A young mother makes bad decisions that affect the welfare of her children. They are too young to understand why mommy behaves the way that she does. All they know is that nothing in their life is constant except disappointment. The parents do not feel remorse until their way of life is compromised. These conversations are all that the children have to keep the connection with their mother at the top of their little minds. It is like she toss them away, never to be seen by them again. You feel their anger, pain, and disbelief that this is what their life has become. Will they forgive her transgressions? Can they love her unconditionally again? Join me to find out.
J Elliott-Howard is a native of New York, New York. She holds a bachelor's degree in Business Administration. She has had a successful career in corporate America. A divorced mother of two adult children and a grandmother of three. Enjoys photography and water color painting. She had been known to always see her glass as half-full instead of empty. She had a very interesting way of relating to people and her peers always seem to gravitate to her idealism. She has always been told that she ought to be an author based on her delivery methods of good, bad or indifferent news. She always manages to keep herself and those around centered in thought and action. In addition to writing she runs a blog called Janice's Take On It at www.janiceelliotthoward.com. Her newest project is a podcast called "Thoughts in the Car" that can be found at soundcloud.com/jyhoward or in the iTunes store.
Reciprocation is something as human beings we expect but it is not always given. My grandbabies give love and yearn for it in return. Sure they get it from me but it is not mutual when it comes to others that they cherish. It is a bitter pill to swallow when you know that they deserve so much more than they are receiving for the ones closest to them.
Communications Through a Fence
As the tears begin to swell in each of their eyes, they ask in unison, “Can we come to your house?” The grandmother is silent. They call out to her three times before she speaks again. I interrupt immediately because how do you tell toddlers that you don’t want them in your presence. I shout from across the room as I can hear the whole interaction, “your grandmother is busy, as soon as she has time, she will come for you.” She piggybacks on my statement as she exclaims, “Yes, I am so busy right now, but when I get a couple of days off, I will come for you.” The tears are slowing running down their faces because of the disappointment with her response. I am ready for the conversation to end but I allow them to continue until the grandmother is ready to exit their chat.