there are people who have the potential for getting sick or hurt... schools, office buildings, manufacturing plants, cruise ships, combat zones... ANYWHERE!!! Salute to nurses.
Women have been fighting for equality for more than a century. With all the gains that have been made, there is so much left to do!
Humans are often influenced by their emotions than by cognitive awareness. Events can rekindle emotions related to a relationship, even though it has ended.
Sometimes our well-designed plans lead to disappointment instead of fulfillment. The best response is to review and revise... never give up!!
We never outgrow our Christmas memories. They continue to bring joy throughout our lives. We wish each of you a wonderful, happy, safe, and healthy Holiday.
Where better than a peaceful farm to spend Thanksgiving.... with friends and family, scrumptious food that's fresh and delicious, and far from the hustle and bustle of everyday life.
Things in our lives bring out the child in us... like Christmas presents and Easter egg hunts.
Avoiding procrastination is always the better choice. Being on time, or even early, can be rewarding.
Sometimes getting a job depends upon the willingness to exceed an employer's expectations.
Sometimes it's necessary to face mortality, and make the best decisions left to us.
The death of an acquaintance, no matter how distant, drives us to assess our lives, review our accomplishments and failures, and contemplate our mortality
Being a dependable, valued employee is the best way to ensure job security. No employers want to lose an employee they can count on.
Can you remember a time when summer meant FUN ... no school, no work... just play. Not everyone can recall such a privilege.
One would think that doing the right thing would be easy, but... sometimes it feels like a Catch 22 -- you know you must do it, but if you do, there are consequences that make the decision feel insurmountable.
Doing the right thing can be frightening when there's no guarantee that the outcome will be good... but ... doing nothing guarantees that the outcome will be bad, Bravery must overshadow fear.
Sometimes ordinary things -- like a summer job -- lead to extraordinary experiences.
If we let situations that didn't go well in the past close the door on opportunities to improve them, we deny ourselves the potential for turning a disappointment into a celebration.
The things you want most may be the hardest to get. That could be why we want them so badly.
The cost of a college education is steep, and a scholarship is a boost, for sure... but an important part of the education is learning how to manage for yourself.
There's something to be said for "dressing for the part". When something important to you rests in someone else's hands, viewing the situation through their lenses is a good way to prepare.
Considering the downside of the decision you're about to make increases the likelihood that you'll be prepared to manage whatever happens.
Even in a crowd, it's sometimes feels like we're alone, that everything and everyone around us is focused elsewhere. It pays to remember that, even though we're not talking to them, those around us hear what we say.
Things change around us all the time. It pays to stay alert and think positive. Good things happen to those with a positive attitude.
Perhaps it is time to bare your soul and come clean with loved ones as Robin did. Start fresh with the New Year.
Advice of thinking first is not always easy. What will your New Year resolution be for this year?
The Holiday Season is about memory making no matter where you are. May your Christmas experiences be special and filled with wonderful moments among family and friends, to be treasured throughout the New Year.
In 1970, pampered, naïve, Philly-born Frannie is overwhelmed by the responsibilities of nursing school and college life in Dallas. A love-hate relationship erupts when Robin, her fiery, red-headed roommate, arrives from Chicago to find Frannie's belongings covering every inch of space in their room, and Frannie nowhere in sight. Adding fuel to the fire, Frannie pursues a relationship with a sophomore hunk whom Robin insists is pond scum. She ignores her suitemates' pleas to join their study group, insisting her high school achievements will guarantee her success in college. Frannie's wake-up call comes after nearly two semesters of disastrous decision-making. She finds herself flunking out and her nursing career ending before it begins. With support from an unexpected source, she faces the biggest decision of her life - one that no matter the outcome will upend her future.
The joy women find in shopping can be as big a mystery to men as cheering is when a boxer knocks an opponent unconscious is to women. Clichés are cliché because there's truth in them.
The world around us continues to change... it swells, and shrinks, and shifts. Sometimes it throws us a curve ball. We have to keep up with the changes... adapt, cope, grow!!
We each confront life's challenges at different times in our lives and in different ways... but... a friend can make a tremendous difference in the process. No matter how devastating the situation, life's easier to tackle with a friend by your side.
One way to celebrate a special day is an outing with good friends... like a day at the county fair. There's something for everyone!
Spring has sprung and thoughts have turned from mufflers and mittens to daffodils and sunshine. Spring is a time for showers and flowers, fantasy, and budding romance.
Mother's deserve a special day for all the "taking care of..." they did raising us. For some, like Frannie, growing up and assuming those responsibilities is a slower-than-normal process. Happy Mother's Day
When it looks as if there's no solution to a problem, a friend can bring a different perspective, share new insights, and suggest alternatives.
Flowers, candy, and a romantic candlelight dinner.... the hallmarks of every girl's Valentine's Day dream.
The best part of a semester is looking forward to vacations!
College freshman often face a rude awakening when they discover that studying like they did in high school doesn't prepare them for success on college exams.
Events create memories that can rival the fairy tales we were told as children. HAPPY NEW YEAR!
Everyone once in a while captures an insight that produces a new way of thinking and enriches the outcomes.
