•mole or crosshatched lines at outer corners of eyes: concerns about fidelity
The ancient Taoists claimed that a mole or crosshatched lines at the outer corner of the eyesare marks of infidelity.
I am generally reluctant to bring up these markings because they tend to scare people. So let me use this opportunity to once again remind you that just because we have certain markings, it does not mean we are doomed, nor does it mean that we get a free ride. They are there to remind us of our specific innate gifts and challenges. They don’t tell us how or if we will respond to them, only that we have them.
Therefore, if you have marks of infidelity, all you know is that issue will be a challenge in your life. The challenge could be a struggle with your own faithfulness, or a struggle with your mate’s loyalty, or even with the philosophical concept of fidelity.
I had clients, a couple, and both had marks of infidelity. Each was adamant about the rules of faithfulness, and there were no gray areas or doubt about the repercussions. They were a loving, respectful couple who gave each other plenty of room in their relationship because of their mutual clarity and trust.
Years ago I was having dinner at a cozy restaurant in Sonoma, California, preparing my final notes for a Valentine’s weekend workshop I was presenting called Mien Shiang and the Look of Love. My waitress, an attractive woman in her early forties, glanced down at one of my workshop handouts on the marks of infidelity that had two drawings of eyes and the markings. “My husband has those lines,” she said, pointing to the crosshatched lines at an outer eye corner. “We just got married last month. Is he going to cheat on me?” she asked me with a little worry in her eyes.
I gave her the quick explanation about our gifts and challenges, and told her that how we each respond to them is unique and often surprising. “All you know is that he has a challenge. It may be that this challenge has made him stronger and more responsible about fidelity. Why don’t you ask him?” I suggested.
She hesitated, then confided, “We were engaged twenty years ago, but we broke up because he was unfaithful. We met again last year and he seems like a changed man; he says he is. We have a lot of fun, and I do love him.” I left the restaurant happy to hear about the romantic ending to her love story.
About six months later I was back in Sonoma for another workshop. Walking by a coffee shop, I was surprised to hear someone call my name. I turned and saw the waitress from my previous trip.
“I just had to tell you,” she said, running up to me and catching her breath. “We’re getting a divorce. He was still cheating!”
“Oh, I’m so sorry,” I said.
“Me, too, but I’d rather be free again and have a chance to meet someone who’s right for me. Any clues on my face that could tell me why I’ve been picking the wrong men?”
I didn’t need to study her face since I remembered from our last meeting certain of her facial characteristics that had stood out to me. “I see by the way your ears come away from your head that you have a tendency to hear only what you want to hear,” I said gently, so she would hear what I was saying.
“It’s true,” she said with a sigh. “There were lots of clues, but I didn’t want to hear them. Am I hopeless?”
“Not with those jaws; you’ve got great determination. Use it to find the truth, and real love.”
I think of her often and wonder if she has found the love she was looking for. I hope so.
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