If you've been asking yourself questions about why it seems that we just can't get it right in our relationships, and you want more, this is the blueprint to help you navigate during your search. In this book the author uses his life experiences, and those of several men and women of different ethnicities, ages, and cultures to give relationship advice to both sexes. The author has travelled the world and put in over 5 years of research travelling to over 25 countries discussing these topics. The Truth provides answers to today's most pressing issues about relationships, and lays out the roadmap to help you navigate. This book will appeal to readers interested in relationships self-help books.
Songwriter, Music producer & engineer, graphics designer, NOTHING that screams author. Father of 2 boys and a girl, Husband, and now Author. Never intended to become an author it just sort of happened. I've been playing the piano since about 7. Moving into the next phase of my life helping people with their relationships.
Here's a little bit about the realities of getting a good man. Some realizations. This is probably the most descriptive and interesting chapter of the book...inside information...hint.hint
The Truth: Keepin' It 100
He doesn’t need a trophy, he needs a misses. But the real trick is to determine if he’s at that point where he’s looking for a woman to settle down with yet. Until he’s at that point, ladies, you’ll have a tough time figuring out what you’re doing wrong and why you can’t get this guy to handcuff you, so to speak. Don’t worry, I have the blueprint so you can recognize what “true” game is. I’ll explain that in detail later in this chapter. So here we will adopt the “red flag” policy. Anything mentioned after this will be a “red flag,” and you can notice a guy’s deception or a guy trying to lie his way into your heart and your panties even if you can’t see it.
A good man still has a time period when he wants you to “give him the business.” This is part of “true” game. The reason I call it “true” game, is because he will tell you the truth, and he won’t lie to you. He will have good manners and open and close doors for you. He will make you believe that chivalry isn’t dead in men. But the truth is, he’s saving this for the woman he wants to marry, and he can’t help being a gentleman. I have had conversations with women on the first day that I met them, tell me that having sex with me on the first day wouldn’t be the worst thing that they’ve ever done. They were having a conversation with themselves trying to convince themselves that it was okay if they did, and of course, I didn’t help the situation or try to deter them. I simply told them that whatever they were comfortable with suited me fine. And I really meant that. Sex wasn’t my aim on the first day. It was simply to have a decent conversation so I could find out things about her, and she could find out things about me, to decide if I’d consider them a serious candidate long term, or just someone I’d pass the time with. And of course I wasn’t going to turn sex down if they were offering. I always hear things like, “You seem like the perfect guy.” The guys I’m talking about in this chapter hear the same thing all the time. The difference is that they know they may have a slight edge; they know they have got swag, and they’re aware of the statistics that show the ratio of women to men is approximately 7 or 8 to 1 in any major metropolitan area. If you take away the guys that are homosexual, the guys in jail, the ones that aren’t gentlemen, plus all the deadbeats, and those who still haven’t grown up, then that severely narrows down a woman’s guy choices, and he knows this. This man hears and notices all the women who are constantly yelling that they’re tired of being single and not wanting a lame guy. He’s aware that he’s the type of guy these women are referring to and he listens to what they say so it’s not hard for him not to say the wrong things. He can pick apart a woman in a short time simply by listening to what she says. A woman’s body language will give him indications about whether or not she’s into him. He will know how to hold a decent conversation and so he’ll be able to tell that she’s feeling him, along with all the other pertinent information he will need to know about what type of woman she is. She may even hint around her sexual preferences. So after the conversation, he can already assess if he can push the envelope a little or a lot. He can also tell if he’s going to go out with her for a while or for a short time. Most of the time he will push the envelope a lot. Why? Because women are looking for those traits and qualities, so that puts him ahead of the curve. One thing you ladies need to do with this one is really listen to him. And then determine if you want to go forward. If he isn’t mentioning things that sound long term, or he says he just wants to “have fun,” then it’s not going to be a long ride. Or maybe it will, but there won’t be a long term commitment involved at the end of that ride. Since most guys like this aren’t that promiscuous, he will probably try and to secure a sexual arrangement until he meets who he’s really looking for, because he would rather just sleep with the one person rather than many women, even if it’s just for the sex and companionship for a while. It will be fun and adventurous. It will be everything you wanted, except you won’t have a permanent commitment. You will be excited. You will smile every time he calls you, texts you, or emails you. You may find yourself being swept away, but he won’t be yours. It can be an overwhelming feeling. One of the most important lessons in this chapter is that a good man is still a man. Does that mean he’s a dog? No. He was honest, he was a gentleman, he didn’t lie to you, and he didn’t treat you bad. But because he didn’t fit the description of all the other crappy guys you’re normally used to, it will be hard for you to look at the situation for what it really is.