It is a spiritually unhealthy state to be dependent on self and not on God. Loneliness has a "me" focus. Loneliness in a marriage, if not dealt with, leads to either spouse desperate to find a connection to ease the pain in their hearts. One of the causes of loneliness in a marriage comes from not being single before marriage. Lonely people do not know how to stand alone. I do not believe that people who take part in extra marital affairs (with the exception of a minority), actually plan to end up in sexual affairs. It seems to start out innocently enough. First, the spouse who feels wronged, finds an ear to vent to about their marriage, primarily because they have reached a stage where they feel that they are unable to communicate with their partner. Then the attraction subtly creeps in. Remember – subtlety is the hallmark of the devil.
Before long, he/she finds themselves spilling all the beans about their marriage and eventually this person becomes the "run to" person when anything goes wrong. Next thing you know, hugs, lending a shoulder to cry on, stroking/comforting touches are administered, an "innocent kiss" all lead to the intense physical sexual connection. The border has been crossed and instead of repenting and correcting the situation, they surrender to the "this feels right" deception of the enemy. The whole thing comes down to "I need to feel good/accepted/validated." It is no longer about your covenant with God and your spouse.
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