Small town fairs are marvelous... there's something exciting for everyone... of all ages. Games, rides, animals, food, arts & crafts, and the conviviality of a close community.
The longer we postpone accepting responsibility, the more likely that when we rise to the occasion, it will be too late.
Celebrations can be richer and more rewarding when shared with others. Holidays remind humans of their humanity.
Sometimes a commitment to learn comes to late to be effective.... but even that can be a learning experience.
Tests results are often the best indicator of our actual commitment to learning. The response to the test results is a testament to the level of accountability.
A father's advice can be just what's needed when facing a challenge. You just have to be mature enough to take it.
It's wise to be cautious when situations differ from what you expect... and wise to heed the warnings of those who care about you.
Some things that happened in the 1970s are seared into the memories of those who were there at the time.
We've all been faced, at some time in our lives, with keeping a secret that consumed us with constant monitoring of both our communication and our demeanor. Honest folks have the hardest time with secrets.
Sometimes experiencing the reality of a critical decision is the most effective teacher. We aren't always the best at taking excellent advice.
Regardless of one's motivation for going to college, one valuable component of the college experience is developing habits that lead to success.
Sometimes, when we're reading for enjoyment, we relive a personal experience that we can remember as clearly as if it were yesterday. Nurses and other health care workers are working to make better memories for us in this Covid-19 environment. Be safe and healthy.
Maturity is an important factor in learning, and not all young folks in college are in the right place at the right time for the right reasons.
There's not a much clearer example of "Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus" that a shopping trip.
Sometimes, before we can help others, we have to learn to take responsibility for ourselves. What are the lessons you are learning to take charge of today?
Some things that brought us pleasure when were were children, we just never outgrow. Think of going to bed after a bedtime story, or licking the bowl when Mom made something tasty. I still sleep best if I read a bit first, and I can't resist licking the beaters when I make meringues.
Knowledge by itself is having information that one knows and can explain to others. Wisdom is more than that. Wisdom is the sage application of one's knowledge... the ability to use knowledge to create, solve problems, and contribute to society.
Purchasing is another example of how differently men and women view everyday activities. Frannie and Stephen demonstrate their first foray into buying the right thing for the right reasons.
There's usually more to people than what you can discern at first glance. It pays to take the time to explore. Sometimes it takes exploring to get to know yourself.
Sometimes looks can be deceiving... and that applies to college professors and their courses, too.... it's best not to jump to conclusions.
Away from home for the first time, Frannie discovers a world much larger than the one she left at home. The new one is full of interesting people and options she'd never before considered.
When roommates find they have different habits and routines, negotiation and accommodations are next on the agenda.
The Nurseketeers learn it is better to arrive at the cafeteria earlier rather than later to avoid the dregs of the meal. Some things about college cafeteria food don't seem to change.
The first year in college is as much a window into a new world as an investment in academic preparation. Sheltered, pampered Frannie didn’t see that coming. Frannie’s college world was one big playground, just like in high school. For some freshmen, it takes a wake up call.
Meeting up with a new roommate in a new college is a challenging experience. In The Wake-Up Call, for Frannie and Robin it turns into an "Odd Couple" experience. Frannie has no idea how to manage her own affairs and Robin has no patience with her roomates inept behavior. Move-in day at Crestmont University in Dallas for the Philly born Frannie is not exactly what she had envisioned that college life would represent. From the beginning, she makes decisions that cause her Chicago born roommate, Robin, to explode.
The award-winning book, the "A, B, & Cs of Author Partnering," guides you through the process of creating a partnership, establishing a productive work environment, and producing the work of fiction, non-fiction, or a journal article. Authoring a book or article with a writing partner can take the sting and isolation out of a solo writing project. Alignment (A) is the foundational component that explores the what and why of the partnership and its targeted product. Balance (B) focuses on the need for author partners to respect their work-life responsibilities and ensure this critical element is incorporated into their production process. The seven Cs include Commitment, Contract, Communication, Conflict Resolution, Commerce, Creativity, and Call to Action. The included workbook provides activities to help partners craft their strategies and maximize their collaborative efforts. The "A, B, & Cs of Author Partnering" presents a meaningful sequence of topics that can be read cover to cover or selectively to meet specific needs. Working collaboratively brings a diversity of strengths and skills to the project. As a team, partners provide a broader platform to address the variety of tasks involved in writing, publishing, and marketing. Their commitment to one another and to the project keeps them focused on their work while enjoying the process and celebrating accomplishments throughout the writing journey.
The old saying "We get out of a project what we put into it" describes the formula for the success of a partnership.
Partners are people with responsibilities outside the partnership that can interfere with productivity. Partners who are sensitive to one another step in when the other is overwhelmed, distracted, or off-schedule. Acknowledging one another's challenges and adjusting to them strengthens the partnership.
One reason to partner is to bring a wider variety of skills to a project. Another is to expand one's options. Partners have different perspectives, different resources, and different contacts that broaden the partnership's outlook, extend its vision, and increase its opportunities.
