PART 3, Day 3
“Whatever culture, whatever country, girls are taught to please others as opposed to pleasing themselves.”
EVE ENSLER | PLAYWRITER
Do you ever look around and get the impression “everyone has talent or gifts” but you?
If yes, you aren’t alone. I believe this is a very common feeling amongst people. It’s either because you haven’t acknowledged what capabilities you have OR
it could be that if you focus on them, you aren’t motivated by what God gave YOU to mature.
Ask yourself: What do you love to do? What makes your heart leap? What excites you?
What comes naturally? If you can’t see this in yourself, ask someone (safe) what they spot. It may seem “obvious” to a spectator in your life.
We all walk and learn at different paces. Some people absorb visually while others by reading or doing. Many are solitary or logical. There isn’t one way to discover something. How do you best gain knowledge?
I was an average student in school, and my favorite classes were art, business, and socializing. I know, it’s not exactly the 3-R’s!
I loved changing classes and walking the halls to visit. I loved lunch and “networking”—connecting with others. So, in comparing myself with my other classmates who were straight A students and on the honor roll, I felt dumb MOST of the time. They were going to college, and I just wanted to get out of school. Sometimes, your closest friends and family don’t realize you’re struggling to fit in or trying to live up to “a standard.”
To this day, MOST of my friends have at least 1 degree, if not 3 (including a Masters) and are Doctors, Lawyers, Entrepreneurs, Authors, Speakers, etc.
If you gave me a math problem to solve (other than adding, subtracting, and dividing) my eyes would glaze over, my mind would go blank, I’d feel panicked, and I’d probably end up in tears.
My mother wanted me to go to college to find a husband. I thought that was a foolish reason to torture myself doing something I didn’t like to do in the first place. Studying and taking tests. No thanks. So, I opted not to go.
What were your school days like? What (or who) did you struggle with?
How did the above impact your life in a negative or positive way?
What did you LOVE to do when you were 8-10 years old?
Those gifts and talents have been there all along . . . for a long, long time.
You’ve always desired to:
When Goldie stated: “All I could think was, I didn’t eat an egg!” she missed the message.
What messages do you miss because you believe someone uttered something they did not?
TIP: Try repeating back to the person what they spoke. Make certain you understand their meaning, instruction, or intentions. It’s amazing how “bad” our hearing can be.
Practice listening skills! Lots of relational mistakes happen because we trust that we understood someone without asking to make sure we did/do. How many times did your boss/spouse think you said
________________ and when you actually said ________________ ?
Personally, I think people who have legitimate hearing issues are obligated and liable for clarification. Putting the duty on the person who CAN hear doesn’t equate with me.
You may be listening, but did you hear?
Did you ever “scare” others because of who you were? For me, I was a dare-devil and always thinking of pranks, plays, and ways to make money.
At my 20-year class reunion, I had a few people tell me I scared them the way I talked to teachers and got by with it. I was shocked but found it humorous.
They were terrified I was going to get in trouble (I never got into trouble with authority), and the teacher would laugh. I have always had a way of being able to say things other people only think about and get by with it. I have no idea why. I suppose because I’m comfortable in my own skin and truly am not trying to be a jerk. Who knows, and who would have ever guessed unless they had told me 20+ years later.
Have you made people uncomfortable? Just being, well . . . you? How so?
Remember: Mind reading isn’t on most of our resume’s.
Be clear when you speak. Answer and ask questions!
Look up: Galatians 6: 4-6 & I Corinthians 15:46, Ephesians 2:10, Mark 4:24, Luke 8:18
What is YOUR “Stone of Remembrance?”
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