Worn out. Powerless. Heartbroken. Alone. Cyndee Rae Lutz has walked this path. In this book, she weaves the painful account of her son's drug addiction with the healing strategies and spiritual wisdom that transformed her life--and can transform others, whether they're facing a crisis or wanting to change direction. Her fusion of powerful ideas, concrete steps, and pertinent examples both liberates and empowers the often-distraught family member or friend to reclaim their life. And it just might be the best thing they can do for their loved one. Often when they get better, their loved one gets better too.
Cyndee Rae Lutz has evolved with her life circumstances, including starting a successful magazine, Divorce in Denver—Moving Forward, following her divorce and becoming a yoga teacher as well as a Twelve Steps mentor in Al-Anon after her son became addicted to drugs. In When Your Heart Belongs to an Addict, her first book, she combines wisdom from these and other philosophies and spiritual practices with her harrowing yet transformative experience as the mother of an addicted son. The result is a practical set of tools to help others survive and thrive in the shadow of addiction.
As an author, speaker, and mentor, Cyndee helps people understand their inherent worth and reclaim their lives from societal expectations, codependency, and the effects of a loved one’s addiction or challenging circumstances. She is a compassionate, approachable resource, and her desire to guide individuals toward their better selves drives both her personal and professional endeavors.
In her free time, Cyndee logs miles upon miles in her walking shoes—often accompanied by her standard poodles—and practices yoga and meditation. She lives with her husband in Centennial, Colo.
When a loved one suffers from addiction, you suffer right along with them. You are left to imagine and fear disastrous outcomes; most of which you have no control over. There are two things that helped me deal with the fear, especially during crisis situations. 1. Just because I couldn't imagine a good outcome, didn't mean it wasn't possible. 2. I had to believe I would be okay, no matter what happened. That was the hardest of all to do, but brought the most relief.
When Your Heart Belongs to an Addict: A Healing Perspective
There are times, especially during the height of addiction and alcoholism, when everything seems to go terribly wrong; you can’t imagine an end to it—or a good ending, anyway. Many of you have dealt with situations such as a kid dropping out of school, a spouse missing work, a loved one landing in jail or in the hospital, a child living on the streets, car wrecks, illicit affairs, and suicide attempts or overdoses. So you know bad things do happen. You live in fear of these outcomes nearly every day—and during crises, almost every minute you’re awake.