If you've been asking yourself questions about why it seems that we just can't get it right in our relationships, and you want more, this is the blueprint to help you navigate during your search. In this book the author uses his life experiences, and those of several men and women of different ethnicities, ages, and cultures to give relationship advice to both sexes. The author has travelled the world and put in over 5 years of research travelling to over 25 countries discussing these topics. The Truth provides answers to today's most pressing issues about relationships, and lays out the roadmap to help you navigate. This book will appeal to readers interested in relationships self-help books.
Songwriter, Music producer & engineer, graphics designer, NOTHING that screams author. Father of 2 boys and a girl, Husband, and now Author. Never intended to become an author it just sort of happened. I've been playing the piano since about 7. Moving into the next phase of my life helping people with their relationships.
what we face as men is daunting, challenging, and consistently has no reward...we do it because we have to...support us.
The Truth: Keepin' It 100
I appreciated being given the space, and it was refreshing to know she was at home waiting for me. The good man will know a good balance, and he will check in with you without you asking. He will respect the fact that you’re a strong, confident woman. The next chapter, The Strong Woman, goes into detail about being weak or strong.
Maybe some of you ladies know about this, and some don’t. Since we’re still talking about the good man, you already know his character, the things he wants, and the things you have to do to get and keep him. Now I want to let you in on the things that we constantly go through as good men. It’s an immense amount of pressure, but the good man will know how to handle this pressure. I’m talking about those dang thoughts: the temptations, the offers, and cheating. A good man constantly evaluates himself, and in doing so, he evaluates his woman. The type of woman you have oftentimes defines what type of man you are, or you have become. A woman takes on an important role in this man’s life, and when he does better, you do better. So never discourage him, and always support him. Believe that whatever you did to get him, you will have to do to keep him, or else his eyes will begin to wander. Don’t worry, this doesn’t mean he’s a bad guy; it just means he’s a man. If you’ve been slipping, that woman he’s been telling to leave him alone because he’s in a committed relationship will begin to start talking to him about some of his problems, and because she’s there for him, of course she’s going to slide right into that slot. Women know when a guy is a good man, or when there might be problems at home. She will notice that his behavior changes. We are always being bombarded with temptation, even if it’s indirect. There are always little comments, extra conversation, and gestures letting us know that they want us, but don’t worry, the good man doesn’t give into these. He’s pretty good at saying no. But if you start slipping, this is bound to happen. Think Clean Up Woman by Betty Wright. That song was made from instances like the one I just described. Don’t make it easy for the cleanup woman. You should know your man, so you will notice if he’s acting different, and if he is then it’s time to pull him to the side and talk, so things can get back on track. Like I said in the beginning of the book, relationships are exhausting, and hard work, but they are worth it.
As far as cheating goes it will take a long time for the good man to really consider cheating. He will see other attractive women, and may even note how fine they are in his head, but his next thought will be of you at home, standing there in his t-shirt, with your arms open, and he will quickly realize that those women don’t even compare. The thought of you, his woman, will give him a place of refuge, and he will rejoice in his heart at the thought of having a real, confident extraordinary woman. Good men work hard at trying to provide for their family and keep their woman happy. He wants his woman to give just as much as he does, so he doesn’t want to mess that up. If he is even thinking about talking to another woman, he has already repeatedly expressed to you how he feels, and maybe you’ve neglected what he was saying, or didn’t heed his warnings, and he probably got tired of talking. Don’t let it reach this point, because when he’s finally made up his mind to leave, no one will be able to change his mind because he will be tired. So fix home first ladies. And the same goes for you too, men. You can’t expect a woman to give all this when you haven’t fixed home. If you take care of home, she will definitely take care of you. There will be a select few though who get complacent, or comfortable, or lazy. Don’t allow yourself to be any of these. It’s easy to do with this guy because he will be providing the life you want, and he won’t make you feel bad or guilty about any of your insecurities. He will love you hard and intensely. It will be easy to get complacent, but even though he may not say anything about it, he will notice. This isn’t a regular guy. Regular guys don’t pay attention to things like this, or much of anything really. They just go on in ignorant bliss. The good man pays attention though. Keep it together. Your man gets proposals or offers all the time, whether directly or indirectly, and he brushes it all off, so don’t add to all this pressure by doing things I mentioned earlier in this chapter, such as not trusting him, being insecure, checking his phone and social media. “Let it ride.” When you get the urge to do something like that, just “let it ride,” and move on, and I guarantee you, he will appreciate it and it will show in the status of your relationship.