If you've been asking yourself questions about why it seems that we just can't get it right in our relationships, and you want more, this is the blueprint to help you navigate during your search. In this book the author uses his life experiences, and those of several men and women of different ethnicities, ages, and cultures to give relationship advice to both sexes. The author has travelled the world and put in over 5 years of research travelling to over 25 countries discussing these topics. The Truth provides answers to today's most pressing issues about relationships, and lays out the roadmap to help you navigate. This book will appeal to readers interested in relationships self-help books.
Songwriter, Music producer & engineer, graphics designer, NOTHING that screams author. Father of 2 boys and a girl, Husband, and now Author. Never intended to become an author it just sort of happened. I've been playing the piano since about 7. Moving into the next phase of my life helping people with their relationships.
Start the slate clean, and fresh for a new start. Get it all out on the table before you enter into something serious.
The Truth: Keepin' It 100
The Truth: Keepin’ It 100
Now on to the juicy stuff! I wanted to recognize consistent, unanimous answers from men and women about this subject, so that even if you disagree, you can sit back and think ‘this guy has a point.’ This will get raunchy and personal at times, but it has to if you want to get to the root of the issue. This chapter is about the prelude to relationships, and getting everything out on the table, among other things. I don’t think a lot of people do this, but I did when I got into my first serious relationship. I had been in relationships my whole life I thought, but when it came down to it, not really. They were just women to pass the time with until I finally grew up and wanted to settle down. So you have to do this. You have to recognize your flaws and put them on the table. The things you like and don’t like, the stuff you’re most passionate about, and so on. In other words, be real and don’t lie. You can make things look and sound good (I call this the Jones’ syndrome as everyone wants to be like and look like the Jones’) but after some time passes “the real you” is going to come out anyway, and those surprises can ruin a relationship after it’s been going along well. Basically, this is a disclaimer, which is like your insurance policy. She will still get mad at times or be upset about some issues, but at least she won’t be able to say that you didn’t tell her. When you lay all your eggs on the table, if it’s exciting and women want in, they will say they can deal with the things you mentioned, even though secretly they may be thinking that you’re not telling the entire truth. For instance, I might say something like this: “I love music and it’s a big part of my life. I’m in the studio frequently, and I work with several artists, some of which are women, and it takes up a lot of time, but it’s my passion. Sometimes it may get in the way of our quality time, but not all the time. Sometimes studio sessions may last longer than expected. Can you accept that?” The relationship at that point is new and going so well, that the woman might say, “Sure, I can deal with that.” But in their minds, maybe they’re thinking, “He can’t be that much into music can he?” Then they think that maybe they can change that about you. Their thought process is, ‘I’m not worried about that, because once he gets a taste of this, he’s going to put all that other stuff to the side and he’ll only focus on me.’ Ladies, please believe me when I say that if he has put something that interests him on the table, he means exactly what he says. But women don’t usually take a man at his word. So when they eventually figure out that they can’t deal with his passion for music because it’s taking up too much time, or they feel like he’s putting music before them, then they feel they have wasted their time. However, it was laid out. You have to listen, and listen closely. Of course this is only an example but you get the idea. Please listen to me ladies, as this is the rule of thumb. Do not ask any question to which you do not want the answer. Men even if they pressure you by saying something like, “No, I really want to know the answer to what I just asked you, and I promise I won’t get mad” don’t do it! When you tell the truth, then all hell will break loose. If you know your woman, you will know if she can handle the answer or not. Usually, they can’t. I would refrain from answering the question, unless it’s something like, ‘Did you cheat on me?’ or something reasonable. Being honest is great, but it doesn’t have the effect you think it will. Not many people can deal with the truth. If it’s about cheating or if you spent the rent money on a toy, you may as well tell them straight as they will find out anyway. Believe me when I tell you that women are smart detectives. And even though it often seems like they’re just waiting on you to screw up, don’t give them the ammunition to shoot. Truths from your past, or questions used to corner you into an uncomfortable position, don’t need to be shared. You can embellish and hold a few things back.
So in the beginning everything is peaches and cream. You’re digging the guy, it’s getting real steamy, and he makes you feel some kind of way. She has that amazing body, those nice assets, or that bomb sex. You’re hitting it real good, you’re putting in your best work, and she’s trying to prove that you should lock her down. Or she may try to convince you that sex with her is the best you’ve ever had. However, relationships based on sex alone don’t last. Something real takes longer and it endures. This applies unless you’re in the 18 to 25 range. Then comes the infamous I-hate-you-I-wish-I-never-would-have-met-you stage. What happened? Didn’t you used to be infatuated with him or her? Of course if all you want to do is have sex, then none of this applies, and I’ll address that in another chapter.
You know the saying that every man wants a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets. Most women don’t get this way overnight, and some women only want to have sex too, but this book is the recipe for the type of woman that can make a guy lock her down without him even knowing it. So now we’ve established getting everything out on the table, let’s briefly look at all the different types of women there are: the ratchet chick, the hood chick, the real chick, the corporate chick, the big chick, the lonely chick, the church girl, the goodie two shoes, the desperate girl, the easy girl, the cool-laid back fem, the blonde girl-airhead, the misunderstood chick, the disgruntled chick, the scorned woman, the wifey type, the wolf disguised as a sheep, the crazy woman, the in-between-pass the time chick, the ugly chick, and last but certainly not least the sophisticated-established-career type woman. This woman is often times single guys so pay attention! Every woman falls into one or more of these categories at some point in their life