Worn out. Powerless. Heartbroken. Alone. Cyndee Rae Lutz has walked this path. In this book, she weaves the painful account of her son's drug addiction with the healing strategies and spiritual wisdom that transformed her life--and can transform others, whether they're facing a crisis or wanting to change direction. Her fusion of powerful ideas, concrete steps, and pertinent examples both liberates and empowers the often-distraught family member or friend to reclaim their life. And it just might be the best thing they can do for their loved one. Often when they get better, their loved one gets better too.
Cyndee Rae Lutz has evolved with her life circumstances, including starting a successful magazine, Divorce in Denver—Moving Forward, following her divorce and becoming a yoga teacher as well as a Twelve Steps mentor in Al-Anon after her son became addicted to drugs. In When Your Heart Belongs to an Addict, her first book, she combines wisdom from these and other philosophies and spiritual practices with her harrowing yet transformative experience as the mother of an addicted son. The result is a practical set of tools to help others survive and thrive in the shadow of addiction.
As an author, speaker, and mentor, Cyndee helps people understand their inherent worth and reclaim their lives from societal expectations, codependency, and the effects of a loved one’s addiction or challenging circumstances. She is a compassionate, approachable resource, and her desire to guide individuals toward their better selves drives both her personal and professional endeavors.
In her free time, Cyndee logs miles upon miles in her walking shoes—often accompanied by her standard poodles—and practices yoga and meditation. She lives with her husband in Centennial, Colo.
Shame is a common feeling during addiction. I kept many things to myself. I couldn't risk others knowing how volatile my world was. I couldn't bear the thought that people might think poorly of me or my son. It also felt a bit like "tattling" when I did share the chaos, and I found that other people do judge, and they don't understand, unless they've lived it themselves.
When Your Heart Belongs to an Addict: A Healing Perspective
You create a facade to present to the outside world so no one knows what is really happening. You disable your personal support system. You’re afraid to let anyone know about the crazy world in which you live. Or you might discuss your personal situation with people who have no experience in the matter and find they just don’t understand. You don’t want others to judge you or your addict.