If you've been asking yourself questions about why it seems that we just can't get it right in our relationships, and you want more, this is the blueprint to help you navigate during your search. In this book the author uses his life experiences, and those of several men and women of different ethnicities, ages, and cultures to give relationship advice to both sexes. The author has travelled the world and put in over 5 years of research travelling to over 25 countries discussing these topics. The Truth provides answers to today's most pressing issues about relationships, and lays out the roadmap to help you navigate. This book will appeal to readers interested in relationships self-help books.
Songwriter, Music producer & engineer, graphics designer, NOTHING that screams author. Father of 2 boys and a girl, Husband, and now Author. Never intended to become an author it just sort of happened. I've been playing the piano since about 7. Moving into the next phase of my life helping people with their relationships.
Many people get hung up on trivial things that hinder relationships in the grand scheme of things, in this chapter the author brings it all together to the pinnacle point...your winning finish! from Chapter 11
The Truth: Keepin' It 100
This chapter is about facing fears, going out on a limb, and conquering those strongholds in our life that prevent us from experiencing life to its greatest potential. Once you reach this point, usually many years have passed, and life has taken you on quite a journey, especially with relationships. Throughout those years you have probably learned some valuable lessons. You have dealt with affairs of the heart and maybe have become all too familiar with what we have been talking about thus far. And still, sometimes the question to be asked is, “Can a person truly be happy?” Well, the answer to that is yes. I think people put too much emphasis on the word “happy” though. No one can take your joy, but when things are going good, people are happy, and when things aren’t going so well, it’s not such a happy time for them. People spend their lifetime trying to chase happiness. We aren’t the only people who have failed in love and lust, and affairs of the heart. In fact, it’s those experiences that have gotten us to this point: Graduation. When a person reaches this point, they already know the things they should and shouldn’t do in relationships, the boundaries they shouldn’t cross, the things they should let go of, and the things that are most important. Well most of us should know, but for those of you who don’t, you should have gotten a pretty good idea from all the hints I’ve been throwing your way in this book. Women rarely reach the graduation stage at a young age. It’s usually around their late forties and late fifties before they truly “graduate.” Some women get it, but many don’t. All the things I mentioned in the previous chapters are in their final form here. Some of those things include deciding when to let things ride, and knowing when to let a man be a man and give him his space, to name a few. That’s what this chapter will focus on. It’s about not worrying about the things you would normally worry about, which will ultimately lead to some barriers in your relationship. I will attempt to save you women all those years you usually waste. There aren’t many, but the ones who have graduated are the ones who truly understand and realize what “the Truth” is all about. It’s a lot to swallow, and I know that some of the things I have already mentioned, you may disagree with. I know some of this sounds ludicrous, but the more time you spend focusing on the things you think you have to look for when dealing with a man, the less time you have to truly focus on the most important things in your relationship. Know your role and play it. Focus on your relationship and your man. Making your family and your life the most important thing after God is what will keep longevity in a relationship. That’s the ultimate goal of this book, to prepare you to be that “strong woman” or that “good man” so you can eventually experience the type of relationship we all so desperately crave: one of trust, togetherness, and love that lasts an eternity. It’s loyalty. It’s a man and a woman who reciprocate love for one another. The snares, obstacles, and trivial issues that will keep you from attaining this are things like worrying about who’s on his social media pages, who likes his pictures, whose pictures he likes, other women, and not truly trusting him. These are the things that people who don’t want you to be in a long lasting relationship will encourage. The woman who has graduated will have conquered these things. She already knows the key factors I have mentioned about how to get a guy and keep a guy. She is strong, independent, submissive when she needs to be, but not weak. She knows when to lead, and when to let her man lead. She has left her baggage at the airport. She starts off new relationships fresh with a clean slate. She has learned to trust and she has broken down the wall in her heart that wouldn’t allow her to love hard and trust. She is confident in her ability to be the type of woman she knows she can be, and the woman her man wants her to be. She has done all this without sacrificing the things that drive her, motivate her, and define her. She’s that fortune 500 wife type that every man wants. She has adjusted her behavior to accept her flaws and deal with them. She keeps her attitude in check and self-examines herself. She is kind. She is careful. She doesn’t take any crap. She supports her man. She knows her man won’t make her compete with other women, but she realizes she has to stay on top of her game. She has come to accept that even though she’s phenomenal, and she has graduated, there’s still no guarantee that it will make a man behave. She accepts what life gives her and progresses rather than digresses. She has standards and she doesn’t sacrifice her expectations, but she knows how to recognize a real man when she sees him, despite what the outside package may look like. She doesn’t feel pressured by the immense responsibility and sacrifice she has to endure to hold a relationship and a family together. She is an example to her kids and to other women. This is what graduation entails. If you’re not there yet, it’s okay. As long as you strive every day to become that strong woman or that good man you’re getting there.