Viola continues. I knew to be honest with my children and I refused to allow them to blame themselves. For their sake I choose to end the cycle of abuse to prevent it spilling over onto their children. I made this promise to their father's spirit and his memory. Rather than thinking of him as a monster, I yearned for them to know him before his alcoholism. Whenever we mention him, we speak only of our love. After all he came to teach us a better life through his suffering, a difficult role, so the least we can do is to forgive him.
Forgiveness frees us to live our life in love and peace instead of hate. I think we keep ourselves trapped by living in the past. Let go of the past and live for the “NOW.” We can choose to look deep and learn from the drama and chaos in our lives. Thank others for the lessons they bring to our lives. Do we or others control our lives?
We have the choice of how we respond and allow situations to affect us. We can choose to see them as positive or negative. We have the power to take action; no one else can do it for us.
Look deep inside yourself and light the lamp in your soul and let it lead you. Learn to listen to your inner voice, it never lies. Pay attention to everything, nothing happens without a reason.
David Hawkins, a psychiatrist, author of the book Power vs. Force, shows on his Scale of Consciousness the energy levels of various emotional states. Survival remains the primary focus at levels below 200. Hate/anger calibrates at 150, forgiveness at 350, and love at 500. Viola chose on her journey from abuse to empowerment to shift her consciousness, as well as her children’s, from anger to love.
Dan Millman in The Life You Were Born to Live describes Viola’s life challenges as here to work through issues related to independence, emotional honesty, and cooperation, finally experiencing freedom through discipline and depth of experience. He explains with these life lessons a person needs priorities to free themselves and freedom as being internal – freedom to be themselves, the freedom from self-doubt, and the freedom from fear.
Viola summarizes. Through my journey from abuse to empowerment, I learned a valuable way of handling unhappy memories. I would let go of unhappy memories of pain and hurt, a type of editing, and remember only all the happy times of peace and joy. This made it easier to forgive and love. Now I no longer remember the suffering, as strange as that sounds, only the good memories.
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