Will I survive? Will I ever be happy again? These are questions that Harriet Hodgson asked herself after she was left to raise her twin grandchildren, while grieving for four family members, including her daughter. Harriet reminds us that we are not alone in our grief and, though losses may define our lives, they will not destroy them.
Harriet Hodgson has been a freelancer for 37 years and is the author of 35 books. She is a member of the Association of Health Care Journalists and a contributing writer for the Open to Hope Foundation website, The Grief Toolbox website, and The Caregiver Space website. Hodgson has appeared on more than 180 talk shows, including CBS Radio, and dozens of television stations, including CNN. A popular speaker, she has given presentations at public health, Alzheimer's and bereavement conference. Her work is cited in Who's Who of American Women, World Who's Who of Women, Contemporary Authors, and other directories. She lives in Rochester, MN with her husband, John. Please visit www.harriethodgson.com for more information about this busy author and grandmother.
The term "multiple losses" is used to describe several deaths in a specific span of time. In my mind, multiple losses can also include other things. When I went for a physical exam and had tests, I learned that I had two arthritic hips, something I had suspected for a long time. The x-rays confirmed my arthritic hips and the loss of the agility of youth. Although my mind comes up with plans, sometimes I am not physically capable of following them. As you heal from your loss or losses, it may be wise to consider the other losses in your life. You may have been forced to move, for example, or work fewer hours. Write these losses on paper and keep track of them. This awareness can help you cope with the changes that have come to you.
Happy Again!: Your New and Meaningful Life After Loss
Grieving for multiple losses takes longer than grieving for one. My feelings zoomed up and down like a roller coaster. Finally I realized I was grieving for my loved ones in the order they died. Though I went through the stages of grief, I went through them several times, and in the process, examined my relationship with each family member. I clarified my feelings as well.