If you've been asking yourself questions about why it seems that we just can't get it right in our relationships, and you want more, this is the blueprint to help you navigate during your search. In this book the author uses his life experiences, and those of several men and women of different ethnicities, ages, and cultures to give relationship advice to both sexes. The author has travelled the world and put in over 5 years of research travelling to over 25 countries discussing these topics. The Truth provides answers to today's most pressing issues about relationships, and lays out the roadmap to help you navigate. This book will appeal to readers interested in relationships self-help books.
Songwriter, Music producer & engineer, graphics designer, NOTHING that screams author. Father of 2 boys and a girl, Husband, and now Author. Never intended to become an author it just sort of happened. I've been playing the piano since about 7. Moving into the next phase of my life helping people with their relationships.
Don't get intimate before you get to know the other person.
Book Excerpt
The Truth: Keepin' It 100
Guys and girls, or should I say men and women, look at sex very differently. The naked truth is that until a man gets married, he looks at sex not as an act dealing with emotions and connections, but as a physical act that makes him feel good. Sex feels good, so to continue getting this feeling, we tend to try and get as much of that feeling as we can, with no intentions of giving our hearts to that woman. Women look at it the other way around most of the time. Giving up your body to a guy is something most women value so they genuinely think that if they do have sex with a guy, they’re giving up a part of themselves to that guy, and for him not to be that guy they thought he was can be heartbreaking. The bottom line is if you haven’t been with him for at least two to three months, I wouldn’t even think about having sex with him. That’s if you don’t feel like you can wait until marriage. I understand these days that realistically a guy probably won’t wait that long. Guys will press you saying, “If you love me then we should be able to make love.” I’m sure there are many people who believe in love at first sight. I believe it’s more like lust at first sight. You can’t truly know a person from the moment you meet them. And if a person tells you they love you after a short time, they probably aren’t being truthful. Women may feel like they love you, but we all get caught up in the newness of a relationship. And if the sex is good that only heightens the sensation of that feeling. So in a few months this is your soul mate, and then at around six months to a year their true colors begin to show, and only then do you realize that it was a bad mistake. A couple of months isn’t that long. If a guy can’t wait for a couple of months at least he just wants to have sex with you. Now if you’re one of those girls that loves sex like guys, and if that’s all you’re going for, then this doesn’t apply to you. But guys don’t like a woman with a lot of miles on her, so be careful not to get that reputation. Save something for the guy you want to be yours. A lot of guys can tell when you have been worked over pretty good. This causes problems in a lot of relationships. People start having sex before they even get the chance to know each other, and the crazy thing is most women won’t even make you use a condom. Afterwards they say things like “they were just in the moment.” In my past, I was the one who pressed the issue about condoms with women. They liked the fact that I cared about their well-being, but they weren’t at all concerned whether I did or didn’t use one. That’s crazy as this is your life we’re talking about. Most women feel like they can trust you when they feel you’re ready for that part of the relationship. Make him earn your love and affection. Of course he loves you when he’s in it. You can get him to say a lot of things, and everyone will admit that sex is a beautiful thing. Truth be told it’s supposed to be a gift of marriage.
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