As a partner, each brings unique talents and resources to a project, but must also commit to DO what's expected to achieve the outcome. Books and articles don't write themselves. Productivity and timeliness depend upon each partner's willingness to stick to the schedule and respect deadlines.
The most effective partnerships are those in which the various partners represent all of the skills required to achieve a stellar outcome. It's unusual for a single individual to excel in every aspect of of the partnership process. Choose partners who provide the skills you need; not the ones you already have.
Partnerships between individuals with different personalities, strengths, and weaknesses produce robust outcomes. When partners approach a challenge from diverse perspectives, the synergy generated and the resolutions produced are impressive and greater than either partner could achieve alone.
Anticipating change and exploring techniques to adapt before unexpected events can interfere with the current reality helps us weather change without resentment or disappointment.
View conflict as an opportunity to explore options, be innovative, and to produce superior outcomes. Most often, a negotiated outcome is superior to either of the original alternatives.
If we take the time to identify all of the important elements in our lives, and commit to respecting each with the time and attention it deserves, burnout will have no time in our lives.
Poetic license gives the writer leeway to be creative... to embellish, improvise, and interpret... ethics encourages the writer not to distort the truth or purvey falsehood.
Balance in a partnership is multifaceted. Partners have obligations outside of the partnership so work-life balance is essential. Balance relates to the the workload within the partnership. Partners' responsibilities at any point in time are rarely equal, but the partners must perceive that each one's contributions are equitable over time.
To produce a successful outcome, partners must be aligned on the purpose of their efforts and provide talents and skills that complement one another's.
Authors partners rely on creativity for more than producing unique, inspiring narrative. Creativity turns both conflict and confusion into an opportunity for inspiration.
The environment is a critical factor in creativity.You must be sensitive to your surroundings, set the scene, and address relevant variables to encourage and support creative thinking.
Getting books into the hands of readers does not happen without a marketing plan based on effective communication. One essential component is the reviews that readers post to influence other readers.
Planning conflict resolution strategies before conflicts arise facilitates creative problem-solving and outstanding results.
Communication is the key ingredient whenever more than one person is involved in the success of an endeavor.
However formal or informal, a partnership should begin with a contract that documents the important decisions the partners make about process and product.
Successful projects rarely happen in the absence of structure. Good outcomes depend upon creating a plan that details process and timing... and a firm commitment to stick to the plan!!
Together, author partners can create a product richer and compelling than either might have done alone. Partners stimulate one another to build on shared ideas, taking them to new heights.
Author partners who plan to sell their published work often lack sales and marketing skills. They must address this challenge in the planning phase of their partnership. Solutions include the commitment to master a new skill... or a decision to contract with outside resources to bring sales and marketing skills to the partnership.
Constructive communication leads to quality consensus among a diversity of partners. Building an infrastructure to support effective communication helps prevent divisive positioning among the partners.
The most thorough preparation and the best-laid plan can't produce results unless you put the plan into ACTION. Once you have identified all of the components for success, make a commitment to ACT. Determine what, when, and where you will do what it takes to succeed... then DO IT!
Creativity is essential to writing; you can't just wait around for those juices to flow. Identify when, where, and how you are most creative and address the specific challenges that interfere with that perfect space. Remind yourself that hard work should also be fun.
There are expenses associated with writing for publication, so you must sell your work to sustain your ability to publish. Tell the world what you've written and why. Folks need to know what to expect from investing their time and money in your work. Capture their interest and you will attract followers.
Conflict in a partnership is inevitable. The outcome depends upon whether partners perceive conflict as a threat or an opportunity. When partners explore their opposing views, there's an opportunity to create something better than either initial offering.
Good communication is a process with a host of well-oiled moving parts... all leading to content that is well-conceived, delivered effectively and efficiently, received with appreciation, and that achieves the intended outcome.
A partnership must begin with a clear picture of the partners' goals and expectations...a contract that should be captured in writing. Discussion and documentation when the exploration of issues is objective yields a contract that can prevent discord later when emotions interfere with a cogent review of a problem.
Commitment to your partner, your product, and whatever it takes to achieve success is what makes a partnership work well. Promises to yourself are often harder to keep than promises to a partner.
In the process of deciding whether to commit to a partnership, partners need to consider not only what they expect to get out of the endeavor, but what they will have to put in to make it work.
A writing partnership exists within the larger framework of the partners’ lives. Balancing the time and resources required to complete a writing project with the demands of everyday life is essential to a successful writing partnership. A keen assessment of resources facilitates realistic commitments and keeps the writing project on track. Essential to success is the partners’ ability to accept that unexpected demands can interfere with partnership plans, and to remain flexible, supportive, and committed to their goals.
In the Alignment chapter, we explored the partners’ relationship and a process to assure that the content of the project is consistent with the needs of the target readers. We used these techniques in starting our own writing partnership and has provided a foundation for our future writing. The chapter includes exercises for addressing authorship and author order and determining the roles of guest and ghost authors. We intended the exercises to engage partners in an effective process of aligning with one another to achieve success.
Working with someone who has knowledge and skills that complement your own can make the task of writing easier and the finished work more comprehensive and robust. Partners motivate one another to stay on track and to produce their best work.
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