If you've been asking yourself questions about why it seems that we just can't get it right in our relationships, and you want more, this is the blueprint to help you navigate during your search. In this book the author uses his life experiences, and those of several men and women of different ethnicities, ages, and cultures to give relationship advice to both sexes. The author has travelled the world and put in over 5 years of research travelling to over 25 countries discussing these topics. The Truth provides answers to today's most pressing issues about relationships, and lays out the roadmap to help you navigate. This book will appeal to readers interested in relationships self-help books.
Songwriter, Music producer & engineer, graphics designer, NOTHING that screams author. Father of 2 boys and a girl, Husband, and now Author. Never intended to become an author it just sort of happened. I've been playing the piano since about 7. Moving into the next phase of my life helping people with their relationships.
These days people just want to "Netflix and chill" instead of truly taking the time to vet a potential prospect that they are interested in. This takes time and these days everything is so fast paced that we don't take that time anymore. Here's a piece of my message from chapter 2.
The idea is that we have got to listen, and don't try to change a person.
The Truth: Keepin' It 100
I don’t think a lot of people do this, but I did when I got into my first serious relationship. I had been in relationships my whole life I thought, but when it came down to it, not really. They were just women to pass the time with until I finally grew up and wanted to settle down. So you have to do this. You have to recognize your flaws and put them on the table. The things you like and don’t like, the stuff you’re most passionate about, and so on. In other words, be real and don’t lie. You can make things look and sound good (I call this the Jones’ syndrome as everyone wants to be like and look like the Jones’) but after some time passes “the real you” is going to come out anyway, and those surprises can ruin a relationship after it’s been going along well. Basically, this is a disclaimer, which is like your insurance policy. She will still get mad at times or be upset about some issues, but at least she won’t be able to say that you didn’t tell her. When you lay all your eggs on the table, if it’s exciting and women want in, they will say they can deal with the things you mentioned, even though secretly they may be thinking that you’re not telling the entire truth. For instance, I might say something like this: “I love music and it’s a big part of my life. I’m in the studio frequently, and I work with several artists, some of which are women, and it takes up a lot of time, but it’s my passion. Sometimes it may get in the way of our quality time, but not all the time. Sometimes studio sessions may last longer than expected. Can you accept that?” The relationship at that point is new and going so well, that the woman might say, “Sure, I can deal with that.” But in their minds, maybe they’re thinking, “He can’t be that much into music can he?” Then they think that maybe they can change that about you. Their thought process is, ‘I’m not worried about that, because once he gets a taste of this, he’s going to put all that other stuff to the side and he’ll only focus on me.’ Ladies, please believe me when I say that if he has put something that interests him on the table, he means exactly what he says. But women don’t usually take a man at his word.