If you've been asking yourself questions about why it seems that we just can't get it right in our relationships, and you want more, this is the blueprint to help you navigate during your search. In this book the author uses his life experiences, and those of several men and women of different ethnicities, ages, and cultures to give relationship advice to both sexes. The author has travelled the world and put in over 5 years of research travelling to over 25 countries discussing these topics. The Truth provides answers to today's most pressing issues about relationships, and lays out the roadmap to help you navigate. This book will appeal to readers interested in relationships self-help books.
Songwriter, Music producer & engineer, graphics designer, NOTHING that screams author. Father of 2 boys and a girl, Husband, and now Author. Never intended to become an author it just sort of happened. I've been playing the piano since about 7. Moving into the next phase of my life helping people with their relationships.
Sometimes we are blinded by our desires so we ignore what's right there in front of us. I want to help build our relationships by pointing those things out to build strong families, strong faith, and a strong culture.
The Truth: Keepin' It 100
So I want to start by saying that relationships are exhausting, so if you’re ready to not be single anymore, and you’re tired of playing with women, then this is the single most important piece of literature you ever possess, and I’ll tell you why. Life is short, but we all want basically the same thing. We all need to be loved, sexed, wanted, appreciated, and needed. Therefore, a major part of our existence as human beings is finding that special person to “be” with. Whether it’s for the short-term, the long-term, or strictly for sex, we all still try and “find” that person. This book is a blueprint for all the things you will experience in relationships. If you think about it, everyone spends a large majority of their lives trying to “find” or impress someone. And I’ve laid it all out in this book. I may not cover every little detail, but I guarantee the most important information is in this book. I spent a lot of time talking to women of all ages, races, and ethnicities, plus a few guys, with one common goal in mind: to see what the general consensus was on this man and woman relationship topic. So make sure you’re ready to be in a relationship because it has a lot of aspects to it, but I’ll help by giving you the blueprint and sifting through the garbage to simplify the process.
I’m going to express myself as if I’m having a conversation with you. It’s not my goal to hit you with all big words, and end up losing you. If you’re looking for a book full of intellectual talk then you won’t find it here. This book is “straight talk.” If you want to know the answers to questions like, Why he can’t just do right? or, Why does she always have an attitude? then this book is a must-read.
So many people who I’ve met on my travels in the Navy, and during my life around the world have all asked the same questions and wondered the same things. I think everyone deserves at least one fair shot at being with someone who they can relate to. And that’s why I wrote this book. For all the married people, single ladies, side chicks, tricks, players, real guys, fake guys, haters, good girls, bad girls, girls of every race and ethnicity, and so on. All of us have one thing in common: we all want to be wanted, held (or not in some cases), to make love or to have great sex, to be happy or have joy. The fact of the matter is that men do almost everything they do to please a woman, generally speaking of course. Think about it. We buy clothes we think are fly, try and buy the nice ride with rims, and all that, etc…things that are cliché (the normal things guys do to get women’s attention, and the great lengths we will go to so we can impress women... or at least we think so). Even married people do things to continuously keep their mates’ attention. And if they don’t, they should. Even after we get a little older this is still the case sometimes. We want to see if we’ve “still got it.” But we sometimes get complacent, and I won’t go into that too deep here. It’s also the reason why women dress up and put makeup on. Don’t believe me? Visit a city, any city, during All-Star Weekend and see how many “thirsty” people are lurking. I don’t really like that word because women that haven’t “graduated” will take a guy that shows her good attention, as if he’s being thirsty, or worrisome or desperate, and it’s because they haven’t graduated yet. Don’t worry, there’s a chapter on graduation, but for now we’ll start with the basics.
I wasn’t a Casanova with the ladies, but my brother was. I have never had the smooth lines or looked the best, but I figured simple things out later in life that helped me with relationships. And I had my parents’ love and affection, which has something to do with how our relationships pan out. During my travels around the world, and my many conversations with women, I heard so many women say they wanted to meet a good man, and quite a few guys who simply don’t understand women. They wonder what they are doing which is preventing them from finding a decent person, or why they attract the wrong people. I will address this in detail as a part of the relationship blueprint. If you do something one hundred times, and eighty-five to ninety-five times you end up with the same result, it’s pretty safe to say that you’ll get the same result most of the time. That’s what this stuff is based on. I’ll be addressing men sometimes, and women at other times, but this book is for both men and women.
I have received input from people as young as seventeen and as old as sixty, and the ages varied between men and women. It helped to determine where a person is at certain stages in life. Some things are constant no matter what a woman’s age, and that is what I attempted to capture with all the questions. Every woman wants to be treated like a queen, and they want somebody loyal. Sometimes that’s a bit much to ask of men. Or at least you will feel that way at times. I hear younger women say all the time that they think they’re in love, and of course only a short time later, they wish they could find someone who isn’t into games. If you’re reading this book and you just graduated high school, or you’re at that stage in life, you have made an excellent choice to educate yourself in all the issues that come with relationships. But you can avoid the relationship games if you pay attention to the material in this book, because you will recognize the signs right away. But at this stage, you’re too young to be looking for a serious relationship anyway. If you haven’t already met your high school sweetheart, trust me, and wait until you read this book, or gain more experience. Focus on your life goals right now, such as figuring out a career, or if you want to go to college. And then maybe you can start looking for someone to be serious with. Build yourself up with the tools I mention in this book that you will need to be a strong woman before you jump into a relationship, or try and find someone to fall in love with. I don’t think love has a particular age, but it certainly can be blind. So you can date, but I’d encourage you to get your status in order first. You want to have something to offer in a relationship, and at this point you’re in no way equipped to handle a relationship. Guys are a trip these days, and for the type of guy all you women say you want, you will need a few things under your belt to attract that specific type of man. Just know that the answers I would give you are the same that I would give an 18 year old, or a 58 year old divorced woman, because the things I mention about guys are not relative to age. Men are typically the same and pretty easy to figure out, except for the good man, which I talk about in detail in Chapter 5 of this book. Don’t take the things I say to heart or take them personally. I’m simply trying to help you by educating you on the most prevalent things that people in today’s relationships face.