Worn out. Powerless. Heartbroken. Alone. Cyndee Rae Lutz has walked this path. In this book, she weaves the painful account of her son's drug addiction with the healing strategies and spiritual wisdom that transformed her life--and can transform others, whether they're facing a crisis or wanting to change direction. Her fusion of powerful ideas, concrete steps, and pertinent examples both liberates and empowers the often-distraught family member or friend to reclaim their life. And it just might be the best thing they can do for their loved one. Often when they get better, their loved one gets better too.
Cyndee Rae Lutz has evolved with her life circumstances, including starting a successful magazine, Divorce in Denver—Moving Forward, following her divorce and becoming a yoga teacher as well as a Twelve Steps mentor in Al-Anon after her son became addicted to drugs. In When Your Heart Belongs to an Addict, her first book, she combines wisdom from these and other philosophies and spiritual practices with her harrowing yet transformative experience as the mother of an addicted son. The result is a practical set of tools to help others survive and thrive in the shadow of addiction.
As an author, speaker, and mentor, Cyndee helps people understand their inherent worth and reclaim their lives from societal expectations, codependency, and the effects of a loved one’s addiction or challenging circumstances. She is a compassionate, approachable resource, and her desire to guide individuals toward their better selves drives both her personal and professional endeavors.
In her free time, Cyndee logs miles upon miles in her walking shoes—often accompanied by her standard poodles—and practices yoga and meditation. She lives with her husband in Centennial, Colo.
As a parent, this was the hardest part for me. I simply could not comprehend how little my son thought of himself - or why would he continue to harm himself? I wanted him to believe in his worth so badly, I kept trying to give it (his worth) to him, but it didn't work. I learned that you can't give someone their worth. You can guide them, teach them, love them, and believe in them, but you cannot give them their worth. They must find it for themselves.
When Your Heart Belongs to an Addict: A Healing Perspective
As one who loves an addict, you may often find their lack of self-worth even sadder than their actual use of drugs and alcohol. You cannot comprehend how they could possibly think so little of themselves that they would bring so much pain and punishment into their life, especially when you know just how amazing they really are.